When man was made, God stood back and said “I can do a better job!” and then made women.
I really do believe that women are gifts from God and this month’s opinion piece is for all the women in the world, especially for all the women who have not only been a part of my life but who have directly helped to mould me and build me into the man I am today.
They say your first female relationship is with your mother and I was and still am blessed to have had a strong loving mom. She taught me that we were all equal and that I had to stand up for myself and when in doubt to just “sock him one!” I learnt that love was an action and not just an overused meaningless word. She told me it was okay to cry and she would hold me and tell me to “get it all out of my system”. I knew this remarkable woman was always in my corner no matter what I did or didn’t do. As long as she knew the truth, right or wrong she would back me and fight for me to the end. She taught me that women were to be respected and advised me that the most important thing to look for in a women was as she said, “as long as she is a good mother Gavy, nothing else matters.”
The foundation was set and looking back I realize that my life has been blessed with amazing women who have come into my life. Some have been with me from the start, some have stayed a few years and moved on, and some have just made guest appearances, enough to touch my life and teach me a lesson or just show me to myself. Each one leaving an indelible print on my character and dare I say success. Looking back I recall them all and acknowledge what they taught and gave me.
You see it was a woman who taught me how to love and be loved. A young woman who broke my heart at 16 causing me to feel true heart-break and the feeling that it was all over and thinking “I’ll never love again, she was the one!”
6 months later I was, “loving”, again stronger and wiser. I learnt that hurt heals and broken hearts mend. Most of my teachers at school were women and they schooled me, disciplined me and some even found me “charming”. I learnt about a woman’s body and how to treat it from one of the kindest woman in the world.
The lessons and gifts came thick and fast and women taught me about commitment, dedication, trust and loyalty. I learnt from women to look for the good in people because what you seek you will find; that might wasn’t always right; to love without condition; that being my authentic self was the turn on and that kindness and understanding were strength not a weakness.
Women taught me; that friendships could be platonic; that dedication equalled success. They showed me how to love, laugh and made me cry. I learnt respect, tenderness, integrity and trust. It was from women I learnt how to hug, to cuddle and to kiss. Paraphrasing and improving Clark Gable; When I was a boy I tried to make love like a man, when I was a man I tried to make love like a boy, it wasn’t until I met a real women that I learnt to make love like a lover.
I learnt that women are not much different to men they love to laugh, have a good time, that they are spontaneous and they are naughtier than men.
There were women who lied to me, betrayed and hurt me, broke my heart and one in particular who could unlock my buttons and pi$$ me off so bad that I would have nuclear melt downs. They have boosted my ego and built my self-worth; each lesson made me stronger and wiser I wouldn’t go back and change a thing.
Women also allowed me to break their hearts, and I witnessed first-hand the pain and anger I could cause when I was less than a real man. To them I again apologise and I thank you for showing me the way.
From aunts, to grannies, other people’s mothers, friends’ sisters, family friends, girlfriends, work colleagues, associates, strangers and then some, I THANK YOU truly each and every one.
A woman even gave me my start in the speaking world and another opened the flood gates for my career. Today my company is run by one and my daily life is run by another.
So in short I love women. I think you are the glue that holds this mad world together. I love you short or tall, thin (not so much), medium or fat (Yes! “Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round!”). I love you when you talk and babble, I love you when you don’t. I love you when you are intellectual or sociable or just fun. I like you older, middle-aged or young (my daughters are still teaching me and showing me how to be a better man and I have now learnt and felt unconditional love.) I think you are all and have all been a gift from God and you should be protected, honoured and loved.
It’s Time! It’s time for women to take their rightful place in this country and all aspects of it. Its time you started putting pressure on men to step up and do what is right. Women are powerful beyond belief and it is time you recognize that and started using your power. Every crime committed in this country is a crime against someone’s daughter, sister, mother, aunt or grandmother and it’s time women said enough.
I believe that any woman who wants to be equal to a man has no ambition. Men have systematically stuffed up this world since anyone can remember. It has been and always will be about ego and who has got the biggest …. If one group thinks the other has a bigger …. then let’s bomb them. And have you noticed how all of the bullets and bombs are shaped like …..? We need more oestrogens in business and politics today. We have far too much testosterone. Women should make policy about women and men must butt out and stop making laws related to women and their bodies.
Hey buddy, until you have bonded, nourished, grown and pushed a little human or two into the world through a channel the size of your IQ, until you stick around and feed, bond, love, educate and provide for it it’s whole childhood then you can open your – mister wham, bam, run away Ma ’m mouth. Then and only then can you have a say you sanctimonious hypocrite! Women’s issues should be discussed and solved by women with consultation of real men not the other way around. I feel better now!
Ladies, women, and girls you rock! I love and admire you all and I think having a day to celebrate your wonderfulness is just plain not enough. Have a fantastic month ladies and remember your power and your purpose. To all the girls who have loved me before, to all who have come and gone but especially to those still making my life a blessed journey to you one and all I give thanks to God. She must really like me!
Have a great Woman’s day