What is it about us human beings that we are unable to accept responsibility for our actions? Oscar shot Reeva and he does not want to take responsibility. “Oh it was an accident”; “oh I didn’t mean to pull the trigger. “ Zuma does not want to take responsibility for Nkandla; “Oh I didn’t ask for the upgrades”, “Oh I didn’t know about the upgrades”.
And there is Malema and the majority of black South Africans, “I am going to steal, kill and rape” and blame it on apartheid. I mean yes, apartheid was rough, but we are past that now and we have so many opportunities to better our lives.
And then the whining whites, Load shedding – ANC. Cold winter – ANC. Crime –ANC . Floods – ANC . Inflation – ANC. Fuel Prices – ANC. Apartheid - not our fault.
I received a bad performance appraisal at work, my initial reaction was: “oh it’s that boss of mine, he hates me”, then “oh I was depressed”. I went as far as blaming BEE, because I being black got the job by virtue of being black, so I’m clearly not competent but they still expect me to perform as if I was competent.
Oscar clearly killed Reeva, there is no question about that, the only grey areas are what his motive was when he shot Reeva. As much as I think Oscar is guilty there is a part of me that still considers his innocence. Sure if I were to be accused of premeditated murder I would do everything in my power to defend my innocence. In that sense I can understand why Oscar is going through the court case, but his way of doing it demonstrates his lack of remorse. He clearly does not want to take blame or responsibility for Reeva’s death,; after all “it’s not his fault, it was an accident”. I almost feel sorry for the guy but his arrogance is so alarming that you really can’t help but want to see him locked behind bars. Hypothetically, if I was to kill someone “accidentally”, yes I would claim my innocence but I would most certainly feel remorse, and show my willingness to make amends and be sincere about it. But Oscar on the other hand, shows no shame and takes no blame. Oscar would rather say it was an accident, than admit that he made a mistake in a moment of insanity. .
Zuma and his family benefited unduly from Nkandla, however he maintains his innocence. Instead of acknowledging his mistakes, apologizing for them and working towards fixing them, he refuses to take to responsibility. “He didn’t know about the upgrades” and “he didn’t ask for them” so he feels no guilt and no shame. You would think a president would think through his responses, but then again you wouldn’t really expect much from a president who doesn’t know what is going on in his own household.
Our brains are wired in such a way that we are inclined to protect our egos when we act wrongfully. We justify all our mistakes and then we make poor choices. One self-justification begets another and another and we end up with even bigger problems. If Oscar had owned up to his mistake and admitted guilt, and earnestly worked on correcting his mistake, he wouldn’t have ended up with this huge problem i.e Gerie Nel. Yes there would have been consequences, but when you are honest people appreciate it. Oscar has lost his credibility and people have lost their trust in him. Zuma like Oscar should own up to his mistakes and resign as president because his clearly not competent. And maybe I should consider resigning from my job and give way to the people that actually deserve it.