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Best of luck
09/10/2008 10:35
Thank you for your very brave letter!!! All the best for your future. May you find lots and lots of happiness! - KJ |
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I know what it feels like
09/10/2008 10:37
Hi Ani, I have been abused for most of my childhood by 3 different men in my family. Also was bulimic and had countless issues and problems. I am now married and in my 30's. You can move on but you can never forget. The trick is to accept what happened and become stronger for it. Getting therapy does help but not always. Become strong for yourself and succeed for yourself and life will be better, as it will never be perfect. - A friend |
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Absolutely Inspiring
09/10/2008 10:39
I just want to congradulate you for having the courage to write this letter. I know exactly how u feel, when I was 11 I had a similiar experience I told myself I would be fine when I grow but I'm not. I'm still living with it everyday. It's been 9 years since and regret not having told anyone, but I partially blamed myself for letting it happen. Your letter is of great comfort to me. Thank You. - Anon |
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Not your fault....
09/10/2008 10:40
You are a strong girl wena Ani, you should not blame yourself, a sick bastard took advantage of you, all the blame to the scumbag that molested you, Shame on the people that molested you my dear Ani, that?s the reason we should start castrating people that rape, this sick fellow touched where he was not suppose to touch at all and abused the innocent liitle 12 year old, somebody must castrate this bugger, child molesters are cowards,sies tog.if I was in Mpumalanga I would organise a mob justice against this fellow. - Kolobe |
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Lift that chin, Ani
09/10/2008 10:42
It takes so much courage to speak up. How could you have done something wrong? You were a child! It is a disgusting dirty disease of humans to do such things to children, and even worse for the parents to sweep it under the carpet, or act like it was the child's fault. We must all speak up like you did. Thank you! - HT |
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In the same boat
09/10/2008 10:43
Thank you for putting your story out there, as I do not have enough courage to do so myself. But I have learnt something, to actually talk about it helps. I am now engaged and getting married in 4months and boy sometimes it still haunts me and I still se his face. And worst of all my mothers too as she did nothing to protect me. I pray that those who are going through the same, that their parents will actually listen only if it means once. Hope you find the same luck and happiness as I have.
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well done
09/10/2008 10:46
i hope that this letter does bring you some form of closure from the horrors you have endured. best of luck to you and to your future - cuba |
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Thank you, Ani
09/10/2008 10:49
My heart goes out to you and anyone who suffers what you went through. But thank you for your words: I hope that this encourages more to speak out about such despicable acts! It is so very sad how many such stories there are, and how victims like you are left with broken lives. Let's not keep things like this quiet! Let's fight sick monsters like this who, I agree with Kolobe, deserve castration! - dh |
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Ditto and Good Luck
09/10/2008 10:53
You always think you are alone, then you read a letter like that and think: these are my words. Good for you and good luck. - A |
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Abuse
09/10/2008 10:56
Ani...you go girl!!!
You are so right with your current thinking & things will only improve!
Take the positive (now you must think I'm crazy), but yes...there are positives as well as negatives that come with abuse & use those positive & strong personality traits of yours to create an awesome life for yourself!
Having been in your situation, thanx to my uncle & grandfather...I am a strong person today & one will only survive once one "forgives" & start looking at the future instead of the past.
My grandfather died from prostate cancer a few years back (poetic justice)& I forgave him before he died?the best thing I?ve ever done for my own mental well-being.
I admire your courage & wish you everything of the best!
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Good for you!
09/10/2008 10:56
For coming out and facing. I was five and twelve when two different men did things which I won't mention. Personally as I have now grown up I couldn't give a rats ass about it happening years back. Just one of those things I guess sad to say. But people handle trauma differently, I for one sure as hell am not going to let it get to me so that's why I haven't bothered about it. But let me find someone doing it to take the gleam out of a childs eye, he will be dead. A child should be child, simple! - Win |
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Ani, you were NEVER at fault! those ppl who did
09/10/2008 10:56
this to you are the ones who should be ashamed of their cowardly actions. The best thing though is that, you took the first step towards healing yourself and talk about your experience. Its not easy its not going to be easy like with most victims of this cruel crime. I pray for your strength I pray that you can find peace within yourself and that you can someday overcome the pain you are feeling. - Vicky |
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Parents
09/10/2008 10:57
I also think it's disgusting that often parents are aware of these terrible acts and do nothing, or choose to ignore the cries for help. They should be named and shamed! - dh |
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ANON!
