It starts with the stupid mentality that ladies must preen themselves and be beauties..... and wait for that prince who's gonna be the ruler of her soul and do everything for her. Sweep her off her feet..... really? Only at Disney. And only to kindergarten kids.
The same mentality dissuades women from taking careers that seem more masculine - such as driving a train, construction, motor mechanic, and teaching mathematics.
Sadly, in this day and age nearly all people subscribe to that notion... and it becomes terrible when ladies realize that it's all a fairy tale. At forty years of age, and still waiting for your knight in shining armour? It is belief in the supernatural, and the last time I checked, it was akin to questionable mental health. Do we as women really need constant beliefs that drag us down so? Women need to get real. Gender barriers must be broken for good - not only mentally, and on government policy - but in women' behaviour as well. For, truly speaking, there is nothing a lady can't do.
I've always advocated for ladies to do everything for themselves - change that light bulb, mow the lawn, paint your door, change that faulty plug. You drive a car? Change your tyre. Afraid of being labelled queer? You are independent. Mostly, you are clever. You know what needs to be done, and you do it. That's power. If we can be trusted to carry out complicated activities such as driving a car, nursing people, managing a company - then why can't we do the little stuff for ourselves instead of waiting for a man to come around and do it for us? Isn't it giving the so-called kings of our castles permission to view us as infantile, immature, helpless, clueless - and reliant on a man? Isn't it encouraging them to abuse us... because they know without them we can't do anything?
Many women in their education phase and corporate careers handle complex exercises, be they in mathematics, chemistry, architecture, medicine. It always break my heart that such clever women, so advanced than men, see themselves as inadequate and therefore should look to someone inferior to perform menial tasks for them. Granted, men growing up are bombarded with the message that they are the fixer of all things, jacks of all trades, pillar of the house. But is that relevant when all these are done with the aim of viewing women as mere helpless objects?
Ladies, stop being your own catalyst in your oppression. Reclaim your power and influence!