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Heartbroken dad: My son is a murderer

2011-05-05 10:53

Johannesburg - The father of an "obsessed" man who allegedly killed his girlfriend in front of a guard at her security complex, has described his son as a murderer.

“I feel like I have lost everything,” said Gerhard Jansen van Vuuren, 58, from Koster in the North West province, on Wednesday.

His daughter committed suicide at the age of 19 and his grandson committed suicide a week ago.

His son Gerhard jnr, 30, allegedly killed Andrea Venter, 25, a former Rustenburg auditor, with a pocket knife.

Murderer

Gerhard jnr apparently attacked Venter in her home in the Sibaya Sands complex in Fourways, Johannesburg on Monday morning, hitting her in the face with a knuckle duster and then stabbing her with a pocket knife in front of a security guard.

“He is a murderer in my eyes. He committed a murder. I still love him. He’s my child.”

Venter was like a daughter to him, he said.

Now his son is fighting for his life after he tried to cut his own throat with the same knife used to kill Venter.

He is still unconscious and under police guard in the high care unit of the Life Fourways Hospital, northwest of Johannesburg.

He has a deep knife wound over half of his throat.

Jansen van Vuuren snr admitted that his son and Venter had a stormy relationship.

Obsession

"I begged both of them and pleaded with them to leave each other alone. I do think he had an obsession with her.

“She kept on telling me, over and over, that they still loved each other.”

He described his son as stubborn and a perfectionist.

The couple met about eight years ago at a friend’s wedding and had been inseparable since then.

"He even paid for Andrea’s flight ticket when he went to London for almost five years to work for a top company. They lived together there,” said Jansen van Vuuren snr.

"She kept calling him, every day, even after they had both been in court about the interdict against him, which she at first wanted to withdraw but then did not.

"They were recently at two family events with me. Andrea accompanied Gerhard to my brother’s birthday in Rustenburg on April 9 and even celebrated Gerhard’s 30th birthday on April 12 at his townhouse.

Pain

He said there was no truth in allegations that Venter had left Rustenburg and had gone to hide from his son in Johannesburg. He said his son had worked as a computer programmer for more than four years in Gauteng. He lived in Roodepoort on the West Rand.

"I wish I knew what could have driven him to something like this."

His son apparently apologised to Venter’s parents, Dries and Annatjie Venter, after an incident in which he threatened to kill them.

"I feel the pain of Andrea’s parents, because I know what it is like to lose a child. It is there forever.”

Jansen van Vuuren snr’s daughter, Yvonne Jansen van Vuuren, committed suicide at the age of 19 in 1994. Her son, Gavin Hennings, 16, committed suicide just over a week ago on his grandfather’s smallholding in Koster.

 

Comments
  • pugwash - 2011-05-05 11:01

    Tragedy after tragedy, I really do feel sorry for this man. Cant imagine what he's gone/going through.

      Bob - 2011-05-05 11:03

      Agreed

      Christiaan - 2011-05-05 11:36

      @Steen Idiot troll.

      cancer1983 - 2011-05-05 11:39

      Seriously Steen get yourself some All Bran!

      WhiteEagle - 2011-05-05 11:39

      @ steen, when did you last look in the mirror? You F?@#$*% MORON, like I said before, I would like to find you in a dark alley one day.

      redrobot - 2011-05-05 12:00

      @steen, is that really necessary for you to make such a comment, do you get off by saying such things?, you must really be a sad lonely person to get pleasure out of continually stirring up peoples emotions like you always do. You come across to all of us as a small insignificant little worm. Please find another forum that you can go and pollute with your dribble, maybe their you will find what you so desperately need.

      CatvonH - 2011-05-05 15:16

      i keep missing steens comments. shouldn't even respond to him if his such @sshole

      NEWS24SUX - 2011-05-05 15:28

      Adams Family !

      Boitshepo - 2011-05-05 19:12

      who the hell is STEEN now i would luv to his his comments so i cud fck him up anyways i really feel sad for the father shame it cant be easy for him, he is trully suffering... i just wish people can learn to let go, the green eyed monster ans insecurities arent healthy foundation to build a happily ever after

      Tenielle Parker - 2011-05-06 06:20

      @steen DO EVERYONE A FAVOUR AND STOP TROLLING.

