Dad finds missing daughters on Facebook

2011-03-15 10:19

Durban - A policeman was able to give his daughter, on her 15th birthday on Saturday, the Winnie the Pooh umbrella he had bought for her fifth birthday.

“She nearly died laughing,” Warrant Officer Kobus du Plessis said on Monday from Rotterdam in the Netherlands.

He recently traced 15-year-old Zandrea and her sister, Leonie, 18, via Facebook after their mother had disappeared abroad with them 10 years ago.

He recounted how he found out on Zandrea’s fifth birthday that their mother, his ex-wife Ronel, had left the country with them.

Ronel had married a Dutch man and gone to live with him. But four years ago the marriage ended and she and the girls landed up on the streets.

“She couldn’t take care of the children and put them into foster care,” Du Plessis told Beeld.

He said Ronel told him she left South Africa after she lost her job and was too proud to ask for more money.

“That’s all in the past now,” Du Plessis said.

  • Melly30 - 2011-03-15 10:22

    Glad you have your little girls with you!!!

      lakhan7 - 2011-03-15 10:26

      glad a family reunited :) ...every girl needs a dad, and every dad need a lil girl to pass on life skills etc.

  • thecrawl240 - 2011-03-15 10:28

    Great story indeed

  • Grant - 2011-03-15 10:28

    Great to have a nice, feel good story for a change. Good for you mate, hope the future is now so much brighter for all of you.

      F|aw|eSs - 2011-03-15 10:58

      i agree!

  • Wedfew - 2011-03-15 10:29

    If only all Dads could be like you ... Girls you are lucky ... Nice story

  • symbiosis1981 - 2011-03-15 10:29

    Shoo!! what are the odds of that ever happening. but to run of with a new man to another country only to get ditched leave in the streets no family for support, now thats Pure Sweet revenge,

      MactheKnife - 2011-03-15 11:23

      Yes another sweet revenge. Glad for the Dad and daughters reunion.

      Homer - 2011-03-15 13:14

      its not revenge, its called karma

  • LogicBomb - 2011-03-15 10:31

    Another example of how good men/fathers are done in by spiteful women. Because of her fU&^(^ng pride and dishonesty, his daughters ended up on the streets!!! My heart goes out to him and I must commend him on his forgiving heart.

      Numzi - 2011-03-15 10:53

      @Logicbomb True, glad it all worked out well for him

      anita.nortje - 2011-03-15 16:35

      Not true - not all woman are spiteful... my sons father gave him up because "The new Girlfriend did not approve of him seeing his son" and till today he will always be welocome to see his son.

      sumac - 2011-03-16 07:02

      @anita.nortje .. I think your son's father gave up the wrong person - he should have given up the girlfriend, or doesn't he realise that blood is thicker than water. Good on you for having the right attitude!

  • Elf1 - 2011-03-15 10:32

    Well done!!! Ek wag al 5 jaar vir my seun en ek sal nie ophou hoop om hom te kry nie. Geniet hulle jy het baie om op te vang

      LogicBomb - 2011-03-15 10:36

      Jammer om te hoor maat, ek bid vir jou vir krag en geduld...

      ET - 2011-03-15 10:55

      Sterkte. Hoop jy kry hom. Kan nie maklik wees nie.

      Nebul - 2011-03-15 11:18

      I wish you strength and God's blessing to find your son. I would not wish that on anyone. Have faith Boet!!

      Smaal - 2011-03-15 11:41

      Sorry to hear Elf. I waited for my little daughter for 3 and a ½ years. One day I got this message from Face book (ironically enough) the X was back, no money... no nothing. When I opened the door that day I cried like a little girl. Now she is 5 and daddies little girl. Woman like this get all they deserve in the end. They always do. Don’t you ever give up!

      SAFFA-CAT - 2011-03-15 11:56

      I am a woman, and I DETEST these bi@tches who use their kids as weapons of "mass destruction" in order to wipeout their husbands/boyfriends etc. These women get away with so much, and are protected by draconian legislation/opinions & a society that more often than not refuses to believe that MEN can be victims. SHAME ON YOU HEARTLESS BI@THCES - may your kids end up hating you.

      Angelica - 2011-03-15 16:29

      Elf1, soos jy kan sien van die wonderlike tuiskoms van die kinders hierbo, dit gaan nog gebeur. Op die regte regte tyd. Hou moed. Hou net moed.

      Shaun - 2011-03-15 16:52

      @ Elf1. I know how you feel. I have not seen or spoken to my daughter for 3 yeas now. Her mother turned her against me after an ugly divorse. Me and my dauther were so close as any dad and daughter can be. All gone now. I can only hope things turn around. But I will not forgive me ex for the years I have missed!! Sorry but just can't.