09/10/2008 10:58
"blamed myself for letting it happen"... How did you "let it happen"?! You were 11! I am in my late twenties and a grown man can hold both my hands with one hand and I won't be able to move. Children TRUST grown ups. Shame on molesters who abuse that trust! I believe we are given no more than we can carry. You and Ani must be very strong to be given such a load! - HT |
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Thank You
09/10/2008 10:59
You are an inspiration. Thank You! - Mark V |
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Ani - You are a hero
09/10/2008 11:02
Believe you me you are the best person and keep on believing in yourself. We all need to take action, strong action!!! - hc |
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The healing has begun
09/10/2008 11:02
Great courage and best step in your life. Wishing you the best of luck. Sometimes when badluck comes along it brings its entire family. You are the only one who can chase that family away/ - Len v Heerden |
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Well Done
09/10/2008 11:04
It's a strong person who can acknowledge they are in control of the rest of their life, when for years you were denied that opportunity. Many cannot overcome that hurdle ever. We assume adults are truthful and children prone to lying, but when it comes to serious incidents, it is more often than not the other way around! Thanks for your letter! - AJ |
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It takes guts...
09/10/2008 11:04
...to do what you've just done. I commend you and wish you all the best with your future. You've shown your strength and will, and I'm sure it will carry you throught the remainder of your life.
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thanks Ani
09/10/2008 11:05
My heart goes out to you. Be strong! - Rick |
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Rapists and molestors...
09/10/2008 11:05
TO OUR GOVERNMENT: PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE bring the death penalty in to deal with people who murder and people who molest/rape/sodomise children! These are the truely SICK people living in our society that we don't need. They should forfeight their right to live. Criminals that do atrocities like this should lose ALL thier human rights and should exit society ASAP! How many more have to suffer until our government does something about this? Jail time and/or rehabilitation is NOT the answer! - ShRoOm |
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Congraulations
09/10/2008 11:05
On mustering the courage to speak out. Of course it wasn't your fault.I'm not sure how appropriate this would be but please consider sending this letter to the family of the **** who attacked you on camp...God forbid he already has children! too many families prefer to sweep issues like this under the carpet - and then the cycle continues. - VG |
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Our Country Needs to Protect our People
09/10/2008 11:07
In this country we have laws for criminals we need to change it we are the people of this country we should run it not idiots.
I'm sure it took a lot to come out with this story may you find peace.
http://mynewsblogs.24.com/ViewComments.aspx?blogid=296c3dbd-4dae-4da1-a447-063e277c70a6&mid=37d514f5-f78d-4095-acd5-4721fcbed86e - Farook |
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Courage
09/10/2008 11:08
Hi Ani
I went thru the same thing. Your are right in that most ppl do not really understand it nor the effects it has on the ppl that was hurt by loved onces.
Ani forgiveness is the first step - good for you. You must have courage. Like HT said Lift Your Chin.
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You can never be too careful
09/10/2008 11:11
I have two young girls and I know that you can never be too careful with them - never let your children out of your sight! My 8yr old was invited to a sleep-over party - I think not. No disrespect to the mother but I did not know her and she thankfully understood. She said that some parents just dropped off their 8yr old girl and left- very scary. Both my girls know that we have an absolute, no exemption "No Sleep-out Policy" - hopefully I can keep it going until they are about 30 :) - cos |
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Well done Ani
09/10/2008 11:12
Hey Ani, I just want to commend your bravery and say that no little girl must go through what you went through. I hope you pluck some more courage and go for justice, believe me it will make you feel much better. These sick freaks must also suffer! Also parents beware of evildoers disguised as born again christians, some people are realy sick out there. Think before you send your child(boy or girl) to a 'church camp'. I was also 'hugged' by a sick christian youth leader as a young boy. - Bizza |
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Feeling your Pain & Frustrations
09/10/2008 11:13
I have seen a 3yrs old that was raped, she couldn't even speak or explain what happened all she was doing was cry in pain, I have never seen someone so scared and frighten like that little child. I couldn't stop crying asking myself why do people do such horrible things. I pray that someday all of these people who molest & rape kids would all be burned in hell and never ever come back in this world, Be strong my sista and live your life for you never wronged anyone, it was never your fault. - masingita |
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Thank You Ani
09/10/2008 11:13
And may you have strength to realise that life is short and extremely precious. May you live long and prosper. - Richard Hipkin |
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It is a crying shame
09/10/2008 11:14
How prevalent this is today. I have been lucky not to have a abusive parent, but it frightens me that you do not only have to worry about rapists on the street but also in your home (where children should not have to be afraid). Ani, you are an inspiration, just keep soldiering on girl! - Nicole |
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Whan an incredible story !
