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WE all have people in our lives we meet and sometimes wish we had not, just so we don't have to deal with certain issues that arise from the friendship.

Okay, maybe not many people have experienced this, but I have.

My friendship with a very close friend has sort of drifted and on a scale of one to 10, the friendship is probably a three at the moment.

This friend was one I could share all my deepest, darkest secrets with, knowing I would not be judged and would also receive good advice in the process.

However, that has changed.

For the past few months our conversations have started out as normal chit-chat, ending in nasty comments from both us.

I would leave the conversation fuming, despising every inch of my friend's being, wishing I had the ability to end the friendship, never having to set eyes on her ever again.

And, like I said, this has been going on for the past few months, and it is just getting worse with every passing day and nasty comment.

The friendship is hanging by a thread and, until this morning, I had no intention of saving it.

However, after the events of this past weekend ? including the death of a man who, until the moment he was stabbed, had no idea he would never see his friends, family and loved ones again ? I have changed my mind.

This was a wake-up call for me, resulting in an SMS to this friend, saying I do not want to fight any more. "Life is fragile and I don't want our last conversation to be an argument."

I think we should all adopt this attitude. Regardless of what the fight or argument is about, never leave or end the conversation on a bad note.

Either find a comprise or agree to disagree.

I know this is not always easy, but I think it is better than being angry only to discover something terrible has happened and you were not able to make peace.

Something else I've learnt over the years is to never be afraid to say sorry. It takes very little effort and is painless.

Yet, I do not understand why people are still so afraid of this word ? including me.

I know people have pride, but what would your prefer: holding on to your pride or not have the burden and pain of regret? I choose the latter.

I don't believe life is short, but what I do believe is life is not ours to keep and it can be taken away at any time.

Live like every day is your last. When you go to bed at night, you should feel at peace with your actions, your words with people and your choices.

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