      Wendy - 2011-03-16 13:32

      All the best. Heart sore for you

  • AJ - 2011-03-15 10:40

    What happens to this mother now? Does a father have any rights? What kind of person is selfish enough to cut their children off from a parent that has done no harm to them and wants to be a part of their lives. She would rather put her kids into foster care than let their father know where they are.... I wonder what would have happened to him had the tables been turned....probably serving 15 years for kidnapping etc. - 2011-03-15 10:47

      That mother has a lot of apologising to do, not only to Kobus but to her daughters. Silly pride got in the way.

      AJ - 2011-03-16 05:14 I am sure a lot of dad's would also like the opportunity of just being able to apologise. Law works differently for them though...

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:29

      You don't know the story, I mean everything from the start till the end! I'm the oldest daughter from him and my mom.

  • Lucymou - 2011-03-15 10:42

    What is wrong with some women. I lost my dad 12 years ago and there isn't a day that goes by that i don't wish he was here so for someone to willing take these girls away from their dad breaks my heart. I'm glad they were finally reunited after all every girl needs a daddy :)

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:31

      You don't know the story from the start till the end

  • ET - 2011-03-15 10:54

    Wow! Wonderful.

  • LadyJJ - 2011-03-15 10:59

    This is so sweet he never gave up on finding go dad

  • Tico - 2011-03-15 11:11

    I would love to hear the sequel. My daughter lives in PE and me in JHB. I miss her madly, so I know how his heart must have been breaking. What bowls me over is the grace he has to love and forgive. Hope we hear more of this story.

  • Tico - 2011-03-15 11:12

    a real story of grace and love. Must have torn him apart being away from his daugthers. his ex-wife got what she deserved, and in the end he got his daughters. His grace and love to forgive is amazing. I hope we hear more of this amazing story of fatherly love. Also proof that there are real dads out there.

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:32

      Don't talk like that about my mother!

  • Currie_Mafia - 2011-03-15 11:15

    A really 'feel good' story... All the best for the future to Kobus & his girls :)

  • Janaman - 2011-03-15 11:39

    cute man, but just to release some anger i want to curse the mother!!! JUSTICE BITCH

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:33

      Don't talk like that about my mother!!! You don't know the story from the start till the end!!!

  • IanJ - 2011-03-15 11:50

    Ex-wives can be real mean bitches when it comes to the kids. The Courts rule that mothers get at least joint custody but full habitation rights and the mothers easily use the kids as pawns againstthe father. When I got divorced I couldn't first understand why some divorced fathers eventually stopped seeing their kids but now I can understand it. Ex-wives can make your life a constant misery by trying to poison and spoil the relationship between children and fathers. The kids suffer the most.

      anita.nortje - 2011-03-15 17:04

      I dont know Ian - not all woman are like that. I'm blessed with the most stunning little boy... he father was such a good Dad, saw him at least once a month and pay's he's maintenance on time every month - for 2 years life was ok, then on my birth day he called and said "his new girlfriend does not approve of the relationship between him and his son" its 3 years later.... i have a stunning boyfriend now who my son calls father - but he knows who his real dad is... i feel so sad for him... how do you explain that Ian? a Dad who stay's less than 60km from his son dont want to see him because of a girl friend????

      AJ - 2011-03-16 05:17

      @anita.nortje: Ian has a good point there, it happens a lot, primarily beacuse children are spending more time with mom than dad. As for your case what kind of girlfriend asks a partner to give up on his son, and what type of moron agrees to it? She 'll probably want a kid with him sometime and wont see the irony in it herself....

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:33

      Don't talk like that about my mother!

  • StJohn - 2011-03-15 11:56

    Brilliant story- very happy for all involved. One thing, guys, please ... its not only mothers that disappear with the kids - LOADS of British mums are looking for their kids after the fathers (normally from Libya) disappear back to Libya with the kids and then its tickets. Let's all agree that parents on both sides of the tracks can be real *ssholes and not put the best interests of the child first!

  • GBES - 2011-03-15 12:38

    FACEBOOK is tops. It was the communication medium for the arab uprising,and now it unites families. It helps some through the work day,and helps you connects to school friends from long ago.

