Keep the moral high ground

2015-04-30 16:15

KEEP the moral high ground, the saying goes. It is not easy. When people criticise you unfairly or treat you badly, you are told to hold your head high and keep the moral high ground. This means you must behave honestly, decently, kindly, forgiving and accommodating.

No matter how rough it is, you must never take revenge, act badly, be very angry, hurt anyone, act irrationally or rashly, or be aggressive. No matter what the provocation. No matter what challenges are thrown at you, no matter how unfairly others behave – you will not retaliate in kind. You will carry on being good and civilised and morally irreproachable.

Your manners will be impeccable and your language moderate and dignified.

I am one who is always being picked on, or it sometimes seems like that.

There are a lot of people who have not seen me for a long time. When you meet these people at a funeral, for example, they will say something negative and hurtful. It hurts and I always wish that I had an answer, but they always find me flat-footed.

Maybe it is not my nature to hurt other people and I have to act outside my nature to be nasty.

To tell the truth I also want to hurt them back. I will mull it in my head what I will say if I see them next time or if I meet another mean person, but I am always caught off-guard.

When somebody was spreading lies and accusing me unfairly, one friend of mine kept on saying “keep the moral high ground”.

It was not easy. I became aggressive and wanted to inflict physical harm. Anger makes one rash. It makes one to react.

The good advice I got was that don’t react, but respond. When people are nasty to you it’s natural to want to get your own back and lash out.

Sometimes it seems that these people are negative by nature and they leave their home with the intention of hurting the very next person they meet. They never have anything positive to say. They are poised and ready to sting and be disagreeable. Try to avoid these people. They are not worth your friendship.

Learn how to control your anger or anxious reaction when in their company. Try to remain calm and tell yourself that you will not satisfy them by demeaning yourself.

Instead of saying something positive, they pull you down.

Once the rough times have passed you will be proud of yourself for keeping the moral high ground. It will taste a thousand times better than revenge ever can.

Keeping the moral high ground means that you are much higher than them.

You don’t have to go down to their level. Going down to their level demeans you and cheapens you. Revenge is for losers.

It doesn’t mean you are a pushover or a wimp. It just means that any action you do take will be honest and dignified.

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