      Unskinny Bob - 2011-05-06 14:06

      Does sounds a bit messed up - that degree of suicide history hints at something bigger being amiss.

  • Palesta - 2011-05-05 11:10

    This is just so sad. I wish him all the support he can get.

  • Gorilla - 2011-05-05 11:15

    What a sad story. feel for this guy, I hope he can pull his life together.

  • Rover_ZA - 2011-05-05 11:15

    I would not wish what has happened in this man's life on anyone.

  • Lightdancer. - 2011-05-05 11:17

    What a heartbreaking story...there is so much pain...so many wounded...broken people out there...may healing and peace embrace them all...!

      Misan Thrope - 2011-05-05 13:32

      "may healing and peace embrace them all" Gosh, those are beautiful words and so perfect.

  • Barry - 2011-05-05 11:18

    I also feel very, very, sorry for this man. We should not only pray for the family of Andrea but also for this family. I am sure He raised His son the proper way and it is a pity some children can turn out this way.

      AJ - 2011-05-05 11:38

      @Bluemas - well the first half of your prayer requests has already been answered.

      my_story - 2011-05-05 11:38

      "I am sure He raised His son" strange comment to make Barry, considering his daughter, grandson and now son (attempted) committed suicide. That indicates to me that something is definitely wrong in that family.

      Barry - 2011-05-05 14:38

      @Bluemas The DA will the elections and we will come to power

      Susannomore - 2011-05-06 19:12

      @my_story - sure, it does sound like there is something wrong, but does it mean it is the Dad's fault? There is no evidence to prove this. I think his pain and honesty attests otherwise

  • yttocs69 - 2011-05-05 11:27

    K I'm probably going to get slagged for the first time....but either the dad has realy bad luck or the wheel has gone right around.!

      GinSA1 - 2011-05-06 07:24

      What are you saying? That old thing about the sins of the father being visited on the son? If so, this in reference to you second part of the 'either', you're a prat.

  • penada - 2011-05-05 11:32

    interesting to see this has not yet deteriorated into racial innuendoes, like the case of the black serial killer in the states from south africa...perhaps because the perpertrator in this case is white, am i wrong?

      Airwolf - 2011-05-05 11:49

      @penada, thanks, you've just changed that.

      M.H - 2011-05-05 11:57

      what a nob of a thing to say

      Shai-hulud - 2011-05-05 12:33

      I don't think anybody sympathises with the murderer, but everybody with a shred of decency sympathises with the people who has try and pick up the pieces after this senseless tragedy. Penada,you seem to be a loser in the same vein as Steen and Bluemas and Poliodonkey and the rest...

      scipio - 2011-05-05 13:20

      omfg. mAJOR CASE OF irony here. You just contradicting you're own reasoning. By making this statement you have proved yourself wrong. There are a few whities who take each opportunity to lash out whenever a black man is convicted of murder/rape or whatever, but mostly you will find people calling a spade a spade. This is one such case. No blacks involved here. It's a white murdering a white. Why should race be brought into such a case? I can't help but feel sorry for the Dad. He lost 2 children already (one being his grandchild) and now this. What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger.

      penada - 2011-05-05 14:14

      @ scipio actually i dont think i contradicted anything, u see...it baffles me everytime i read the news here that crime is always seen under the racial lense pretty much all the time a black person is the instigator...u only have to look at the article about that serial killer in america, with comments like u can take the black out of the bush but u can never take the bush about of the black...in that article alone u should see the huge number of comments in such vain.... @ shai-hulud it really matters not to me how you view me, truth be told you mean nothing to me, my life, my future...in fact u are insignificant to influence anything that is to do me, and the same goes the other way round...so you can call me loser all u like. i hope u are the winner in real life that you cast yourself to be here...thanks for your comment

      Kaleidoscope - 2011-05-05 19:52

      @penad - You are 100% correct! At the end of the day the best you can do is to avoid race commments on this site,becuase you are in the minority if you are not white on this site and you will get the short end of the stick, by bringing race into it.

