30 minutes before the wedding the meltdown happens – not my own wedding I might add, just a normal run of the mill Saturday wedding including… the tantrum. (Said in deep ominous voice) Now only a woman can understand this or has lived this. The tantrum is something that all men fear and even the most fearless and confident woman will succumb too. Basically, you put on an outfit that you wore two weeks ago and looked fantastic in, only now, you look terrible and fat. So much so that, “Everyone will be looking at you and commenting how huge and disgustingly obese you look.” Whilst in the midst of chaos your loved one looks on desperately cooing sweet nothings of how great you look and how beautiful you are. All these compliments, obviously, are being tossed out of our minds faster than Miley threw her reputation. Bear in mind this is the same loved one, that, whilst watching the bachelor you WILL complain to saying, ’why don’t you ever say romantic stuff like that to me?!’ he will, wisely, keep his frustration to himself.
Now I know all men are shaking their heads in wonder and frustration and all women are nodding in agreement. I used to think that I was alone in the outfit tantrum department. It seems. I am not. A lunch date the other day with girlfriends brought this very strange phenomenon to light. One day we can leave the house, heads held high and praising our curves (making Marilyn proud, is what I like to call that) and the next I can leave the house feeling like Khulubuse Zuma. Turns out, other women feel this too. My one friend happens to look just like a sports illustrated model and says that she, too, has suffered from the wrath of the clothing tantrum. It fears no one and can strike at any moment!
When I see woman I don’t see short legs, fat tummies, big arms or funny noses. I see Moms, career woman and beauty. I know that they all have struggles and loved ones that depend on their warmth, comfort and strength. Now days we have women running companies whilst still being amazing Mothers. The times have changed, women have changed and yet, we still hold such small opinions of ourselves. Image is something that we have not moved forward with at all. Now, I can blame the magazines and the stick thin celebrities. But that’s too easy. When did loving ourselves become so hard? I can find a spider in the bathroom, scream, make my boyfriend rescue it- but not kill it. No. don’t kill the spider because it has a family waiting for it and isn’t that bad really, just get it out my face. Loving is in our DNA it is what we do!!! But not for ourselves… no, that’s asking too much.
So next time you are on the floor amidst a chaos of chucked clothes. Take a second to realise how silly you are being. (Hard, I know) If we can see so much beauty in others then surely, there has to be some in you. Really now, like I said we are WOMEN. We are incredible and let’s face it; the world would be an ugly place without us. So get your Marilyn Monroe walk on and smile. Confidence and a smile are really all one needs… and a good push up bra, always!
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