I wrote this a couple of years ago, but thought after reading the piece "Corporal Punishment V 20 by formandzen that I should re post this in solidarity with him!
Why are our children, in this country, so different from the way we were? And whose fault is it?
BOTTOM line? It’s yours, yes you looking confused at the PC screen, you the guilty parent. Parents today have no control over their children, and I’m not talking about the few good parents out there who still believe in discipline. I’m talking about the guilt ridden, spineless, scared excuse for parents that have found their way into our society.
In times gone past mom was at home, she spent time with the kids, helped them with homework. And if those kids decided to act up, she would beat the living crap out of them to, or just say “I’m telling your father when he gets home!” and that would be enough to have you building flats until around 6 thirty when the old man rocked up. Today it’s a little different…..oh who am I kidding, it’s a lot different. Both parents work, and therefore the kids get less face time and the parents feel guilty.
So the little bugger gets away with murder because mom and dad feel like he is losing out on them being around. Their guilt for both having to work, which is unfortunately the way it is for most households, leads to a lack of discipline in the home. Now if schools were still allowed to discipline then maybe some of the damage would get minimized. The fact remains that children speak to their parents anyway they feel like it.
It takes every ounce of self control I have when friends bring their unruly rug rats to my house, so much so, I have all but stopped inviting them.
When you ask the parents why the Devil chose to possess their “saintly child”, they look at you as if you are a moron and then gaze lovingly at the child who: is standing with his chocolate covered hands all over my white walls, holding another childs toy that he refuses to give back and continuously shouting NO! NO! NO! at another adult, who is desperately trying to stop him from sticking the stolen toy into a live plug socket. PHEW that was a mouthful.
It’s at about this point that I want to throttle the parents and explain to them that their child is the Anti-Christ, when all to soon I get reminded that the Devil is Omni-potent as another child comes screaming through the house, chasing my timid dog with a garden fork. I look around to try and get the mothers attention so she can control her dog killer, only to see her throw her head back and swallow her 7th tequila for the day.
The whole conversation for the day revolves around the kids, what they are doing, don’t do this! Don’t do that! This is very unfair on the people there without kids. I remember as a youngster, we would all play away from the adults, keep ourselves entertained. Every now and then one of the moms would check up on us, and if any of us were acting up, it didn’t matter if it was your mom or not, you got a whack! Then we would be asked, “Would anybody like some cool drink?” and in unison we would reply “yes please!” the parents could enjoy each other’s company and have adult conversations. The parents with children used to enjoy the fact their kids were playing with others, if not only to give them a short break to catch up with people the same age.
Children are precious, and we should all love, nurture and take care of them as our future. But your life should not be dictated to by a child, you are the parent and you should know better.
This is just a personal opinion and I look forward to all the comments, especially from the irate parents suddenly feeling guilty after reading this and looking for someone to vent on…..Bring it!