COLUMN: Facebook fakeism makes farce of our feelings

2016-05-05 06:00
opinion Belinda Dilima

opinion Belinda Dilima

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I would like to take this opportunity to address a very pertinent lifestyle issue.

Social Media and the ego trips that come with it. I have seen egos dominate all manner of communication, especially on social media platforms like Facebook, its so scary.

We watch in awe as these egos play themselves out on our television sets; in news, ego is pitted against ego, in verbose fashion, political factionalism and any other method found suitable to the dispensers of such egos.

If its not the telly, its our hand-held gadgets. Egos seem to permeate society.

The world of second screen media is evolving at a fast pace, with much benefit for the entertainment industry, but to what extent?

On Facebook, people tend to create little gods and goddesses out of themselves. Its an illusionary trip down ego lane.

They even believe that they are someone else other than who they really are, and there are no boundaries to the little god status.

They are trying hard to be somebody they are not and want to be recognised as significant. It’s LGS–Looking Good Syndrome, a popular disease of low consciousness. And the side-effects can be devastating to the carrier...

Sadly, they know not what they do, they don’t understand how they’re being driven by their mistaken sense of self.

The young grow up thinking this is normal behaviour; that it is the way life. Have you ever created an illusion about yourself and then tried to convince others of its reality in order to receive fake platitudes, approval or acceptance. Just go over to Facebook.

We don’t realize that we are trying to find our worth in the one place it can never exist, in the words and behaviours of others. Like the actor tries to find it in their audience, the singer tries to find it in record sales, the politician tries to find it in votes.

The general public tries to find their mojo on Facebook pages. The reality is that its never “there”, but always “here” within us. To know it, we will need to stop searching externally for it.

Then there is the muscle of addiction that Facebook brings upon one. Even total deactivation is impossible; administrators allow for an occasional pop-in. I tried it myself.

People have become forever glued to their second-screens, regardless of the impertinency in the company of others.

Emotion is addictive. Excitement, fear, anger and sadness are primary emotions. Love is not an emotion. You are not emoting when you are genuinely caring, compassionate, kind and giving. Real happiness is not an emotion either. Facebook is addictive.

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