      GinSA1 - 2011-05-06 07:24

      @M.H. because it is a 'nob'. Pathetic creature is penada

      Unskinny Bob - 2011-05-06 14:07

      @penada: I imagine a great many things baffle you. Irony being one of them.

      Susannomore - 2011-05-06 19:15

      Well done Penada! Valid attempt, but it looks as though the general commentators are sick of the racist remarks at this point and would just like to say what is on their heart. Off you go to another site to find what you are looking for. Shooe now...

  • mev - 2011-05-05 11:35

    I'm sincerely sorry for all of the loss and pain you have experienced.

  • winter123 - 2011-05-05 11:39

    What a history of mental problems...! I feel sorry for the father though.

  • Busi - 2011-05-05 11:46

    It's enough now, please God! Poor guy! The devil is trying to ruin the family. Don't allow him to destroy you, be strong and trust in God. God will fight for you, keep on praying and be still!

  • MacDaKnife - 2011-05-05 11:46

    Wow, tragedy one after the other. Feel sorry for the father. Atleast we know how the relationship was before his sons barbaric action.

      Nebkad - 2011-05-05 12:23

      @MacDaKnife "Atleast we know how the relationship was before his sons barbaric action." Why does it matter to YOU how the relationship was?

      Podgette - 2011-05-05 14:22

      Nebkad... because initial reports indicated she was hiding from him but the father confirms that they still had contact, initiated from BOTH sides... Some relationships are just destructive.

  • Don - 2011-05-05 11:48

    The sins of the fathers shall be visited upon the sons to the third and fourth generation.

      gizzy - 2011-05-05 13:01

      A quote from????

      Maryna123 - 2011-05-05 16:52

      @gizzy - From the bible, but only half the quote. @Don if you want to quote, quote the whole verse, then the meaning change substantially, doesn't it. It is for those that hate God, can you proof that this man's family did not belief in God? Asshole!!

      Neil - 2011-05-06 09:55

      Don, do you have kids? I hope not... Religion has absolutely nothing to do with this.

      rob4e - 2011-05-06 13:22

      Man I hate religious zealots

  • candledelight - 2011-05-05 11:48

    My hart go out to both the familys, My our Heavenly Father hold them in His arms for He also cry for them, GOD LOVE YOU ALL.

  • Happy-go-lucky - 2011-05-05 11:51

    shame...poor guy...he's had some hardcore badluck. Hopefully he manages to pull through and move on happily.

  • Helen - 2011-05-05 11:54

    Shame what a lot of heartache he has endured. Humans are strange. We read a story and then we all shout the odds and judge but I have learnt in life that bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. Although I dont for one minute condone all the murders, rapes etc., when I read these articles, I wonder what makes people "snap" and cause them to do the horrendous things they do? I also learnt from my good friend Elvis (yes Presley) "Never judge a man till you have walked in his shoes". And before you start asking me how I would feel if it were a family member of mine, I have had 2 family members murdered. The point I am trying to make is that we are too quick to judge and scream "hang him, kill him" etc. etc. No "normal" person behaves like this. These people are very troubled and in a dark place. It's a sad fact of life that many of us will go through some kind of heartache brought on by the actions of our fellow human beings. Very very sad... If only I had a magic wand.....

  • PinkSparkle - 2011-05-05 12:16

    Unbelieveble some of the comments here, many coming from people who are parents themselves. For thos hinting it might be his fault: A family consists of more than a father, it consists of a mother, grandparents...in fact any number of people could have caused or prevented this. Also, mental illness and depression is hereditary and it's very possible that those involves either suffered from depression, psychopathy or bipolar disorder. No wonder civilization is in shambles: instead of reaching a hand of comfort out to this man, you choose to rather point and judge. He has owned up to what his son did, instead of, like many of the parents here, looking for excuses why his son did nOT do it.This is just a sad, preventable tragedy and I really hope that this man will find the comfort and support from somewhere. But with the type of mentality displayed here I don't hold much hope.

      tommy 2 - 2011-05-05 12:48

      @pink sparkle It is not my kids running around killing people or taking their own lives. About being a better human( i am only being real) If you are that concerned about mr van vuuren then why dont you go and offer you comfort and support in a physical presence. I am sure Mr van vuuren is not reading what is being written on this site.

