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Pre-marital sex 'end of church'

2009-12-10 08:42

Pretoria - "If the Dutch Reformed Church has decided to justify living together and sex before marriage, it will most certainly mean the final collapse of the church."

This is the opinion of Gretha Wiid, presenter of the Worthy Women Conference (WWC), amid debates regarding the possibility that the Dutch Reformed Church (NG Kerk) will revise its policy regarding unmarried couples living together and sex beyond the confines of marriage.

"I don't care what the pope, the church or anyone else says. My husband, Francois, and I believe that marriage is sacred, and that sex before marriage can only be harmful," she told Beeld on Wednesday.

According to Wiid, sex is not just about a relationship between two people, but rather about a covenant between them and God.

Drastic moral decay

"If these decisions are confirmed, we'll see even more drastic moral decay among our youth. We'll see hurt and damaged adults in the world.

"The church is handing pain and brokenness on a silver platter to those who've given sex before marriage some thought," said Wiid.

Wiid says that as long as people continue to adjust God's word to fit in with their own lifestyle, they will just behave more rebelliously.

"Before you know it, we, the Christians, will be revising God."

"It's terrifying and yet also exciting, because it just goes to show that we're living in the last days," said Wiid.

Wiid is a relationship counsellor and motivational speaker who has been active with youth ministry in schools over the past eight years, and for the past four years she's been presenting women's get-togethers each Saturday. On Wednesday she said that she's planning to launch her own talk show, possibly even as soon as March next year.

"We've been keeping our faith in the Lord for this opportunity for many years."

Wiid plans to focus "deeply on family relationships" in the current affairs programme.

Thieves within a marriage

"There are many thieves within a marriage. Everything from the television to working overtime. The employer no longer understands that his employee has a family who's waiting for him or her in the evenings.

"If marriage became important to the employer, marriage would also be elevated. I want to facilitate topical conversations among family members," Wiid said excitedly. She did not want to elaborate further on this topic.

After many rumours that the WWC had only been a quick money-making scheme for the Wiids, she says she's been in the ministry for many years already, and that the WWC happened to be the first conference to receive so much exposure.

"What most people don't know is that I've done three other women's conferences this year, each attended by nearly 1 000 women. But WWC just received much more exposure.

"And Francois and I did not go to Mauritius after the WWC," Wiid joked.

"We believe in our hearts that, if marriages are healthy in all aspects, a generation of emotionally healthy children will be born. The people who are going to be deciding about living together and premarital sex should know that they will have to account for their decisions one day. And they will.”