09/10/2008 11:14
Ani I salute you, to come forward after so many years you are one amazing lady, I cant say I know how you feel because I was never in a situation like you but what I can say is - you fought the battle on your own and for that you are wonderful not only to the people who read your story but in God's eyes may he give you comfort and remember GOD will never forsake you - Liz |
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Kolobe
09/10/2008 11:15
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I'm truelly sorry
09/10/2008 11:18
I'm so sorry for what you went through Ani, I went through a same thing. Worst thing is I can still feel his unshaved face brushing against my skin. This happened when I was about 9 yrs old. I'm now 30, married and have two boys. The little incidents play in my mind from time and time again. To the monster - the 10 cents you gave me for ice cream has cursed me, I will forgive you one day. I'm a better than you'll ever be - I love myself and I'm a Queen! - VM |
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@dh - "I agree with Kolobe, deserve castration!"
09/10/2008 11:18
How does one 'castrate' a woman? I personally feel these sick individuals - if caught and convicted - should be put to death. Not only would we not have to worry about these same people committing the same crimes again, but there will be less people in prison squandering our tax money and less scum like this in society for us to have to worry about. As far as I am concerned, when somebody does something terrible like this to a child they do not deserve to be protected by 'human rights.' - ShRoOm |
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to Ani
09/10/2008 11:18
This is coming from someone who knows what you've been through, as I have also been there. The best advice I can give you is to look at yourself and realise that you survived and you are stronger then them because you didn't have to stoop to their level of picking on someone defensless for their gratitude. You are stronger for speaking out and you are a good person. All the best of wishes to you. Go out there and make your life great to show them that they did not and can not break your spirit. - Ally |
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Who does these things?
09/10/2008 11:19
The obvious reaction to such a letter will be disapproval of what happened. Which makes me wonder if everyone disapproves, who are the "people" that does these things? For all I know its the director of my company? My neighbour?! Thank God I dont have kids! We need a sex-offenders register. Everyone must know who does this. Or I'll join Kolobe's mob with a tattoo gun. Engrave MOLESTER on their forehead. - HT |
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It's a sick world
09/10/2008 11:21
I had a male friend who was sexually abused from Grade 8 to grade 11. He was always a bit fem, but loved the girls and had great male friends. He confided in us in grade 11 after breaking down that he was being abused by a family friend and that is the day healing began. That was 15 years ago. Today he is married for a few years already and has a precious child. He is proof that you can get through it. My best wishes to you Ani. - SMG |
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@shRoOm
09/10/2008 11:21
I doubt that SA would ever bring back the death penalty & dont know if I agree with it anyway, but if someone ever touched any of my girls, I know I would WANT to kill him/her. What we could do though is make sure that prison is somewhere that criminals dont want to go! Make it as unpleasant as possible (no tv, books, studying, luxuries etc) and life should be life - i.e. you dont EVER come out!! - cos |
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Ancient Paths
09/10/2008 11:21
Thank you for your letter, you are such a special person! I have been confronted with terrible things in peoples lives and have found the ancient paths course from FFI to be live giving in these situations. Please consider it if you are in a similar situation. Love. - Anton |
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@Ani
09/10/2008 11:22
Good for you! Don't let those sick freaks hold you back. All the best. - Rian |
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ABUSE
09/10/2008 11:23
I salute you !!! It takes a lot of courage to do what you just did. There are so many women out there that cannot even get to this point. I think when you get to this point half the battle has been fought. Thank you for sharing and helping other women do the same. - ANON |