      PinkSparkle - 2011-05-05 13:00

      As a mother of a two year boy, I would have loved to be able to reach out to him with support. While I raise my child to be the best he can be, I also know there are factors that are out of my hands and that he may well end up in the same position one day...and I will still love him regardless. Clearly you think your kids are perfect little angels, and you may or may not be in for a shock some day. You can't prove that he is not reading this site and just for the sake of being a better human being, you should assume that he does and not judge him and his as if you know their entire history and story. Luckily I can repeat what I say here to his face, while I don't think you have the guts to do the same. May you never have to stand at the open grave of your child because of suicide, and may you never be the parent of the child hated by the country because of a gruesome murder on an innocent young woman. There are more than one victim here. But you wouldn't realise that because you have the perfect family.

      Helen - 2011-05-05 13:15

      @Tommy - not your kids running around killing people etc? And just how do you know that ONE DAY it wont be one of your kids?? Unless of course you are a goat and hence you have "kids". As pinksparkle says "you must be living a perfect life etc." No matter how good a parent we are there is NO guarantee that our children will grow up the way we want them to. Look at all the children/adults who were raised by good parents who spent time with them and they are addicts, alcoholics, violent etc etc. Dont make this about "poor" parenting. Actually just had a thought, how old are you???

      Podgette - 2011-05-05 14:28

      "It is not my kids running around killing people or taking their own lives" ~ Oh dear Tommy 2, hope you don't come to regret this smug, self righteous comment. Are your children dead? Because that is the only time you would be able to make that comment confidently - when your children are no longer and have not committed these deeds!

      tommy 2 - 2011-05-05 14:56

      @PINKSPARKLE: please do not use your 2 year old as an excuse for not going to see Mr van VUUREN.(DONT HIDE BEHIND YOUR CHILD) My kids perfect little angels, NOT(this is when parents make the mistake & cannot see the faults in there kids and correct these faults) When you are born the only thing you are guranteed is that you will die. What happens in between is up to you or parents that decide to bring life into the world. About the young woman,she should have been able to see that this guy is just a little mentally unstable as we can read that they have had endless problems. @Helen So your ideology is, lets have a child or two & lets pray &wish they turn out ok. Spare me the crap about children raised by good parents......... You have a child that is an alcoholic because the parents drink at home,while braaing,family gatherings etc... The child is exposed to this by the family and thinks this is exceptable. But it is 2011 & there are other items on the market other than alcohol(which is less smelly but highly addictive.) Hence we have a drug addict. So were did it all start... The addict will tell you it is when my dad & mum used to invite family members over to watch the rugby..... and alcohol was available. This nonsense got to do with poor parenting. You should teach your kids that in life suicide is the most cowardly choice to make.

      PinkSparkle - 2011-05-05 15:38

      Actually Tommy, if you read correctly you would see that my son is hardly the reason why I have not visited him. My son is the reason why I would visit him because, as a fellow parent of a son, I can only imagine what he must be feeling. Go wipe the egg off your face now Your comment "When you are born the only thing you are guranteed is that you will die. What happens in between is up to you or parents that decide to bring life into the world." directly contradicts the fact that you just said the father is is the cause of all this.....so what are your point exactly now?

      tommy 2 - 2011-05-05 18:36

      @pink sparkle pOOR PARENTING,

      Lydon - 2011-05-05 20:01

      Tommy, you disgust me. The irony in this situation is that you're sitting on your high horse harping on about bad parenting, yet I'm downright grateful I didn't have someone like you raising me. What a pathetic example you're setting for your children...judging someone when you have absolutely no idea what they've been through or how they've tried to raise their kids. In your home I think it's a case of the parent needing a fat klap.

      tommy 2 - 2011-05-05 23:22

      @LYNDON Going to get a new saddle for the horse.

