Pets listen better than hubby

2010-04-28 22:19

Sue Manning

Los Angeles - A third of pet-owning married women in the US said their pets are better listeners than their husbands, according to an Associated Press-Petside poll released on Wednesday.

Of pet-owning married men 18% said their pets are better listeners than their wives.

Christina Holmdahl, 40, talks all the time to her cat, two dogs or three horses - about her husband, naturally.

"Whoever happens to be with me when I'm rambling," said Holmdahl, who's stationed with her husband at Fort Stewart in Georgia. "A lot of times, I'm just venting about work or complaining about the husband."

She thinks everyone should have a pet to talk to like her horse, Whistle, who's been with her since she was 19.

"We all say things we don't mean when we are upset about stuff," she said. "When we have time to talk it out and rationalise it, we can think about it better and we can calm down and see both sides better."

Cray Aiken

It would be a toss-up whether Bill Rothschild would take a problem to his wife of 19 years or the animal he considers a pet - a palm-sized crayfish named Cray Aiken. His daughter brought it home four years ago at the end of a second grade science project.

Rothschild, 44, of Granite Springs, New York, considers Cray a better listener than his wife, "absolutely. She doesn't listen worth anything." He doesn't get much feedback from the crustacean, but it's been a different story over the years with family dogs and cats.

"You definitely feel much more comfortable sharing your problems with them," he said. "A little lick from a big dog can go a long way."

Overall, about one in 10 pet owners said they would talk their troubles over with their pets.

The AP-Petside poll also found that most people believe their pets are stable and seldom struggle with depression. Just 5% of all pet owners said they had taken an animal to a veterinarian or pet psychologist because it seemed down in the dumps.

Even fewer said they'd ever given antidepressants to a pet.

Pet psychologist

But they weren't opposed to the idea: 18% of those polled said they were at least somewhat likely to take a pet to a vet or pet psychologist if it was dejected.

When pets become the therapists, the dogs have it. Of dog owners 25% said their canines listened better than a spouse, while only 14% of cat owners chose the feline.

A pet psychologist is also called a veterinary behaviourist. Veterinarian Karen Sueda, whose office is at the VCA West Los Angeles Animal Hospital is one of 50 certified by the American Veterinary Medical Association.

Most of her canine patients have problems with aggression and anxiety, while her cats' biggest problem is failure to use a litter box, she said.

Sueda said she thinks everyone talks to their animals.

"Pets are great because they provide us with unconditional support. They never talk back, never give us the wrong opinion and they are always there for us," she said. "As much as we love our spouses or significant others, sometimes they are not there, sometimes they have their own thoughts about how we should deal with situations. And sometimes, especially when it's a husband or male significant other, they want to solve the problem rather than just listening to the problem."

The AP-Petside Poll was conducted April 7-12 2010, and involved landline and cellphone interviews with 1 112 pet owners nationwide.

- SAPA