Would you help a loved one that was in terminal pain out?
I recently have been witness to a family member who is suffering from Parkinson’s disease; this is a disease that takes away your dignity, your sanity and you as the person suffering from the disease as a hole, your hole personality eventually disappears, as your body starts to shut down on its self , this can also be a painful experience for the patient , as this goes along with organ failure, dementia also sets in and sadly you the patient won’t know if you are here nor there .
Looking at this family member fading away it reminded me of the time my own father died of lung cancer, this was for him as a patient I suppose just as bad, because he had the same symptoms of fading away ,over a period of a year. The major difference was the amount of pain that he had during that year leading up his death the pain never dissipated and only got stronger , I remember my father use to be this big strong man who never smoked , ate healthy he was slightly. Over weight before he got sick, the day he died I would estimate his skin and bones that were left after the cancer got to him weighed maybe 25 kg.
When someone around you is terminal and suffering like that the lasting effect that the suffering has on family members is something else, I now feel it again with my family member with the Parkinson’s.
It is a empty feeling, it is a feeling of total helplessness, it’s not something I wish on my worst enemy yet this is part of life like being born is part of life
This got me thinking to why we as a society feel it is ok to let our loved ones suffer like that , I mean is there no case for dare I say it euthanasia, lots of folks I know would say , well would you murder you mother, well there is no simple answer to my own question , but if my mother asked me to help her in that way , I probably would not be able to deny her .
Would I be the person that pulled the plug, the answer would probably be no way, so where does this leave me in my own argument.
If it was done like we do for our pets would I allow it , I probably would. Where do you stand on this issue? Have you had similar experiences of people suffering .