      Chillepeppa - 2011-05-06 06:52

      Tommy, "You have a child that is an alcoholic because the parents drink at home,while braaing,family gatherings etc..." I'm sorry, but am I reading right here? So if I were to have my 2 glasses of wine while entertaining my friends, I am setting my son up to become an alcoholic? Diabolical!! Thanks for the advanced warning... Reading you comments kinda also gave me the feeling that although your kids might not be the angels that they were accused of being, you seemed to think that YOU will not fail as a parent, and I'm not judging here, but as are the trend on these sites, where most of us hide behind a screen name (as I am myself) I can guarantee you there will be someone who, just like you, feels like he will do a much better job at raising you kids then you are currently doing, so before you judge other on what might be their best effort, try to walk a mile in their shoes first...

      Helen - 2011-05-06 08:25

      @Tommy.... You are the one talking crap. How can you say if a child grows up in a home where there is alcohol they will become an alcoholic? Well how about this : My father was an alcoholic who beat the crap out of my mother. Neither myself nor my siblings DRINK or BEAT their partners. In fact both my brothers hold high positions and I am probably the most successful in our family yet I was the one running in the streets with my mother !!! So your "poor" parenting theory has just been shot out the water in my case and I can assure you in many other cases too. WE have CHOICES in life and WE decide how to behave. You make statements without even knowing what type of life a person has had and blame poor parenting. Shame...

      Maryna123 - 2011-05-06 09:16

      @everyone commenting on tommy 2 and Steen - let them be, they are trollers, just out for irritating the living daylight out of everyone, they are bored and dont have anything worth while to do...

      Happy-go-lucky - 2011-05-06 15:50

      @Lydon, well said. @PinkSparkle, carry on doing what you doing. There is nothing wrong with it, im sure you are doing a fantastic job at it :)

  • Francois - 2011-05-05 12:18

    Jeezlike, seems the insanity runs in the family here. Feel for the dad. Really sad.

  • lynnea.gough - 2011-05-05 12:22

    aw man, my heart aches for this man. what a tragedy.

  • Roasty - 2011-05-05 12:50

    This is truly a real tragedy!!!

  • tbone - 2011-05-05 13:09

    Depression is an illness that runs in families. It is also an illness that has been neglected in conservative and religious families because it is a sickness of the mind and therefore not taken seriously!

      ET - 2011-05-05 15:20

      Depression is def genetic...

      Maryna123 - 2011-05-05 17:00

      It is not taken seriously, it is simply ignored, or you are told that you are stupid and it does not exist. It sure as hell runs in families, just like any other mental illness. Just like cancer also runs in families...

  • Oogklaploos - 2011-05-05 13:17

    That is so sad :-(

  • fannyadams - 2011-05-05 13:22

    There is only ONE judge in the world - and none of you is that judge. Mr van Vuuren I feel your heartache and as a parent myself would not wish this upon anybody. The way people bring their children up has nothing to do with how they turn out - you can be the best parent, give your children the best education and the best of everything, does not mean the children will walk a different path. Once your children are old enough and big enough to make their own choices, there is nothing the parents can say or do - the parents have done their job, it is now up to the children!!

  • Babylee - 2011-05-05 13:35

    I'm shocked, how can you ppl judge this family,WHO gave you the wright to write such negative comments on a family you have never met or have not a clue what IS REALLY HAPPENING under this mans roof. My goodness you ALL ARE SICK, NONE OF YOU have any wright to Judge this man or his family, I feel sorry for all you ppl who think you know how bad this parent was or what he has done to his family in the past, SICK !! Get a life to those who judge so cold heartdly... DON'T DO UNTO OTHERS THAT YOU DO NOT WANT DONE TO YOU, Always remember you can NEVER SAY NEVER !! lET THIS man grieve his loss, not grieve over how cold ppl are towards him. get a life and get a HEART

      Ping Pong - 2011-05-05 14:07

      Babylee - please enroll in some spelling and grammar classes before commenting...

      Barry - 2011-05-05 14:36

      @Ping Pong I agree

      Buckle - 2011-05-05 19:27

      @ping pong & barry. Read the comment and don’t play teacher!! Not all of us are English!

      Buckle - 2011-05-05 19:28

      @ping pong & barry. Read the comment and don’t play teacher!! Not all of us are English!

      JunkPunch - 2011-05-05 21:35

      @Buckle, why don't you STFU and read the comment without playing teacher?

      Barry - 2011-05-06 10:25

      @Buckle You mean Eeeengrish

  • Currie_Mafia - 2011-05-05 14:16

    one seriously f#%ked up family...This man should seek professional help asap.

