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The truth
23/05/2008 09:42
I agree that ones weight should be looked after, but most people out there eat out of sheer gluttony. Yes, some do have genetic problems, but the majority is self-inflcited, this is pure greed They will have anything that is presented to them. The majority of SA women are not overweight because they eat too much, it is because they are lazy and unproductive, and they use fatty foods as their excuse.Men use food as the anti-dote from the constant whinegeing they have put up with!! - Marc |
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Im sorry
23/05/2008 10:13
But i dont totally agree with you Colleen. I watch what i eat and get in regular exersize.
I do this not just for me, but for my girlfriend too. I expect her to do the same. I have many friends who got married, or engaged and their "better halfs" just let go. Didnt care anymore. Im sorry. Unacceptable. I do love her for who she is. But how would i stay attracted to her in that situation? So i have to remind and motivate her all the time..... - Vic |
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So true
23/05/2008 10:14
The big joke is these men that make these comments are 99% of the time absolutely nothing to look at, yet the expect this high level from women. Ignore them. They like kindergarten boys that do things for a reaction. - Sarah |
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Truth hurts
23/05/2008 10:17
While some people do have genetics to blame, the majority don't. Have to agree with Marc, most people are overweight out of sheer laziness and extreme eating. I like eating healthy and can say no to burgers, coke, cake, chocolate, liquorice all sorts etc. Fries, I don't try to resist. But I have been scorned for the amount I can eat...without putting on weight...sorry, lucky me I guess! - Anoerixic-look-a-like |
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Never going to get it right.
23/05/2008 10:20
The reality is that people are often cruel - they pick on the weak, whether overweight, underweight, short, have glasses etc. You would think that they would grow out of their cruel streak once they move from school into the working world, but no - the cruelty continues. I think it might be a way of deflecting from their own inadequate little lives. I love working for myself, I have no office politics or bullying. - Sarah |
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The truth Marc?
23/05/2008 10:21
Overweight people can be beutifull while as snotty people like you can never be. Live and let live I say. See the person on the inside and not the outside. If people judged you on how you look Marc, you will never get any....lol. Men assume its their right to make rude remarks as they forever consider themselves perfect. Men here is a bit of advise for you. Do you know that most women prefer to be single, and not becuase they have to be. The men today are nothing to write home about. - Jessie |
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Awww.. Come on Colleen
23/05/2008 10:22
Don't be so harsh on men its Friday.You know there are guys out there who love a little plump.There are even some that feed their wives and girlfriends continously in order for them to get uber large and find it really sexy,they're called "feeders" - psycobabble |
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It's not fair
23/05/2008 10:25
that only women as subjected to this. Guys say they love women who can eat, but immediately when you gain weight you become unattractive.In the black culture, a round woman is considered healthy, whereas a skinny one is considered unhappy & unhealthy. And don't forget our beautiful behinds. They are meant to be round, and they stand-out.What do we do then? It's about self love, and how much I eat should be no one's business, as long I'm happy about it. Let's stop being shallow. - NM |
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Harassment?
23/05/2008 10:34
Any comment pertaining to a personal issue, whether it be weight or say, hairstyle, has no place in the work environment. You wouldn't go around telling somebody with a disfigured face that they should consider plastic surgery. Leave people alone, if they want to eat, let them. Nothing to do with you. - Petra |
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True
23/05/2008 10:36
The quality of men these days in the looks department that make these scathing comments, really aren't anything to write home about. I have a friend who is overweight and she is the best programmer in the office. - Jen |
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Weight..
23/05/2008 10:36
I agree with you Colleen. Noone has the right to make hurtful remarks to others about their weight. But I agree with Marc as well - many people are inactive and do not eat to suit their lifestyles. However - noone has the right to judge another person.There are many who try to lose weight but never succeed. - Amazed |
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Same here
23/05/2008 10:38
We have a colleague who weighs 50 kg and for some reason the people comment about her eating. Freakin hell. She has a high metabolism. It's no one's business what she eats. - Emma |
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Yip, so true
23/05/2008 10:40
I wear a size 32, so I'm not fat, even if I don't qualify for the "stick insect of the year" awards Still, some guy hung out of his car at the shopping centre the other day to shout at me "You're so fat girl! Sies!" Now, unfortunately he drove off or I could have clobbered him with my hockey stick! On the other hand, me going on a diet is still going to be way cheaper than the plastic surgery he needs to become anything worth looking at! Cuz you can lose weight, but there's no losing ugly! - Bridget |
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Marc
23/05/2008 10:40
Marc, whilst you bitching, a woman is busy proving how incapable you are at your own job. Move a side boy. - S |
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Five small meals...