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Picture of Strength
09/10/2008 11:25
I cannot begin to understand what goes on in a person's mind when they are busy touching the privates of a woung gir/boy? these are defenceless human beings and they should be cherised. Ani, stay strong! it was never your fault and I commend you for being soo courageous, not many people survive to write a letter about it. Well done - Jinx |
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You are precious
09/10/2008 11:26
Ani, you are precious and deciding to forgive is the first step to healing. It happened to me for two years from the age of 7, and whilst I have the choice to now to confront the man who did this to me, I have decided to forgive him, and let God deal with him ! To Anon - this can never be your fault !Kolobe,I am starting to like your more and more ! Shroom-Child Molestors cannot be rehabilitated and yes,they deserve the death penalty ! Ani, God loves you and He will deal out punishment ! - Annie |
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Ani
09/10/2008 11:27
When I read your story I was ashamed again to be a male - what rotters they are. To Kolobe, I'm from Gauteng but I would love to join you on a castrating safari, better bring lots of knives because ther are a lot of these monsters. - ChrisR |
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You will find the strength to move on
09/10/2008 11:27
I agree with dh that sometimes parents are to blame. Most families know what's happening. A friend of mine was molested as a child and the family told her to keep quiet becaue the uncle was the sole bread winner and if he was to go to jail, then they would suffer.
And the sad thind is she was then raped in her late teens.
I will never understand the pain that you are going through but you need to find strength within you and go on in life, telling your story is a great first step! Bravo! - Grace |
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Ani
09/10/2008 11:28
Well done and good luck! Just know that you were not responsible for someone doing this to you! They are the one's that are sick in the head!There are a lot psycho's out there and parents need to supporting their children!!! - Vuyo |
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You will find the strength to move on
09/10/2008 11:29
I agree with dh that sometimes parents are to blame. Most families know what's happening. A friend of mine was molested as a child and the family told her to keep quiet becaue the uncle was the sole bread winner and if he was to go to jail, then they would suffer.
And the sad thind is she was then raped in her late teens.
I will never understand the pain that you are going through but you need to find strength within you and go on in life, telling your story is a great first step! Bravo! - Grace |
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Therapy
09/10/2008 11:35
- always works, providing its the right kind, which is very hard to find - but there are healed people in the profession who can really help make a huge differrence in your life. I'm speaking out of experience. Just trust your gut. - E |
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You are strong
09/10/2008 11:36
The ability to withstand fire and adversity lies not on the technical ability of an individual but on the sprit within says David Ben Gurion. So you will have to find it within you to move on and close that sad chapter of your life-diffilculty as it may be. You are such a strong person! - Hlabangwane wa Hlabangwane |
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rape
09/10/2008 11:37
how can a person be so low. an annimal does not even do that.i would like to put them in a den to be eaten up.or even put them i jail and throw the key away. - marian van der walt |
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BRAVE
09/10/2008 11:38
Ani - well said have been through the same experience. Forgiveness the first step & find inner peace & happiness. I will keep you in my prayers & pray the Lord gives you all the tools you need to overcome the past hurt & pain. God Bless You. Tracy - Tracy Nichols |
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Good for you!
09/10/2008 11:39
Hi Ani
I was molested myself by my cousin it took years to overcome the guilt, loss on childhood innocence, loss of trust so glad you realise it wasn't your fault!!. The angels are always with us protecting & guiding us to our higher good. Trust this painful experience will turn into a blessing.
