Abuse: Men make voices heard

2015-07-02 06:00
Siyabulela Pheme, Tebuho Snaymess, Siphuxolo Camalata, Simo Sithandathu, Ntuthuzelo Pungulwa, Loyiso Ndamase, Masixole Raniso and Muna Letabata, the owner of the tavern, during The Men’s Imbizo Programme, on Thursday, in Khayelitsha.


Siyabulela Pheme, Tebuho Snaymess, Siphuxolo Camalata, Simo Sithandathu, Ntuthuzelo Pungulwa, Loyiso Ndamase, Masixole Raniso and Muna Letabata, the owner of the tavern, during The Men’s Imbizo Programme, on Thursday, in Khayelitsha. PHOTO: Mbon

Multimedia   ·   User Galleries   ·   News in Pictures Send us your pictures  ·  Send us your stories

The mission of raising awareness against the scourge of both men and women abuse has taken on a completely different form in Khayelitsha.

The venue was an entertainment sport where a group of males used the platform to find ways to curb bad behaviour on Thursday.

The Men’s Imbizo Programme was organised by Samila Gender Counselling at Magasela Tavern in L Section.

Ntuthuzelo Pungulwa, of Samila Gender Counselling, said they targeted the tavern because that is where males “relieve their stress” most of the time and some come for playing pool.

Pungulwa said their aim was to give a platform to males, mostly those who find themselves on the receiving end for domestic abuse, to come and share their experiences and also to take part in finding solutions to prevent the abuses.

The programme consists of two categories which are the youth programme for 18 to 24 years old and the ones for elders from 25 years and above.

“We involved the youth, because some grow up in an environment whereby their fathers abuse their mothers. That makes them grow up thinking there is nothing wrong with assaulting a woman. They start by physically abusing their girlfriends and grow with that habit. We want men to understand that abuse is not right. We now are targeting taverns because that is where males, mostly, come to relieve stress,” Pungulwa said.

They also work in partnership with police officials in their programmes.

The programme was started in 2006. Loyiso Ndamase, assistance in youth programme for the Men’s Imbizo Programme, said males are abused in different ways by their wives or girlfriends, such using his money to buy things without their consent.

Children always get badly affected when they grow up in an abusive environment.

Some men resort to going to a tavern just to get away from the abuse they endure at their homes. We want them to speak out about their experiences. We also refer them to social workers for counselling,” Ndamase said.

They see over 40 males, some with their partners, who come for counselling at their office at Z 95 Maxhama Street.

Mzwandile Lugogo, 33, of Treatment Action Campaign (TAC), applauded the programme and said it makes a big difference in the lives of residents. “The programme plays a very big role in the betterment of the society. It makes families to live in harmony,” Lugogo said.

Angumzi Magxwalisa,49, a father of four children, also highly praised the programme. According to him, he was forced to live with his children after his wife of 18 years moved in with another man two years ago. “I have learnt a lot since I started attending the programmes few months ago. I am gaining information which is helping us to live in a good relationship with my children. I am happy to be part of the programme.” The programmes are continuing throughout the year

Join the conversation!

24.com encourages commentary submitted via MyNews24. Contributions of 200 words or more will be considered for publication.

We reserve editorial discretion to decide what will be published.
Read our comments policy for guidelines on contributions.

24.com publishes all comments posted on articles provided that they adhere to our Comments Policy. Should you wish to report a comment for editorial review, please do so by clicking the 'Report Comment' button to the right of each comment.

Comment on this story
Comments have been closed for this article.

Inside News24

Competition regulation for a growing and inclusive economy

ADVERTORIAL: The Competition Commission of South Africa is conducting advocacy work in the South African automotive aftermarket industry and has gazetted a Draft Code of Conduct for public comment.

Traffic Alerts
There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.


Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.

Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.


Location Settings

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.

Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.