Be the one in charge of your own life

By admin
03 December 2013

Being controlled and checked up on in a relationship was the last straw for me and I walked away, says Zelda la Grange, who is blogging for YOU during the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children campaign.

Photo: Ed Yourdon via Compfight cc Photo: Ed Yourdon via Compfight cc

He was crazy about me from day one. I entertained it for a while but have always been inherently suspicious of people liking me too much. It’s not that I have a low self-esteem, but I am a realist.

At first I liked the attention but then he started checking up on me. I would have coffee with a male friend and he would call me continuously with something “seemingly” important.

He would call every few minutes of the day and after a few weeks, we had very little to talk about as we were constantly on the phone. I became claustrophobic and my resistance led to arguments.

My friends warned me that they didn’t like him and he took my best male friend aside at an event to tell him that if my friend ever messed with me, there would be trouble.

It was the final straw. I detest being controlled by someone!

All the red lights were flashing and looking back, I am proud to say that I could walk away.

The wonderful thing is that one may feel bruised walking out of a relationship like that but as soon as some time has passed, those bruises turn into scars of victory.

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Zelda la Grange, private secretary to ex-president Nelson Mandela, is blogging for YOU during the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children campaign. Sheworks with the Nelson Mandela Foundation and does motivational talks. She is also active with projects such as Bikers for Mandela Day and Sisters with Blisters in her role as patron for the 1st for Women Insurance Trust.

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