THERE IS NO BETTER TIME THAN NOW!
“I decided to write this because its been on my mind for a very long time and I think now is the right time for people to hear it. This is something I need to get off my chest and if you can spread this around please do, I want as many South Africans to read this. I might not politically correct or have the best ways of saying things, but this all comes from love., I am not looking to have debate with anyone my only hope is that this can at least change one persons mind set.”
Thursday 5th December, there was just something about that day that was not sitting right with me, I was feeling very strange the whole day, very emotional at some points of the day I had to hold back tears and I didn’t even know the reason why!
That night lying in my bed I received a message from a Friend telling me she thinks Mandela had passed, I got up straight away and turned the TV to the news channel and there is was, Jacob Zuma breaking the news that the world’s most loved and respected man ( other than Jesus of coarse ) had died.
I climbed back in my bed and tried to fall asleep which was obviously not going to happened, I started by praying for Madiba’s soul and for our beloved country. I wont lie I was also tossing and turning waiting for the looming “nag van lang messe “sounds silly right, but as a white South African it has been on all of our minds, is this really going to happen or are we safe?
Friday morning Lying in my bed going through my phone, news24, then facebook then twitter it became very clear that Madiba’s passing has reached the world and things will never be the same again.
In the three and a half years I have been with my fiancé I have never seen him cry, Friday 5th December was the first time, it took my a little by surprise but if you knew Chris who would know the deep love he has for South Africa and for each and every person in this country. It was a very sad morning in our house tears from when we woke up and all the way to work, we couldn’t even listen to radio. I felt like South Africa had lost its sparkle, in my eyes Nelson Mandela WAS South Africa.
I went outside and I saw Solly my gardener, as soon as I saw him I just burst into tears, loosing Madiba was a much bigger deal to black South Africans than it was to me and I needed hi, to know that I understood his pain. We had a bit of a chat and Solly said to me that we need remember what we fought for and what Madiba stood for, love, forgiveness and peace, we ended it with just holding each other crying.. not even a day had passed and I already felt closer to my country and the people in it.
I cant even begin to tell you the love I have for my country I AM AN AFRICAN, I might have white skin and speak English but I am an African and I will NEVER leave this country this is my home, my sons home and where I have grown up and became the person I am today. My son as an English kid has two best friends an Afrikaaner. and a black South African, 10-15 years ago he would never have had that opportunity, they are the tree most unlikely bunch of friends and yet they have been able to break, language, cultural and racial barriers and they are only 5! Their friendship would never have been possible if it weren’t for Nelson Mandela I will forever be grateful to him for this, my son see’s no colour he see’s people, money can never buy that.
Not only do I have a love for my country ,but especially for the people in it, I have a special place in my heart for rural, township Africans, the old Gogos, the domestic workers and single mothers living in the hard conditions of the township. My heart breaks for them especially for the woman and the kids, I cant even imaging the hard life they have and the things they have seen and experienced, in my eyes they are the strongest people I know and I will do what ever I can for as long as I can to help them where ever it is possible. I have such a love for them and I wish I were able to show them that not all white South Africans are racist and that we do care and we do see what you go through on an everyday basis. I want to fight for YOU to have a better quality of life not for me!
My blood boils when I read some of the status’s on social media, statuses from ignorant, dumb, small minded, delusional South Afircan’s who are happy with the passing of Neslon Mandela or who not see the magnitude of what he has done for them, these are the type of people who make it hard for people like me to become close the other black South Africans and for us to truly bridge the divide, YOU are the people who are bringing this country down, spreading hate and lies! Have we not all suffered enough?
Not only is it the few ignorant white South Africans but the Black South Africans also have a few bad apples, pulling the race card as soon as the opportunity presents itself, I am sorry but I am no racist and I do not appreciate being called one, we might not always agree on everything or see eye to eye but we cant keep pulling the race card, every time there is a disagreement between a white a and a black! I was lucky enough not the experience Apartheid I remember nothing about apartheid but I am still being held accountable for something I had no control over as I child? I an mot saying we should just forget but we need to move on in order for this country to grow in peace.
We have the most amazing country in the WORLD, we have so much to offer, we have culture, we have the most beautiful and magnificent natural wonders. We have the ocean, dessert, bush, concrete we are a world in one country and yet we sit by and let the bad apples spread, never reaching our full potential!
If you do not want to be here then LEAVE, like the rest of them! EXPATS, I have to hold myself back from saying what I really feel when it comes to South Africans ( I cant even call them that) when they leave the country and sit on the other side of the world behind their computers spewing the biggest load of nonsense I have ever heard, they are reading articles on the internet writing by people they don’t even know and using what they say to form their judgments and statements about our country when they are not even here to see it for themselves because they were to cowardly to stay!
They are the ones who make the rest of the world scared about South Africa. Saying things like they are glad they got out in time, the race war is about the happen. SHUT UP!!! You are not here; you do not see with your own eyes what is really going in in this country. You do not see the love that the people have for each other; you do not see how the people have grown closer since Thursday and how we are standing together as one!! You decided to leave so you have lost the right to comment about OUR beautiful country, we only want people in this country who are willing to fight for the rights of all human beings black, white, yellow, purple or blue.
My heart is still very sad, thinking to myself who is South Africa without Neslon Mandela? The only reason the rest of the world took us seriously was because of the amazing human being and now he is gone? We have no one to look up to anymore or strive to be like in this country? Who do we aspire to now? Well let me tell you, we aspire to ourselves, we are the only ones left who will be able to make a difference, we cant rely on our government its up to us!
We have the chance to stand up and be the example that Neslon Mandela was, things might not be perfect and might never be perfect. But we are the ones who need to do something about it, let the negative people say what they want to say but WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE, Nelson Mandela was one person and he was able to set South Africa free, imagine what we can all do together?
His message was the same message Jesus had for us, a message of Love, Forgiveness and Peace.
Its time to truly put the past behind us as difficult as it may be and we stand together, for a better quality of life, a better standard of living, a better education system, a government who wants the best not only for themselves but for all the citizens of this country.
Its time to stop letting other people get in the way of reconciliation and reconstruction, we need to stop being scared to stand up for each other, stop being scared to stand together as one and DEMAND a better life for all!
Its time to lead our country to greatness! Lets stop looking for reasons to hate each other but rather look for reasons to love each other.
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