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ChrisR
09/10/2008 11:40
And I am ashamed with the mothers that look the other way, or don't believe the child. Women don't always stick together as well as men do. I think criminal law refers to such a person as an accomplice. Betraying a childs trust by not protecting them is as good as abuse. - HT |
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child abuse
09/10/2008 11:45
Dear Ani, you are a brave, brave woman! The most appaling thing about child abuse, is that in most circumstances the child is not believed, particularly when very young,as in my daughter's case, when she revealed sexual abuse by her own father, who denied the allegations. The statement made by our Pastor at the time, "I don't know who to believe, you or your husband?" Say's it all! Consequently, my daughter and I were displaced and marginalised. Speaking out breaks the cycle of victimization! - anon |
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Thank you
09/10/2008 11:50
I also know what it is to be molested and still have to see the person on regular basis knowing that I can never tell what that person did!To people that molest children I wish an eternity of hell upon you as you have know idea what you dead does to a little person even when you have grown up!To Government please bring the death penalty for rapist of woman and children and pedo's that can not keep their hands of them! for these people you do not deserve life at all! you murdered a living spirit! - Forgive and Forget Never! |
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Ani the Rock
09/10/2008 11:59
:( My heart bleeds for your past Ani. Woman of steel, for your courage. Thank you for not giving up. - Sinudeity@Gmail.com |
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Istill can't deal with it
09/10/2008 12:00
Hey Ani thanx for the courage,Im 30 years but I still can't deal with it.I told some of my friends about it but it still haunts me,He is my uncle,he says I also wanted it I hate him I WISH HE WAS DEAD - Lungi |
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to precious Ani
09/10/2008 12:01
hug hug hug....your best life is ahead of you......surely you wont forget, but chances are you wont cry each time you do remember but will remember the courage you have had and the grace you have carried yourself in and that will make you love yourself more.
Your best life is ahead cause your past is not your future. - vee |
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Go Ani!
09/10/2008 12:02
You speak for a huge percentage of children not only in SA but in the world. It's wonderful to see you re-empower yourself! - Darren Ma |
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Well done my girl...
09/10/2008 12:09
and all my prayers for the rest of your journey toward healing and some kind of eventual closure of this tragic chapter of your young life (and you need not worry,someone sees and knows all and the wheel will turn tenfold on those who hurt you).Remember,you have the rest of your life to look forward to.Don't give those sick,sadistic savages the satisfaction of ruining the rest of it for you. - The Truth |
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woman of stregnth
09/10/2008 12:13
You are a strong woman Ani and Im so proud of you. Thank you for speaking out because I know you will reach out to so many other women who have been through the same, and help them heal. - bee |
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been there!
09/10/2008 12:27
Hello. as like many others here I have been there and done that. Although I did the opposite. I gained weight and wanted to be unknown. I turned 30 this year and decided I was the one missing out. So in the past 4 months I have lost 15kg and 35cm and feel great. Half way to target already. Its all in your mind and heart... get those sorted and life is full of endless possibilities. May you find that strength and build on it every day! - Me |
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you grow girl
09/10/2008 12:28
thanks for speaking out and being a voice for the rest of us who still bearing the burden.well how do you eat a elephant? bite by bite. the rest is history...
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Trust me
09/10/2008 12:30
My baby girl was born 2 days ago and should anyone ever touch her like that he/she wil die!! There's not even a question about it. And it will be slow and painful. They should give all these abusers to me. I know what to do with them. - chops |
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Lungi
09/10/2008 12:37
Damn I wish I can make you tea and give you a hug. Please don't believe your uncle. It is not in the construction of a childs brain to even understand such a thing, never mind want it. He damaged your youth. Dont give him your adult live also. We can not punish him so hard on this earth as God can hereafter. Leave it to Him. - HT |
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Vulnerable..........
09/10/2008 12:39
This once again confirms that it is the children and elderly who are the most vulnerable in our society.We should hold ourselves responsible for not creating an environment that was safe for all the "anis' of our world. Ani, I wish there was someone you could have confided in sooner and I shudder to think how many more girls this sadistic person abused.This test is your testimony and I trust your courage to move on, will shine like a beacon of light and hope! - Cape Town Kid |
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I knew
09/10/2008 12:42
I knew it was not my fault. I was 13. I hope he rots and has the most painful, excrutiating existence. death is too good for him and to all those that turned the other way, thanks for nothing. - Male |
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Proof
09/10/2008 12:42
I will not pretend to know what you feel like, but I will say I hope by the response to your letter that you know you are not alone, and that there are people that will stand behind you. You've got NOTHING to feel ashamed of. You are 100 times the person that he will ever be. Funny how you that suffered gains all the respect in the world by not feeling ashamed anymore, and he loses it... he took your self respect, but now you've taken it back. - Pixl |
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Well done
09/10/2008 12:45
Well done for being so brave. From birth i was never good enough for mother. I married at 19 & stayed that way for 14.5 years. I was never good enough for him either. Years of abuse. Finally at age 44 i can say i am mostly fine! Keep pushing....u deserve the best. - Jackie |
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HT, you know some women are themselves
09/10/2008 12:46
victims of abuse, because of their own personal battles (feelings of guilty) they are too helpless/weak to help their children and they blame themselves as they think they are failures, that is why I wish that our government could have programmes that empower victims of this horrific crime, as if they continue to believe that they are somehow responsible for what's happened the abuser thrives in his/her determination to continue inflicting this evil on the vulnerable. - Vicky |
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Well done Ani!
