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Shelters refuse 'party babies'

2011-11-20 17:00

Johannesburg - If you are a young mother planning to drop your little one at a shelter while you go off partying this festive season, think again.

Centres caring for abandoned babies in the country’s three major ­cities are tired of playing nanny to babies whose mothers plan to give up their parenting responsibilities during the December holidays.

The Door of Hope – a haven for desperate mothers – based in Berea, Johannesburg, issued a stern warning that all children who are left with them during this time will be put up for adoption.

The centre manager, Francina Mphago, said: “We are here to help desperate mothers who do not want to be parents or cannot take care of their babies. [We do not help] people who just want to have fun for a certain period without worrying about a child at home.

“Any mother who brings her child to us now, hoping to come back in February to claim her baby, must know that we will put the child up for adoption.”

Door of Hope is in a position to accommodate up to 12 babies from birth to two.

The centre created a hole in the wall where desperate mothers can place their babies inside what it calls the “baby bin”. This can be done at any time of day without them being questioned.

Alarm

As soon as a baby is placed inside the “bin”, which has a cushion and a blanket inside it, an alarm is set off to alert staff in the house.

Mphago said December was the busiest month at the centre. Last year, she explained, three mothers came back to fetch their babies long after the holidays were over.

“We get a lot of babies around this time. I am not sure why, but I think mothers want to be free and enjoy themselves without the burden of looking after a baby!” she said.

Florence Dodovu, founder of Ncedolethu Educare Centre in Mfuleni township, near Blue Downs in the Western Cape, shares Mphago’s sentiments.

Speaking to City Press, she said she was bracing for an influx of abandoned babies as the year-end holidays approach.

“I have space for about 10 abandoned babies in my house but in December, I get more than 40 babies. As a result I now work with other foster mothers who help by taking in some of the babies,” she said.

Partying

“What makes me angry is that young mothers, especially teenagers, abandon babies so that they are free to party all night long. They know very well that their babies will be taken to shelters where they’re cared for.

“I have no problem looking after children because I love kids, but I don’t like what these teenagers are doing.

Why have a baby in the first place if you know that you can’t handle parenting responsibilities?”

Ikhaya Likababa, a home for orphaned and abandoned babies in Empangeni, KwaZulu-Natal, said it also experiences an influx of babies in December. But co-ordinator Wendy Oxley said it was rare for a mother only to come back in January to fetch her child.

“Most mothers who bring kids to us in December are teenagers who I suspect don’t want the burden of looking after a baby when the schools re-open.

“But it is possible that they also want to enjoy the season’s festivities, which is why we get more babies around this time,” said Oxley.

Comments
  • goyougoodthing - 2011-11-20 17:25

    Who does this? WTF? They should: 1. Not get their kids back 2. Be sterilised 3. Made to work on chain gangs Well at least one and two

      Gerda - 2011-11-20 19:18

      A lot of them have babies just to get a government grant.

      goyougoodthing - 2011-11-20 19:33

      Gerda, then I think it's simple: 1. Get a licence to have a child, 1 child 2. Have more than one and you start to pay child tax, as they drain resources. 3. Have zero and get a rebate. 4. Show IQ and income is decent and purchase a licence for more than one if you want and pay the tax on them. There are enough people in the world.

      Yar - 2011-11-20 21:21

      @Go Option 3 is also good

      Kim - 2011-11-21 05:18

      ... and what responsibility do the father's have? They took great pleasure in making these unwanted babies which they then politely leave for the women to take care of. When is society going to start holding MEN accountable for sowing their seed???????

      barry.mcbride - 2011-11-21 14:20

      @goyougoodthing: I’d say that evidence of EQ be considerably more appropriate than IQ in such.

  • Robert - 2011-11-20 17:28

    These bitches dont deserve the privelage of being a mother.

      Melanie - 2011-11-21 10:59

      Neither do the fathers deserve a life because they leave the so called bitches to fend for themselves

  • Mary - 2011-11-20 18:14

    Maybe they want to earn extra money with prostitution during this 'easy' time to be able to look after their babies at all? Please don't judge too harshly if you don't know the circumstances of these girls.

      Michelle - 2011-11-20 18:40

      "Don't judge"?? But you have already "judged" that they could be prostitutes???

      sadiemy - 2011-11-20 18:41

      And in nine months time they will have another one to dump.....

      goyougoodthing - 2011-11-20 19:21

      Mary, I think they are clearly unfit to be parents. There should be some kind of test and some kind of fine for having kids you can't afford.

