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2017-06-08 06:00
Nomazangwa Cakathiso-Ngetu

Nomazangwa Cakathiso-Ngetu

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A woman who once hit rock bottom in her marriage is on a mission to help others be better in their own.

Nomazangwa Cakathiso-Ngetu,35, a mother of two, says she has learnt from her mistakes and she wants to teach others not to make the same mistakes as her.

Through her empowerment organisation called Zang’s Women Empowerment, she is working on her marriage and she wants other women to learn from her mistakes.

She has been to different areas like Nyanga and Khayelitsha sharing her story and strengthening other women who have lost hope.

After almost getting divorced, she took the time to think and correct her wrongs and be a better wife.

“I was estranged for eight months... I saw my mistakes. For me in my marriage I was never wrong. I knew how I wanted to be treated. All the challenges emanated from how I grew up and the problems I had in my past relationships.

Before my husband could even do anything, I already knew what he will do next and that took its toll on our marriage.

Married women go through a lot and seldom talk. They bottle up everything until their world comes crumbling down,” she says.

For her, not getting the desired outcomes from led her on a path of reality check.

“I could see(that) my marriage was falling apart. I reached out for help and there was no help for me. Now I’m also helping others with counselling. Most of us don’t have that money to go for counselling but I’m offering my help,” she says.

Cakathiso-Ngetu who is also a motivational speaker says although she has been married for seven years there is a lot that she can learn and teach others.

“We all have to learn from each other. Like they say experience is the best teacher, it doesn’t always have to happen to you to learn. Learn from what others have been through. Women must learn to love themselves(and) also learn to talk about their problems. Don’t die alone. Find someone that you can confide in. Talk things through,” she says.

Though her main focus is on helping people save their marriages, she is also helping teens as she believes if most of the problems are dealt with at a young age, people will not have half the problems they have in marriages.

“My teenage years were not easy. Parents didn’t talk openly to us. We had to figure out things as we went along... I want to help teen girls. and pass my message to them.”

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