Lately I’ve been worrying about my life, and everything else
that concerns me. My career, my growth and if I am where I should be, I had it
all planned out, I was going to make it, everything was supposed to be in
order, the house that I wanted, the car that I thought I would get, well you
know all those materialistic things you think you will get, or can get, well
that’s how I pictured my life as a kid.
But that is not how
it’s happening and that worried me, so much so that I was depressed, because it
just didn’t make sense why I wasn’t getting what I had planned, why I wasn’t
where I had planned. I had to look at my life, I had to look at the choices I
had made and then I saw, I am where I am because of the choices that I have
made, for me to change where I want to be tomorrow I need to make better
I revisited my yesterday, had a look at my past and leant
that this is what I had lacked:
Yes we’ve heard it all before over and over again, what you
sow is what you will reap, we tend not to believe this until we get old and the
older I get the more I realise the mistakes that I have made, and can I undo
them? Unfortunately not. I can’t make right the wrongs of yesterday, but I can
make right tomorrow by choosing to do what will be good for me so I don’t have
The choices that we make have consequences unfortunately,
and some of the consequences can never be prayed, fasted or blamed away, they
are there to remind you every day that you screwed up, that you could have made
a better choice, that you could have done something better.
I look at those choices every day and say damn, I could have
done better, I could have chosen better, oh but when you are young and naïve
all that you do can be justified but when you are old and wise you wish someone
could have given you a smack in the head when you thought you had it all
together, when you thought you were the ish, when you thought you were going to
be young forever.
I sometimes envy people who made all the right choices at
the right time, but I envy them to a certain limit, because each day I grow and
had I not made the choices that I had made, good or bad I would not be where I
am, a sense of gratitude always arises in me. I am where I need to be, but
tomorrow I plan to be in an even better place.
But here’s something we tend to take for granted, planning,
oh we think life will just happened. Here’s some news flash, life just doesn’t
happen, you need to sit down and plan reasonably. What makes people fail
sometimes is not the lack of planning, but the plans that they have are just
not realistic enough, when you jot down a plan, be realistic, be reasonable.
Don’t plan to be the
next billionaire in 5 years’ time and you don’t even have a savings account, be
realistic. I’m not saying there’s something wrong in being hopeful, but when
planning always remember where you are and if where you want to be is realistic
Set a time frame for your planning, how long it will take
you to get where you need to go, again I emphasize, be realistic, know the
difference between short term and long term goals. Jot it down, I know it
sounds a lot if you don’t like writing, but what do you have to lose, it’s your
future that you are planning. Yes there
will be ups and downs, things won’t always go your way, plan anyways have a
time frame and push towards something.
I’ve seen a lot of people walking away from their dreams,
because they feel it’s just not happening for them, they start comparing
themselves to other people who have achieved the same goal at a shorter period,
I believe when it’s your turn to shine, it will be your turn to shine.
Just don’t give up on your hearts longing, pursue it, chase
it till you are breathless, and search for it until you can find it. Forget
what everyone else is getting, this is about you, you chasing your dreams, you
finding your calling, you realising your potential and you living your life to
the best that you can live . Just don’t give up.
Live your life
Finally just live your life. I’ve had so many people telling
me how to do life, how to be me. When I
was young I use to listen, I used to do life the way people expected me to do
life. But I got old, I learnt life is not about living of on someone else’s
truth, it’s about finding your own truth and living that truth, stop allowing
people to dictate your life, as cliché as this will sound you have only this
one life and if you going to live it to please people than that’s just a
tragic, you just wasted an amazing life, a life that could have been well
lived, a life that is yours.</p><p>So search within yourself, find
your strength and follow your dreams, you might not succeed at first attempt,
but just don’t give up until you succeed.