The airwaves, newspapers and magazines have yet again been filled with the shocking, disgraceful and savage rape and murder of two innocent, three-year-olds. Is this progression? People seem to think that South Africa is a wonderful example to the rest of the world - really?
South Africa is nothing more than a “new” nation of rot and disintegration of the very worst kind! If the city of Birmingham in England has been singled out as “one of the worst places to grow up in the developed world,” what chance do South Africa’s children have?
What are the root causes of children’s problems in the world today? Hollowed out and splinter families, where the relationship between mother and father has broken down or never existed in the first place.
The problems exposed in child abuse scandals were being deepened by an apparent national obsession with ‘pussyfooting around’ and ‘making excuses’ for bad parents. At the root of wider social problems lies the alienation of many children from their natural father. These children lack more than money; they lack parents – a mother and a father - who take responsibility for seeing them raised well. It’s this lack of accountability which costs them.
Children suffer because they are not given clear rules or boundaries; they have no safety or security at home, and little understanding of the difference between right and wrong behaviour because there’s no responsible mother or father to set examples for them.
Children are abused/raped/murdered/neglected because their biological parents are/were alienated from one another and the “new man in the house” – often the latest in a succession of men – is normally, violent, drunk, on drugs or resentful. Yet, the key culprits behind this inevitable process of social breakdown are the intellectual, legal and political classes which cause it to take place by “lovingly” introducing and embracing “freedom-to-do-as-you-please” into an already fragile system.
Warnings about the lethal impact of family breakdown have been made since the early 1990s. Not only have they been ignored, but those responsible for this trend merely encourage it to accelerate by calling everyone and anyone racist or by blaming Apartheid, should their opinions differ from that of the government. Therefore, this current trend – unless drastically and dramatically altered – will continue to accelerate.
There is mass fatherlessness in this country because “lone” mothers are provided for by Welfare Grants and cohabitation has become “respectable” even though there’s a huge breakdown once children come along.
The “freedom-to-do-as-you-please” belief has taken hold that fathers are dispensable and that it’s every woman’s right to bring a child into the world by whatever means, without its father on board. Social scientists dismiss the catastrophic effect of family breakdown.
Sperm banks do great business; fertility specialists create “people” in test tubes and society reckons it’s okay for a child to be raised by either two mothers or two fathers and people hold the view, nowadays, that no lifestyle is to be judged by anyone! Sex “education” and condom-use isn’t working, it’s merely accelerating the problem. No one is allowed to say that marriage between a loving, devoted, male/female couple is right and that it’s the best way to raise and safeguard children (and women). We are, however, permitted to say that “…no lifestyle should be judged better or worse than any other…” In other words, the family breakdown and destruction is the outcome of a profound cultural shift, led from the top and causing enormous damage in every social class, but whose most crumbling effects are felt most severely at the bottom of the social heap and tragically by babies and young children.
The keepers of the cultural monopoly – politicians, lawyers, clerics, university professors, journalists, charity heads, public figures, educators of every stripe – should say loud and clear not just that marriage is good but that lifestyle “choice” is dishonourable and that broken families are a calamity best avoided!
Say loud and clear that elective fatherlessness is wrong! It is a human tragedy and a social scar, as can be seen in the world around us, and which is tragically felt by millions of scarred children within South Africa. Are we to be seen as a world-class African city? Should we be a proud nation? We could be, if the “keepers” make some profound cultural shifts. Have we come to the point where we need licenses before we can have children? To all the other lists of licenses we’re supposed to have, do we now add “Breeding License” to the list?
The willed splinter of family life has not just resulted in rotten outcomes for children, more abuse and neglect, more education failure and unemployment, more crime, more ill-health and all the rest of it but, worse still, the wounds it inflicts have caused its victims to project that rage and pain onto the world around them.
On top of all this, the radical dis-empowerment inflicted by an education system which has replaced knowledge with propaganda, truth with opinion and the ability to think, and you begin to understand why South Africa is not a world-class African city but a world-class, disgrace!
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