I currently find myself in a romantic depression, I am single and have been for a long time. I sit most days in front of my computer, writing down ideas for original screenplays, waiting to find "the one" story that is so romantic, it makes just about everyone that reads it, cry. I try to find inspiration by scouring the web looking for true stories that I can base my idea on.
Here comes the problem, everything nowadays is too modern, everything is done via BBM, texting, facebook etc, where has all the face to face love at first sight gone? I don't mean in a nightclub where the goal is to hook up with someone for the night. I mean when you walk in the street or in a supermarket and you see many people but all of a sudden, for a split second you look into the eyes of a complete stranger and there is that "spark" it is in the moment, you look at each other in the eyes and look away again, but as few steps on you look back and find the other person also, is looking back. That is some kind of magic, it creates a chemical reaction in your brain and body, that you both feel. Your heart beats faster and you feel quite ill. Many years ago that is how I met all of my ex-girlfriends, only a handfull, maybe 5. When that "spark" happened I would make a plan right there and then to let her know that I felt a connection by telling her to her face, and politely ask her where I can bump into her again, because I might not see her in the street again. I mean why should I wait for the perfect timing, I saw her now, and I liked her. In order for us to maybe date down the line we would have to first have coffee etc. This only happened 5 times in my life that the "spark" hit me. I would say about 1 in about 10 000+ girls would get this reaction from me, I was only interested in a girl if the spark reaction occurred.
Anyway, I realised that I was quite romantic, as I always wanted to have the"movie romance" feeling, the days when a boy would actively open a car door for a girl, be a true gentleman and dedicate himself to the one he loves. I found myself constantly thinking of new ideas to surprise her with romantic gestures, big and small. I was happy and alive.
Then came "The one", I was in the police and besides doing my normal work, I had a strange talent, I could stand motionless for up to 11 hours at a time, with small 30 second breaks in between, I used to be part of the SAPS stall at the Pretoria show, where I would stand like a mennequinn as part of the exhibit, this would really attract attention to the stall as everyone tried to make me move or react, very rarely happened, people told me jokes, tickled me and a lot of girls kissed me, but I would not react, until one day in the crowd of about 250 people I saw a girl who looked into my eyes, somehow I looked into her eyes and there it was, "the spark", instantly I was done, my heart started pounding and I could not hold my breathing at the usual 3 deep slow breaths a minute, I started shaking and was forced to stop or look very wierd. After regaining my composure I found her in the crowd and asked her if she felt what I felt and she replied, yes. However there was a problem, she said that she was engaged.
I was shocked at first, but then I realised, she could not be happy, or else the spark would not have happened. I told her, I know that things will work out for the best and that what is meant to be is meant to be. The last thing I said to her that day is, "one day, I will marry you", she laughed and we parted ways, no number, nothing.
As it turned out 6 months later I found out that her mother, was the PA to the station commander, at the police station I was transferred to. And guess who I bumped into at the photocopy machine while visiting her mother? Newly single and the spark happened again.
I planned a romantic engagment proposal so big it was in the YOU magazine. (https://www.facebook.com/pages/My-Romantic-Proposal/544444958940973) We were married a few months later. Things were good untill "mother in-law" problems took their toll on us and we were divorced. However, She has since remarried and has a beautiful boy. We still contact each other from time to time and are still good friends to this day, 11 years later.
I have been single ever since with a small short relationship here and there.
Nowadays everyone is so glued to their damn smartphones and blackberry's how the hell do you make eye contact, when your potential love of your life walks right past you, what happened? I really want the old school way of love at first sight to come back, also nowadays if I were to try walk up to you and say something, I will be mistaken for a mugger or worse, because you don't see me coming and all of a sudden, I am right there and will probably be "pepper sprayed" before I can tell you my humble intentions. So please single ladies, get your face out of the phone, stop looking down as you walk in the street, you might even live longer as your chances of being hit by a car, will diminish drastically. And your chances of meeting a love match who is not scared to tell you to your face, what they think of you, will increase.
Now to reveal what (or who) made me write this article. One of the other article contributors whom I only saw today, gave me the "spark" just by looking at the avatar. "DolceLucy" thank you for giving my heart a little jumpstart this morning, I know that you must have a boyfriend, fiance, husband or whatever. Just so you know, If I walked past you in the street or somewhere, I would have stopped you to tell you this. You are quite pretty, but more than that, I see something in your eyes that no-one else can. You want the "spark" and I mean the real one, the one that makes you feel ill. Of course, I may be wrong, but it will be the first time. If you ever find yourself single one day or want real romance let me know where I can bump into you.
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