09/10/2008 12:47
For speaking out! Today, you took the first step to recovery! From now on, it is going to be easier to speak about it and for you to handle this wrongfullness that happened to you. You are a brave woman!! - Karin |
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ANI
09/10/2008 12:54
You will heal eventually ,you have your whole life ahead of you to become whole again...
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God loves you too
09/10/2008 12:58
Dont even think for once that you are alone,it takes lot of courage do what you did,just know that God is alive and watching over you,ill keep on praying for you sister,you have no idea how many hearts you have healed.STAY STRONG. - Kaiki |
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Take that power back!!
09/10/2008 13:01
Ani, been there as well.. and let me tell you this at least. You are so very much further to your complete recovery than me at your age. So, what I am trying to say is.. believe in yourself, your ability to be your own person again. Things like this letter is AWESOME! You are taking back the power that was stolen from you. I dont know you and I am proud of you! X - izzzzy |
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I understand one can't 'castrate' women
09/10/2008 13:02
but as far as men are concerned, most men I know would prefer death over castration so I think it's a fitting punishment. But death works too; if I ever had to catch one of these sick bastards I'd kill him myself! - dh |
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It is so so sad...
09/10/2008 13:14
seeing how many people just on this forum have been victims of these sick f**ks in our society. I agree shRoOm, people who do things animals wouldn't even do deserve NO human rights!
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touched
09/10/2008 13:14
i am absolutely moved by your story sisi, you are soo brave! everyday we hear of such horrible things-thanks for finally standing up to it. to those who rape children(babies)-what is it that is so attractive in a baby wearing nappies? if you want to prove that you are such a man, why don't you all start by growing up!! please!! - aviwe |
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Not alone!
09/10/2008 13:22
You are not alone...each time the story is told,my wounds bleed again.Talking is the first step towards healing,well done!
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Vicky, we are not children
09/10/2008 13:23
We may be helpless in terms of money, physical power, etc. But between us and the children we are the more powerful, more so because we know and understand what happens. So maybe in some circumstances the woman really have no options, no where to turn. My mom also thought women are weak, helpless, at mens mercy. She raised me that way, I turned around, have a degree in engineering. We are stronger than we think. - HT |
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You go girl.
09/10/2008 13:24
Ani, I am so proud of you for taking the courage to write this I have kept "the secret" for 13 years. But this "ghost" has caused my marriage to fall apart after 14 years of emotional abuse as "i am just no good in my "wifely duties", Please girl, learn from my mistakes and do not allow the ghosts to destroy what could have been beautiful - Me |
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RE: Ani
09/10/2008 13:39
You're a very strong person and by writing this article, you are setting yourself free & probably inspired other people in the same situation to speak up.
God Bless u & all the best for the future!! - protea |
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Big up,Ani...
