And I wanted to be king of them all. It pains me to think this now because in general we admire bad people. We think they are great. I remember making that painful decision of abandoning that path. It had something to do with not being myself.

And who am I really? I hate to say this, but I’m one of those guys who could be labelled as ‘soft’ by the aggressive type. But I’m not soft really. I’m just a guy that likes to be in the present and is very patient.

Being in the present means using your brains, and being patient means hanging in there even if things are tough. Some guys would rather “push the doors down” than wait for their dreams to come true.

Using my brains and being patient has helped me to find my purpose. I was not in a hurry to be seen driving a BMW, or going out with beautiful women. If opportunities passed me by, so be it.

As long as I did not go down the gutter way and was unable to redeem myself. By wanting to be the worst guy in the world, I was heading the gutter way. While it is happening you don’t see it. You think everything is nice. However,as years go by and your energy saps, you begin to realise it. This is a waste of time. I have realised it myself. I remember telling some school kids about my background. Their response was amazing. They said if I did not experience it, I wouldn’t be telling them about it. They said it was for a reason that I had to experience that wasted time so that I could encourage them not to.

But what constructive activities can one encourage our kids or even people in general to be involved in so that their time is not wasted? The best thing is to find out what you love to do best.

This will get you out of the rut. This is what I did. I found what I love to do best and I have never looked back ever since. What I’m doing may not be money spinning but it keeps me sane and happy.

It is rare that I feel depressed, and when I do it is because mother nature always likes to test us and when I’m down I use the techniques I have learnt such as affirmations or being nice to people.

Does it work? It certainly does. Always have hope and never give up. It is when you have dreams when life seems to be tough. Smile at it and tell yourself that that too will pass. But don’t waste time moaning.

Stay positive.