Old wine, new bottle

2016-06-29 06:00
ADV. KUNI DITIRA, social observer.

ADV. KUNI DITIRA, social observer.

Multimedia   ·   User Galleries   ·   News in Pictures Send us your pictures  ·  Send us your stories

IS a blesser a new phenomenon? Is it a new name for an old and accepted practice?

In Express (13 February 2013) I wrote an article, “Bana ba tlhabelwa baeng”, which, roughly translated, means that our children are used as entertainment for visitors. In this article, I wrote about the same things that are now being said about blessers.

Love is no longer in the equation. Money and material things are the determining factors.

One blesser said on television: “I did not choose to become a blesser. God blessed me to be a blesser.”

What a lot of rubbish! There is even a page where you can find a blesser. These blessers are rated. The lower ones are those who buy you airtime, up to the higher ones who buy you cars or apartments.

In Mosaic (2013:17) I said that these old men are doing things with our young women which they would not like their very own daughters to do. I heard of someone who at one event had three young girls with him. These girls were just out of school! Very interesting is that he too has a young daughter who is still in pre-school. What if the same thing happens to his daughter a few years from now?

Will he understand and accept it? Or because he is rich, he thinks that his beautiful young daughter will not need a blesser?

This life is a boomerang!

These children do not want to be children. They do not want or are not interested in men their own age Z they play in the big leagues.

One on television said: “Love can wait. Call me when you have money”.

Where is your pride as a girl or young women? Is this what you are doing not prostitution? Are your parents comfortable or even aware of what you are doing?

What am I saying? I heard that some parents even encourage this. Is this a result of poverty, or what?

At the extreme side, there is even a case in the local magistrate’s court of a woman who pinned her own young daughter down for men to rape her.

What is happening to this world? Are we sick or what?

Be a blesser, but do not commit adultery in the process. Do not change girls every other month. Do not have one in each and every town and city.

You, the blesser, does it ever cross your mind to wonder how they are going to cope when you leave them? Is there life after love or in this instance after blessing?

At least one blesser that I know of ensures that the girls have employment or a means of doing business after leaving them.

Greed and lust, which is the equivalent of blessing?

The one question which the blessee must ask is: “Will you still love me tomorrow when I’m no longer young and beautiful? Will you still love me when I’ve got nothing but my aching soul?” Just as the song goes.

If it is genuine love, it is fine. I would not have issues with older men marrying younger women or vice versa, as long as there is no one who is hurt in the process. However, make sure your hands are clean. Just saying!

  • To comment or express your views about the issue highlighted in the column, go to www.express-news.co.za.

Express welcomes anyone interested in contributing to the weekly column as social observers or citizen journalists. There is no payment for writers.

Send your opinion piece (not exceeding 500 words) via email to boipelo.mere@volksblad.com.

Join the conversation!

24.com encourages commentary submitted via MyNews24. Contributions of 200 words or more will be considered for publication.

We reserve editorial discretion to decide what will be published.
Read our comments policy for guidelines on contributions.

Inside News24

Financial advisors – Do you need one and should you get one?

The good, the bad, and everything else you need to know when considering hiring a financial advisor.


Book flights

Compare, Book, Fly

Traffic Alerts
There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.


Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.

Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.


Location Settings

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.

Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.