  • memory.maguire - 2011-05-05 14:29

    violent tendencies should be curbed in a child while they are still small. Unfortunately no child is born with a manual, and it is so difficult to teach them respect for life in a world full of violence.

  • Totman - 2011-05-05 14:31

    I red of some insanity. I would rather say some insanity runs in these comment blocks. Prosecutors, psychologists, experts in all, clear-sighted, racist and judges. All can be found in this site and sometimes you will find a person who pretend to be all-in-one, writing his comment. .....ok, every one has a right to comment, but why being ugly?

  • Snoopy88 - 2011-05-05 14:40

    That is just too much pain and heartache for one person to bear.. Why do young people do such things?

  • DebbyLou - 2011-05-05 14:55

    I pray for this man - he's had it rough! I pray for the lady's family - that they may find comfort from God/ family/ friends through this tragedy... we are not to judge!

  • ET - 2011-05-05 15:17

    Sterkte Gerhard Jansen van Vuuren Snr. Dit moet vreeslik wees. Dink aan albei families.

  • chantal de pierres - 2011-05-05 15:31

    If you have good mental health, you are lucky, if you are struggling with certain issues in your life, get help, help is available.

  • Nawe - 2011-05-05 15:42

    This incident further validates that whyt people are incapable of governing themselves. i'd like to hear what Verwoed would have said about this incident, or could it be attributed to Malema signing kill the Boer? ANC must just be in power forever to spare whyt lives.

      Podgette - 2011-05-05 16:55

      You obviously haven't taken advantage of the "free" education your govt is offering.. white not whyt; singing not signing. Take this comment in the same spirit as yours was made. Because I hope you are commenting tongue in cheek and not being serious

      JunkPunch - 2011-05-05 21:40

      @Nawe - Your comment further validates that racists come in all shades.

      Neil - 2011-05-06 10:12

      Nawe, Use the spell-check. You say that "whyt" people cannot govern themselves. Let me enlighten you: England is a first world country as well as most of Europe. The USA as well. They are all white governed and are all first world countries. They have less violent crime than most countries governed by blacks. When last were any of them ruled by Dictators such as Mugabe, Ghadaffi etc? Take your thinking cap and think it over. You are an ill informed idiot for bringing race into a subject that has absolutely nothing to do with race.

  • DeonL - 2011-05-05 15:45

    Some people would say: "where did he go wrong?" or maybe it was a genetically weak streak in the family or was it perhaps an unstable home?

  • masimone - 2011-05-05 16:07

    Ag Shame, I hope he gets help so that he doesn’t end up committing suicide, this man is really depressed, I cant image the pain he is going through, it must be very difficult for him to cope in a situation like this

  • zule - 2011-05-05 18:14

    Wow...this poor guy is living in a world of hurt...my heart goes out to him

  • marguerite - 2011-05-05 18:31

    @my_story, You are probably one of those people blaming your parents for everything you do wrong. As a mother myself, I can't imagine what either of the parents are going through. Truely very sad!!

  • maseratifitt - 2011-05-05 18:47

    On this earth nothing is deserved and nothing is owed. May you find calmer waters, Gerhard.

  • Wayne - 2011-05-05 21:10

    ...and not one person realised he was deranged. I sincerely hope I never have to feel the father's pain...it must be unimaginable.

  • Monica - 2011-05-05 21:29

    You are a broken man with such a sad story and I really feel sorry for you. May God be with you in all your sorrow.

  • Muzdog27 - 2011-05-05 22:30

    "Jansen van Vuuren snr’s daughter, Yvonne Jansen van Vuuren, committed suicide at the age of 19 in 1994. Her son, Gavin Hennings, 16, committed suicide just over a week ago on his grandfather’s smallholding in Koster." So she was maximum 3 when she had him!!?? confusing reporting... condolences to the family....

      Francis - 2011-05-05 23:11

      It is really confusing reporting, I think they need to get their facts correct before publishing a story like this. Strange you are the only one who picked this up, means you the only one who read the story correctly. Well done MUZDOG

      Yaseen - 2011-05-06 02:13

      No dum dum, read properly. Yvonne was 19 in 1994, and her son Gavin was prob an infant then. Hope u get it now

      Helen - 2011-05-06 08:31

      The facts are correct. Maybe you should learn to count...