09/10/2008 13:47
I salute you Ani...you are one of the strongest women in this world.You took a very giant step by speaking out.there are so many women and children who have also been abused and the abuse is still going on up to this day...and i pray to God that these monsters be punished,they don't deserve to be on this earth.Don't let them drag u down to their lowerst level.God loves u,Ani.good Luck to you. - Dee |
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Abuse
09/10/2008 13:48
Hi Ani
I did not suffer the agony of sexual abuse, but was physically & mentally abused by those who were supposed to care for me. When anyone mistreats a child, automatically the child blames him/herself. I'm 32 yrs old, but still have feelings of being a bad person. Therapy really helped; I learnt to trust a few close friends. Telling my story healed me. You've done the right thing in speaking out. Hearing others condemn the abusers confirms your judgement of this as wrong. Be blessed - yaya |
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Support
09/10/2008 13:51
Dear Ani, well done for gathering your courage & writing this letter babe. When you feel alone & the darkness wants to come & engulf you read these letters of encouragement. Keep this page close to your heart and read them often. - Copper |
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Rapist please comment
09/10/2008 14:00
I just wish to hear you tell us why do you do it maybe then I'll find closure for myself. Uncles, fathers etc. you cannot undo what you did but please explain. soso - soso |
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i really hate them
09/10/2008 14:14
i was raped by 3 men at gun point in my room after that they ransacked my room and take most of my things so what i can say to you is thank you. you are also helping us i've never told anyone rather than my family and they were supportive and now i know that many people are going through the same problem thank you for doing this your helping us to open to others so that we can free our spirit because if we don't do that we will die of heart attack thank you!thank you! and thank you! for helping. - happiness |
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You are very brave
09/10/2008 14:20
Thanks Ani, My wife has to deal with this daily, and it does take it's toll on our marriage. I have emailed her the letter and she broke in tears, for those who went through this and those still struggle daily your letter is the sunrays breaking through a gloomy sky. All the best and Gods blessing on your life further. - BD |
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To those Who Rape and Steal child hood happiness
09/10/2008 14:27
4 years old and it starts, 16 it ends for you all. Today you are over it, probably forgotten her existance, but 15 years later she still has to fight daily, it hurts her life because chidren are impossible due to you, it hurts her lover, because he has to understand, it hurt her present, because she is brilliant and not full educated. You caused her pain that will take a life time to overcome and it's time lost with ones she love. I hope you all burn in hell, God is good and He will judge. - B |
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To Kolobe and others
09/10/2008 14:42
In the interest of fairness, don't forget the female molester. We forget that it's just as bad when chicks do it or am I missing something? - Nanker Phelge |
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Wow
09/10/2008 14:45
This is the first time I read through all the comments. Not one fight, not one negative word. This is South Africa. When it comes done to helping we are all there. This is OUR loving country. Ani, this letter, all the support it gives. How it must feel? I will never totally know, but after all comments I'll print this and give it to a person who needs it. These is the Blessings from God. These are the Angels. More good than bad, WOW. Tears of pride - CB |
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HT by "weak" I meant psycologically, it is said that
09/10/2008 14:47
abusers use psychology to weaken their victims, by making them believe that they will not be believed if they speak out, in many cases (sadly) victims are not believed, moreso in the case where abuser is powerful as was the case in zuma rape case, the victm instead was the one who was tried end result her abuser was free, that happens a lot, look at the roman catholic abuse scandal as well! victims should sought counselling and read other self help books, the gov must actively provide resources. - Vicky |
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Suffer the children
09/10/2008 15:22
Many a young child has been stripped of their childhood, before they were 10, both boys and girls. Society has for centuries swept this fact under the carpet, even when it happened to their own. Many a man, who suffered abuse by some family member in his youth, is unable to have a loving relationship, based on trust for the rest of their lives. Many woman, suffering the same fate, spend their lives consumed by guilt and unable to commit to anything. Child molestation is not protected human rights - Sven Gohre |
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Go-Girl
09/10/2008 15:26
Ani, well done hang-in-there my girl! I agree - the 1st time ever without any "bashing each other". As for females that are sick, they should all be locked away together spending the rest of their lives with each other. I agree with Kolbe - 1st time ever, and will willingly join you. I also say we should expose all these horrid people, so everyone knows who to keep children away from, who should not work with children. I'm doing the Sisters with Blisters walk against woman+child abuse. - ss |
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CB I agree with you
09/10/2008 15:53
I first want to salute Ani for coming out in the open and believe the process of healing has started sisi.As a man in South Africa and as a father to my girl and two boys i feel ashamed of my fellow male species who rape,degrade,abuse and molest the people that we should be protecting.Also regarding the comments Ani you have truly united us in the column.This is the first time that everyone is singing the same song of empathy without attacking each other. - Nathi |
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Guts
09/10/2008 16:03
I salute you. - Andrew |
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Nathi
09/10/2008 16:23
"This is the first time that everyone is singing the same song of empathy...". You are right, but |