  • Dirkster - 2011-03-15 12:57

    Let me get this he has not seen his daughters in ten years? I offcourse don't know if he has searched for them...maybe...but he is a police officer so surely he has contacs surely the ex-wife should have family who might know where she is? Clearly what the wife did was illegal therefor authorities in the netherlands could have done something???? Police in south africa could have checked the airlines it would be regestired where she went just saying.....offcourse aweeesssssooommmeee that they can be reunited but ten years????

      neilsmith2103 - 2011-03-15 15:19

      piss off dirkster

      sydney - 2011-03-15 19:00

      Dirkster ...just share his happiness or shut up

      blondetopaz - 2011-03-16 08:37

      Dirkster - i personally know Kobus. He DID try. He contacted Interpol, got close and then they lost the lead. It really hurt him that he could not find his kids.

  • Anthony - 2011-03-15 13:30

    That is AWESOME!!!!!! All the love and happiness you can handle from here on!!!!

  • Tracy - 2011-03-15 14:52

    Cannot understand why women do this. My sons dad does not even pay maintenance I still allow him to go overseas to visit his father. Children are always the innocent victims of selfish women.

      Susannomore - 2011-03-15 15:07

      I agree with you Tracy. Mine also pays no maintenance, but I let him do all the things a Dad should be doing. But, in the same breath, I will mention that karma is a b*tch!!! As long as your heart and actions stay clear, your soul is free. I have forgiven and hope the best, because I know what will actually happen!

      AJ - 2011-03-16 05:19

      Sheesh you two are rare. I would not be so understanding as a mom. Fathers provide for their children, regardless of whether they are under the same roof or not. End of story. If you can only pay R 50 a month, so be it, but you pay it then, every month, on time, no excuse.

      MP3 - 2011-03-16 07:12

      It's all about the money for you AJ... Sad.

      Rookie - 2011-03-16 07:29

      @MP3 - of course it's about money - kids are expensive and the parent that has the child full time has to feed, clothe, medicate, school... it goes on and on. Why should the burnden be on one parent and the other gets all the joy and none of the responsibility!

  • Susannomore - 2011-03-15 15:03

    What a happy ending to a sad story. I hope the girls (and Mom) are safe now and that people have learnt from this.

  • eugenebriel - 2011-03-15 15:24

    That goes to show that through facebook you can re-unite loved ones.

  • Angelica - 2011-03-15 16:27

    WOW, what a fantastic reunion for a Father and long lost daughters!! I am ecstatic for you.

  • vimalinm - 2011-03-15 16:59

    vimalin likes facebook

  • CITIZEN - 2011-03-15 17:22

    facebook is becoming a find lost ones as i find a school friend of 23 years ago also via facebook thankyou facebook keep up the good work

      MP3 - 2011-03-16 07:36

      u mean u stalked and stalked and stalked until they eventually joined FB?

  • Jaimo - 2011-03-15 17:54

    Wow - actually a pleasant story for a change. All of the best and I hope you can grow some HAIR now!!

  • ET - 2011-03-15 19:49

    very happy for you and your girls !

  • another day - 2011-03-15 20:51

    Wonderful reunion. So happy for you all.

  • Monica - 2011-03-15 22:45

    Beautifull!!!! is all I can say!!

  • Joe - 2011-03-16 05:12

    I hope you slapped some sense into that useless ex of yours, boet

      Toby - 2011-03-16 05:32

      Joe I now know why a box is a box . Idiot !

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:38

      Don't talk like that about my mother!

  • Toby - 2011-03-16 05:30

    Very nice to the point and pleasant read. Best of life going forward.

  • BigPig69 - 2011-03-16 06:33

    Good on you mate!

  • ChiefN - 2011-03-16 07:05

    What a heart warming story.

  • DravenZN - 2011-03-16 08:05

    I'm a single male. i would love to be a dad someday. I love kids... and i truly HATE ppl who make kids suffer because of their selfish thoughts. think twice before you have kids

      Leonie du Plessis - 2014-02-05 17:39

      You don't know the story from the start till the end

  • Akhezi - 2011-03-16 09:39

    What's wrong with White women? always ill-treating their spouses.

  • tau.leoster - 2011-03-16 09:41

    Who better to be the girls' knight in shining armour, to come and save them from live on the streets, then their own father. I'm still quite interested to know exactly how he managed to trace them on FB? However, he is a police officer, so he was bound to trace them. Well done Kobus. Sincerely happy for you and the girls. Fantastic to hear that you are re-united. .

  • preshengovender69 - 2011-03-16 10:20

    I am glad to see facebook is being used for good purpose other then helping guys get chicks

  • dgscottnz - 2011-03-16 10:21

    Kobus you are the Jewel of the Nile and your Diamonds bring back the sparkle forever being the true dad you always were, am! No Dad, like a loving Dad...

  • juanontheweb - 2011-03-16 11:21

    OMG, I check every day if my son has joined facebook.. havnt see him in 4 years, I pray that one day i will have the same blessing, God bless them and may his life be overwhelmed with joy.

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