      Helen - 2011-05-06 08:32

      @Francis - actually he/she is the only one who read wrong but good on you for praising him/her...

      My5cents - 2011-05-06 10:29

      Um... she would have been nearly 36 now had she lived. The son must have been a small baby when she comitted suicide. Possibly she suffered from post partum depression - not uncommon.

      lizmar.malan - 2011-05-06 14:02

      Ai shame, didn't pass math????

  • Julz - 2011-05-05 23:38

    This is tragic..I will keep you and your family in my prayers!

  • Mordred - 2011-05-06 01:42

    Its always the parents who suffer the most.

  • Nawe - 2011-05-06 09:25

    Really feel sorry for the guy, very sad story. But truth be told had the lady been murdered by a black man, the entire white community would be blaming this incident on the ANC or on Malema signing heritage songs. Fact is South African whites are the most biased people in the whole world & suffer from selective judgement. This is further proof that white people are incapable governing themselves & our African gov should govern them as they clearly canot live in peace in modern soceity.

      Helen - 2011-05-06 09:30

      Whahahahahahahahahahahhaahahha...... U sooooo funny..... *Huge round of applause, standing ovation* Now off you go and "sign" heritage songs with Malema....

      gunner - 2011-05-07 00:16

      Nawe, what the heck are you talking about? This is a family tragedy, not a racial incident. Jy's dom.

  • Enuff - 2011-05-06 09:52

    To lay blame squarely on the father's shoulders without knowing all the facts would be grossly unfair. Clearly this is a troubled family - either these tragic events are a result of existing problems or they will cause new problems. Either way I hope that they know that there is help available to them that will assist through this traumatic time as well as to rebuild their broken lives. To both families - my sincere condolences. I cannot imagine how heart broken you all must be. To Mr Jansen van Vuuren - I admire the courage that it must have taken to be so open about the tragedies you have suffered. May you all find peace and comfort.

  • Debonaire - 2011-05-06 09:53

    PEACE BE WITH YOU

  • leigh.jacobs2 - 2011-05-06 10:06

    OMW..... What on earth could this poor family have done to deserve one tradegy to the next.....

  • Hlabirwa - 2011-05-06 10:15

    This is bad..It gives us two sides of the story.

  • Nawe - 2011-05-06 10:38

    Race has everything to do with this incident. For years Africans have been undermined & lambasted by white media about how uncivilzed we are & would never live in perfect harmony together but what happened here? How did the uncivilzed,barbaric gov contribute to this evil deed? What would Verwoed say about this barbaric act? someone please explain. The problem in this country is White people are quick to judge forgetting what goes around comes around...

      Kristi10 - 2011-05-06 10:49

      Nawe whites do not break into peoples home and kill three year olds. neither do we rape innocent children as a cure for AIDS, neither do we kill innocents for muti. I could go on and on and on. These are white people who were onvolved with this tragic terrible incident but if you read the papers it happens very often in the black comunity as well. Verwoerd is long dead so he cannot say anything. The problem is black people with chips on their shoulders.

      Ping Pong - 2011-05-06 10:50

      @Nawe - You really are f*ck*d up (for lack of a better word). Did you even go to school, or wait... are you one of those "blacks" who just destroyed the schooling that was given to you because of your uneducated hatred for "whyte" people. Why couldnt the NAVY seals have taken you out too. Stupid fool.

      Mannie777 - 2011-05-06 12:35

      Pure racist comments. By Africans you mean blacks only right, wrong. I'm African too South African to be exact and I'm "whyte" and there is nothing you can do/say to change that.

  • jamesonl - 2011-05-06 12:34

    There are some deapseated problems in this family. Something needs to be done fast

  • kathleen - 2011-05-06 12:58

    There but for the grace of God goes all of us. Your life can change in the twinkling of an eye!. No matter how rich, how poor, how educated, or uneducated you are.... your life can change for better or worse in the twinkling of an eye!. Thank the Lord everyday for blessings no matter how small.