23/05/2008 10:42
We also have a smart alec in the office, who comments each time you put something to your mouth, which I might add are 5 small servings per day, includes fruit and raw vegies.
NB: He is a blob of note,,,,,,,so act deaf darling. - NED |
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reasonable
23/05/2008 10:43
one has to be reasonable...being to thin or fat is not good. - uber |
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Are they blind?
23/05/2008 10:51
I have often heard men, who look like they are about to give birth to triplets, remark on a woman's weight. Are they blind or is their mirror broken? Its funny how they expect us to be supermodels but they don't really deserve one. I suggest we all start making comments about their receding hairlines and kept reminding them to get hair plugs. - Karen |
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Lighten Up
23/05/2008 10:57
Chicks are faaaar too sensitive about stuff like this. That's why guys abuse them about it. If a guy is overweight and a girl had a go at him about it, 9 times out of 10 the guy will laugh it off and move on... not chicks though! - Bob |
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I eat six big meals a day...
23/05/2008 10:57
...but I'm also stronger and fitter that 90% of the people I know. People have made comments about the amount of food I eat, and I honestly don't care. People need to stop giving a damn about what other people say. On the other hand, proper diet and regular exercise won't kill anyone. - Sean |
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Fat is not lekker
23/05/2008 11:00
It is often an indicaton of one's lifestyle (the degree of one's fatness). Fat people are perceived to be lazy, slobby and greedy, and I think this perception rings true most of the time. That is not to say that skinny people are not lazy, etc. However, fat is unappealing on men and women. Women exacerbate this because their self esteem plummets and they exude their lack of confidence, also unappealing. - Eduardo |
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Yes, but
23/05/2008 11:03
I agree that people should look after themselves, staying fit and eating healthy not only keeps the body trim, but its also HEALTHY. But the comment the man in question made had nothing to do with staying healthy. What the cousin should have done is give a great comeback..like "well eating sure beats having sex with guys that look like you." Think on your feet girls! People will treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you. - Chris |
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Re: Marc
23/05/2008 11:05
I take it you are single Marc... Heaven knows it would take a woman with the utmost patience and a heart of gold to put up with someone such as yourself. Only your mother could love you, and even then I wonder! - Lauren |
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Marc
23/05/2008 11:07
Maybe some can not handle the truth, the truth is, the majority of woman actually do have a healthy weight, but men?s judgement cloud their vision and they can?t see it. You have a false expectation of woman (all men), that we all should be Jodie Kid, Paris Hilton look a likes, and when in bed be as kinky, horny and trashy as the pornstars you watch. Well catch a wake up bro?! I get up every morning, dress sensibly, put make-up on,go to a full days work, eat very healthy, in the evening go to gym, come home do the washing, make dinner, take a quick shower, and then when I?m dead tired and want to go to bed, my dear ?frisky? non-tired (but tired of playing NFS on pc) husband, wants ravishing, sexy fun, with (which I have to add) I wish you would lose 10kg?s, it will make me so horny for you, you will look so sexy! Now that my dear Mark, I call arrogant from men?s point of view. Men make lousy jokes and degrade woman, say all woman whine, yada yada, but truth is over centuries you became so self involved in what YOU want, that all men forgot, woman are actually humans with needs too....We?re not here on earth to give sex whenever you want, be sexy when you want, be a showpiece to suite you! That is the reason for so many divorces and why woman prefer to live alone! Ga! - A woman! |
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Attractive
23/05/2008 11:12
Women are attractive while they look feminine. You lose that feminine look when too fat or too thin. However, I find amongst my friends that the guys generally take better care of themselves than their wives/girlfriends when it comes to exercise and eating right and the girls fluctuate. In the younger generation that seems to be something developing, from what I have seen. - MJ |
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Not always a 'condition'
23/05/2008 11:15
Some people have conditions that make it hard to lose weight, but when I see fat people scoffing chips and using the lift to go one floor, I lose all understanding. - Mj |
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Like yourself
23/05/2008 11:16
Be happy with who you are and make peace with your body. This way, no insensitive idiot will ever cause humiliation. You must only diet to improve health or because you yourself feel you need to change. STOP BEING SHEEP - we do not have to all look, act and dress the same! - MJS |
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Give as good as you get...
