Argue behind closed doors

2017-03-29 06:02

IT happens to the best of us. Whether we are short or long tempered, young or old, male or female - at some point we all lose our cool and let a discussion turn into an argument.

When done right, arguing is a natural and healthy part of life.

It is inevitable for two or more people to have opposing views, opinions and lifestyles, sometimes, though, disagreements are with people we have to deal with every day - like our spouses.

How would we deal with our disputes? Would we resort to the tactics people typically use in an argument such as yelling and saying hurtful things? What if someone was watching us? What if it were our children?

As adults we know that most of the time our arguments are just a means of blowing off steam and it will over soon.

Children on the other hand, cannot always comprehend that and often become scared and confused when they see the two people they love most yelling at each other.

When parents argue in front of their children, regardless of how brief it is, they develop a sense of insecurity, which can leave a lasting mark.

It is hard for us to realise the height of the pedestal our children hold us on. They see us as infallible and the solution to all their problems. Besides their Creator we are their greatest source love, care, comfort and security.

It is devastating for them to see the two people they love and reply on the most screaming and fighting with each other.

When the father comes home from work and mom and dad sit and discuss their day it teaches them about companionship and friendship.

When mom is exhausted and dad tells her to relax while he takes over for a while it teaches them to be considerate and compassionate.

Take a moment to remind each other that resisting anger is truly a battle with Satan, and the price we pay for losing this battle is the future of our children.

ASE Ameen via email

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