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South Africa's abusive husband

14 December 2011, 19:30

DR R.Phiri: Welcome to another therapy session ladies, I’m your therapist DR R.Phiri. As most of you know we are celebrating 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children. We have a new member joining our therapy sessions today, everyone say hello to South Africa...I trust that you will make her feel at home. Good afternoon South Africa, care to tell us a bit about yourself...


South Africa: Hi my name is South Africa, firstly I was abused by my previous husband Apartheid, he was very possessive, controlling and never let me mingle with friends of a different race, and he deemed it as an act of crossing the White line. A mere stalking glimpse of me outside the line’s perimeter and all hell broke loose. The devil’s hand delivered beating after beating each night...with time my body became accustomed to the routine. Strange enough the very same hand angelically massaged my pain and sorrows. Blinded by love – I hid last night’s drama behind dark glasses...outsiders knew what was happening – I answered their interrogative concerns with times reinforcing equivocations with a smile. A different beating continued with each beating...the beating inside me gave me a sense of hope.


DR R.Phiri: “Cry the beloved country” – you going to have us all in tears. At what point did you pursue that beating hope inside?


South Africa: In May 2009 I married my new husband who filled the abyss of my heart with promises of a better life. Our love was like a fairy tale; that beating inside had hopes of this new chapter coming to a happy ending.


DR R.Phiri: So you basically seeking therapy for the abused inflicted in your previous marriage? Uhm...MRS Maharaj I believe you lost... Arms deal therapy is next door, next to the oops we screwed therapy classes. Sorry South Africa...where were we?


MRS Maharaj: I’m actually here on behalf of my husband, his getting abused by the media.


DR R.Phiri: MRS Maharaj what parts of 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children don’t you understand? 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women, WOMEN, WOMEN, WOMEN!!! Perhaps if I secretly deposited the word into your account you would get it. Or try dressing him in a skirt and passing him off as an Indian woman with a beard, maybe that would help. Sorry for that South Africa...Indians usually don’t behaviour in this manner; except for a handful in parliament or those with political ties. This erratic behaviour started during an outbreak of Shaik- titis, doctors are still trying to narrow down the origin of the disease. So do you need therapy to come to terms with the abuse from your previous marriage?


South Africa: I am living the past in the past...the problem is that history is repeating itself... and smearing some chapters of my fairy tale...the end is now too blur to read.


DR R.Phiri: Since I’m a genius with a validated medical qualification straight off the black market, I am able to ascertain that you are being abused in your current marriage. Your fairy tale ending may seem somewhat blur, but remember you are the author of your life, so to some oracle extent you know how this fairy tale will end. By the way what is your husband’s name and to what extent have you been abused?  


South Africa: He goes by the initials A.N.C...Can’t disclose his name, his lawyers issued me with a ridiculous legal document that prohibits me to speak about him. But between me and you he abused me severely; it started off with broken and empty promises, which escalated to punches to further infringements on my human rights. There was a time where I was forced to use an open toilet – since he kicked me out of the house. He used me, now that he got what he wants I’m just merely a shadow – just a part of his existence with no definite use. His even worse than my previous husband…


DR R.Phiri: Are you going to continue letting history become your present?


South Africa: I wish I could get out of this relationship…I have been saying this for quite sometime, but never found the courage to take that stepping stone…I have heard of better man out there, I guess loyalty to the marriage holds me back.


DR R.Phiri: Even with my validated medical qualification straight off the black market and 6 seasons of Gray’s anatomy which make me a highly qualified therapist, I am unfortunately unable to help you. Don’t let an abusive hand write your book of life – for stories will always be one sided; drafted to control your character –  once the ink has dried; what’s written can’t be changed. If you stay any longer that hopeful beat will inevitably subside.

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