23/05/2008 11:19
Instead of taking offense and getting upset, why not reverse the tactic. If someone had asked why I'm eating again, my immediate response would be 'Because I'm depressed from having to look at your ugly mug all day'. Guaranteed you won't get those stupid comments again. Works well with mother-in-laws as well. ;-) - Sasha |
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Weight
23/05/2008 11:20
I am overweight not because of bad eating and lack of exercise but of medication i have to drink. I still do thirty minutes on my bike everyday. I have not have these comments but from my mother who actually told me one day "you will never get a man and get married if you keep looking at that". - Cynthia |
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I don't know which side to choose
23/05/2008 11:22
Both side speak some truth. I have a slow metabolism and are using chronic medicine, but have managed to loose 20 kg's since August last year and are now weighing 53 kg's. This I managed without exercise, but by having had the determination to do research on internet and seeing a dietician. Now I'm just eating right. So you see I do think there is no excuse for men and women to be over their weight limit just as there is no excuse from rude comments. - Afroupean |
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Stop complaining .....
23/05/2008 11:27
....about the remarks people make about your weight & rather use it as motivation to lose the weight & show everyone what you are made of.Fat is & will always be UNATTRACTIVE,no matter what anyone says.Make your choice!! - Stop moaning!! |
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@ Bob
23/05/2008 11:35
Chicks are "faaaaar too sensitive" to it because guys continually hammer them for it. It is cruel, insensitive and unnecessary far as I am conerned. What on earth kind of guy would want to hurt or humiliate someone for his own amusement? Good Lawd?:!?! - Colleen Figg |
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Issues
23/05/2008 11:36
Seems some women really have issues with their weight. If its a problem/issue do something about it if not don't be oversensitive about it. Funny as someone here said how picky people can be about the opposite sex when they themselves aren't something to look at at all and im talking about men and women. - H |
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You go girl
23/05/2008 11:38
Why are all the girls that are complaining about the guys insults say the guys making the comments are nothing to look at? If it was a good looking guy making the remark would it be acceptable to you?? Why not just ignore the idiots and carry on with your life. Old nursery school rhyme comes to mind : 'Sticks and stones can break my bones but names will never hurt me.' But agree with Marc, your body is sacred and you need to make an effort to maintain it in a healthy condition. - Not so thin |
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look around
23/05/2008 11:43
If somebody were to tell me I was fat I would feel bad but how can you blame all men when those twiggy models still grace our lives wherever we look. Sanity and charity begin at home with the backbone of good parents who teach us real values. TV teaches us anything but yet modern society uses this great time waster as a guide to life.Is it any wonder the family is disintegrating and humans are loosing the plot. Please get off the lets bash men wagon in doing so you give up responsibility. - green goblin |
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true that!
23/05/2008 11:44
I agree 100%. And judging at some of the comments above, most still believe it's right to tell other people how and what they must eat. That's for them and their doctors to decide, wise guy! Stop watching other people's eating habits and weight and mind your own business!!! - I agree |
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Re: eating again are we?
