I recently read an article on Parent24 about sleep training, and how it’s “worth it”.
We all raise our children differently, but when people tell me they are sleep training a child, because it’s better for the baby I want to explode. You are sleep training that child because YOU are tired, and not because your baby “isn’t getting enough sleep, and that’s bad for her health”.
Now, there are a lot of different opinions and studies on this subject but here is my opinion. It’s simple, no study behind it. When you let your child “cry it out”, you make them feel abandoned. It’s cruel and animalistic. Letting a child cry until they vomit, then you clean it up (without picking up your baby) and “reassure” them by patting them on the back you are abusing that child.
Like it or not, sleep training is cruel and just because some studies show that no damage to the brain is caused, does not mean you are not emotionally traumatizing that child.
Your child is in you womb for 9months and they hear and feel your heartbeat. Comfort and touch is what a baby thrives on, and if your child wakes up 20 times a night, there might be another health reason behind that.
I have NEVER let my child cry it out, and even though sleep deprivation can turn you into a monster, sleep training should not be a solution.
Again, just to reiterate :
I don’t care about the studies that show “there is no danger”. Just because danger is absent does not mean it's humane. It remains cruel!