      JannieSwem - 2011-11-20 19:59

      mary!!! kids are not meal tickets!!! dont have them if you are poor!!!!!!!!!!!

      Kim - 2011-11-21 05:24

      @Mary, you are the only one who has said anything sensible here. I find it absolutely amazing that men are the ones who make these babies (no woman can make a baby on her own), they then leave the women to take care of the babies while the are off making babies elsewhere and yet it is always the men who shout the loudest when something goes wrong.

      Dorothea - 2011-11-21 07:39

      oh mary! if these 'ladies' want to be whores, then they have no right to bring children into this world.

      stewartridgway - 2011-11-21 09:45

      @Kim - I know a lot of men are just dicks with legs that run away very fast, but there are also a lot of men that contribute greatly to society and we also to get to have our say against this awful state of irresponsible and inhumane child baring then dumping. It takes 2 to tango and make babies. Don't be a sexist, it's as low as racism. @Mary - there are better ways to get your child looked after if you really are a good loving parent... like giving it up for adoption in the proper manner. not just dumping it for the "festive" season.

  • fishycraig - 2011-11-20 18:23

    Errr, taking them and putting them up for adoption is exactly what the shelters should do. I couldn't believe mother's capable of this. They don't deserve their children.

      zeekoevlei - 2011-11-20 19:31

      Parenting is not just for when you "feel" like it... it is a 24/7/365 days a year job...

  • Winsome - 2011-11-20 19:33

    Its like dropping off your animals at the SPCA so you can go on holiday - but without paying! This is what happens when teenagers are offered a grant if they fall pregnant. Wish the government would stop this grant.

      Grant - 2011-11-20 22:40

      The ANC would not be willing to do that. Too many of their supporters are dependant on grants. Think about it : a typical black couple have, say 4 teenage daughters who have between 1 and 4 babies who receive grants. If at this stage grants were to be withdrawn there would be pandemonium. People would have to go and try to find work when there isn't any. Before the last election the ANC warned people that a vote for any other party would mean an end to grants. Look what the result was.

  • JannieSwem - 2011-11-20 19:57

    this is sick, and then they breed again in december parties, they should be sewn up nevermind sterlised.

  • dunehadad - 2011-11-20 20:00

    @goyougoodthing: Violate human rights much? IQ? Rebate? Are we heading for another Eugenic movement? Or are children becoming part of the economy? The simple answer is education. Which our government is lacking.

      goyougoodthing - 2011-11-20 21:21

      Human Rights need to be reassessed. The current situation is unsustainable and I would rather violate some notion of 'human right' than end up where this is going. In this case I'm sorry I am on the side of Eugenics rather than the current stupidity breeding everywhere. Why, because in giving 'human rights' to those unable to support kids you make it my problem to do so on their behalf.

  • leigh.ridgway - 2011-11-21 06:55

    @Kim - Women are the ones who lie on their backs and spread their legs. It's THEIR responsibility to ensure that the man they are lying with uses condoms. They are the ones with the womb, they should take extra care when freely handing their 'guavas' out!

      stewartridgway - 2011-11-21 09:53

      i agree. it takes two to make a baby. this kim lady clearly is a sexist. if the women was raped, i'm sorry for her and the child, really I do... but even then if she can't/doesn't want to take care of the child, she should give the child up for adoption using the correct channels... not just dump it.

  • Thulisa - 2011-11-21 09:39

    It really doesn't matter whether it's the male or the female at fault. They are both equally responsible, there are free pregnancy prevention injections in South African health facilities why are they neglecting them, there are free condoms distributed and they don't use them. The point is these babies are neglected and the rsponsibility is being shifted to the care centres which are supposed to take care of orphans or babies for parents that work and don't afford child minders. unfortunately the SA youth has a "deppressing" sense of entitlement this is why we have this problem, they're given money for their irresponsibilities with no questions asked, sometimes they give birth, dump the baby and still get a grant for it. Sad! Government just wants to be seen as doing their jobs, helping out the poor, fulfilling promises yet even spoilt rich teens give birth and get the grant just as a pocket money!

  • danielle.toerien - 2011-11-21 09:47

    "Hoelie haaa!!!" What are they thinking?? Be a mother when it suits them? This is seriously the most ridiculous thing I've read! What's wrong with these woman. Maybe it's because they dont have an education, have babies, cant feed them, stand on the corner to make money to feed them and then fall pregnant AGAIN! Then start the circle of life again! And for all we know, half of these babies are born with HIV! There are so many woman who cant have babies, and these woman are breeding them like muffins in the oven! Haibo!!!

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