23/05/2008 11:52
First of all, its nobody's business what you eat or why you eat whatever it is that enjoy eating and secondly a woman with a nicely rounded figure is very appealing to me as long as such figure is not overly so. People who pass such comments should expect all the disrespect, disdain etc that they are tendering for without crying foul. - Dangerman |
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Laughable
23/05/2008 11:56
Quite honestly, I would rather eat 5 small meals a day and maintain a healthy weight and body image and even be above todays average body size, than someone who is afraid to put something to her lips for fear of humiliation or nasty comments made by others, I prefer to be a shapely woman and not a bag of bones and to all those nasty peeps out there who find it amusing to be derrogatory to a larger person male or female, go screw yourselves you probably all need a frontal labotomy ! - Panda |
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:(
23/05/2008 11:57
I'm not severely overweight, just a bit chubby. I'm constantly on some or other bloody diet. I'm so sick of being made to feel self-conscious. And the biggest culprit is my husband. I can't eat ANYTHING without immediately feeling guilty. God, I wish it would stop. - T |
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Shame...
23/05/2008 12:05
Feeling sorry for ourselves ladies? Nasty men! Would it make the world all better if it was a woman who told you to stop stuffing your face? Would it be better if the cruel and vicious remarks were made by women? Or do you girls just need some-one to blame and vent your anger on? - sias |
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You are so right
23/05/2008 12:05
Im tired of the way people treat woman. They insult everything from our weight to our intelligence to our ability to do our jobs or even to just look after ourselves, just because we are women. I feel like giving up sometimes. - E |
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I did not like being fat. . . .
23/05/2008 12:08
So I received this very good advice from somebody long long ago: Eat to live, don't live to eat. So I followed it. Whenever I feel the urge to indulge in food for whatever reason, I rather find something else to occupy my mind, hands & mounth with. Works like a charm. - TB |
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Dont they get it
23/05/2008 12:09
I work with men I'm the only lady in the office,they are all married their wives prepare breakfast in the morning,Im single and i dont hv tym to prepare breakfast for myself they always complain about me eating a lot and dat I'll get fat. I am even scared to go grab a sanguage at the canteen bcos their stupid remarks irritates me to bits...I so wish they can just stop, im even losing weight dis days...... - khokho |
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Unhealthy as smoking
23/05/2008 12:16
Being overweight causes as many health problems as smoking, yet we don't hesitate to tell friends, collegues and loved to stop or make snide remarks... These are deemed acceptable. Yet telling an overweight person (man or woman) that they should lose weight is frowned upon. Same thing to me. However, stupid or insulting comments are just that regardless of the cause or reason. Its not limited to just eating. - Me |
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If I can stay in shape, so can you
23/05/2008 12:16
People always envy models for their looks but never enquirer to what lengths they go to look good (I'm talking about healthy ones, not the drugged up, zero-eating ones).They gym regularly, watch what they eat,i.e. live a healthy lifestyle. Those that are constantly one a "diet" of some sort are on the wrong track right from the start. Having a healthy weight just reflects a healthy lifestyle, while an overweight persons image doesn't.They want help,but stuff their faces every 5 min with junk - M |
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Fatism
23/05/2008 12:21
I am guilty, as a boyfriend, of making an issue of my lady's weight/ what she eats. She is overweight and, like me, enjoys her food, I know it is insensitive and often regret the obvious pain it causes her, but i exercise and am terrified that this is only the start. As other posters have said, a full feminine figure is beautiful but push that fullness too far and the rolls and dimples begin to lose their appeal. This has absolutely no bearing on feelings of affection but rather attraction. - Oracle |
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Grow some skin...
23/05/2008 12:24
Many people make remarks about heavy men, but they stop once they get the feeling they are being ignored. If women could grow thicker skin together with the layers of fat they shouldn't feel so insulted when someone passes a remark. Learn a few comebacks and learn to laugh at yourself. Better still, check the commentators for some flaws of their own and lunge for the jugular when the time is right. I don't like my girls fat, but that doesn't give me the right to insult them...Me 122kg, 1,82m - Kenko |
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To all those women attacking Marc
23/05/2008 12:24
See, point proven. He makes an effort and you don't so now you have to get nasty. So who exactly discriminates against whom?I fully agree with Marc,if I can make the CONSIDERABLE effort of working out and eating right, so can women (unless you are mother and have really very little time to yourself) - M |
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@khokho
23/05/2008 12:30
You are single (children?) and have no time? I have a high-stress job, long hours, no maid, no gardner,nothing, I do everything myself AND I GYM 5 times a week! - M |
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