Power of forgiveness

2015-06-11 06:00

“Forgiveness is the beautiful scent a flower gives off when it’s being crushed.”

HAVE you been hurt so deeply that you walk away without forgiving the person? How do you feel each time you look at that person, or think of the incident? Do feelings of hate, anger, hurt and disappointment consume you? Has that become the dominant feature in your life? Does it stop you from bettering yourself? Have you put up walls of steel that nobody can penetrate?

If so, it is time to move on. You may have been hurt, left disillusioned and feel hopeless, but stop robbing yourself of living and experiencing a better life. It’s time to move on to restoration and healing.

The greatest power and opportunity lies in the act of forgiveness. Withholding forgiveness means you choose to hold onto anger, resentment and the offence thereby remaining a victim of someone else’s wrong doing. What you are doing is giving the offender more power over you by allowing the transgression to consume your wellbeing and destroy the core of who you are.

Nobody deserves that kind of control over you. You are precious, valuable and worth more than all the anger and resentment you feel. I believe forgiving is so that you can have peace and be released to move on.

Forgiveness is a choice made to free oneself and others in order to heal and bring healing; to restore and bring restoration; to have closure. Don’t be the cause of another’s becoming cold and heartless. Don’t punish others because they have hurt you. The greatest of people have shown compassion and mercy to the most undeserving and they are the ones we aspire to and admire.

Have you seen what unforgiveness does to people? It eats away at them like cancer. They lose their joy and peace and fail to love and be loved. They distance themselves from others. They become hard and ruthless putting up walls that cannot be penetrated. They become cold and emotionless.

Nobody wants to be around them. They have lost their joy, peace and smile. They encourage others to hate and hold unforgiveness as well. You were created with purpose and a destiny only you can fulfil. Unforgiveness closes that door to experiencing the greatest blessings in life that God intended for you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget what happened, but it is made easier to start putting the hurt behind you. I understand that forgiveness works adversely to everyday thinking. I hear people say that they must get past the issue then only will they be able to forgive. But, from personal experience, I found that I needed to choose to forgive first.

It was truly an amazing experience to forgive and release the person who hurt me. If I hadn’t, there would have been no incentive to deal with the pain and disappointment. Once I forgave that person, it was easier to forgive myself.

I realised that my creator forgave my sins. None of us is perfect. If you think you are perfect then throw the first stone at your offender. Just because your sin is not seen, does not, by any means, make you perfect. One day, you might need your offender’s forgiveness. The manner in which you judge others is a matter of sowing and reaping.

When you decide to forgive, you will still feel the disappointment, disillusionment, emotions and betrayal; you will feel alone, but when you have forgiven, you have hope and faith that it will get better, one day at a time. It means that I want to free myself and the offender, not because they deserve it but because I deserve peace.

One of the greatest gifts in life is the gift of forgiveness. Guys, it’s an opportunity towards a more fulfilling life, yet so few choose it… it brings hope, raises faith, makes your spirit soar, provides opportunities to be a better, stronger and wiser person. Then you can say in all humility that yes, I was broken, hurt and betrayed, but I had the power through the act of forgiveness to allow myself the freedom to choose and not be robbed of a good life and also not to rob the one who hurt me of a chance at being a better person.

Until next week

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