‘Don’t bury me,’ Wayne Westner wrote in suicide note for his children

By Jana van der Merwe
06 January 2017

Days after former golfing star Wayne Westner (55) left a suicide letter for his three children and shot himself in front of his wife, his loved ones are still trying to get to grips with his shocking death.

Days after former golfing star Wayne Westner (55) left a suicide letter for his three children and shot himself in front of his wife, his loved ones are still trying to get to grips with his shocking death and how to properly say goodbye to him. 

In his last letter Wayne tells his children that he doesn’t want a funeral but would like just to be cremated and his ashes scattered at his family’s farm.

Kathy Victor (57), Wayne’s former wife and the mother of his children, told YOU she was on good terms with him and very close to Alison (43), his wife of four years. Wayne and Alison had been together 10 years in total. She says Alison is devastated by what happened.

Wayne shared this family photo on Facebook just one month ago. Wayne shared this family photo on Facebook just one month ago.

Wayne’s passing has made headlines around the world after he allegedly held Alison to ransom at  Gwala-Gwala estate in the town of Pennington, KwaZulu Natal, and shot himself in the head with a 9-mm pistol.

Alison’s eldest son and his wife also were in the house at the time but not injured in the incident.

Alison Westner. Alison Westner.

Since Thursday Alison’s Whatsapp-status has read: “May God enfold you in His loving arms and give you peace.”

Kathy says Wayne was staying with her and her husband, Jonathan, on their smallholding near Johannesburg. She and Wayne have three children -- Jeni Crator (34), Chane Todd (27) and Matthew (24).

According to Kathy they had no idea Wayne was planning to take his own life. “As you know people who intend to commit suicide hide it well from their loved ones.”

“Wayne was decorating [at the plot] last week and training extensively with Matthew getting into shape. Yet Wayne planned his suicide as he left a letter to the devastation of our precious children.”

Kathy says she’d like Wayne not to be remembered for his last traumatic moments but for the outstanding person he was.

“Wayne was larger than life. I hope that people will remember him as a hugely talented and gifted man with a kind and generous heart. I pray that whoever writes about dearest Wayne will only concentrate on what an amazing human being he truly was.”

On Friday Alison was still in KwaZulu-Natal and due to make her way to Gauteng this weekend. Kathy says they’d like to gather as a family on Sunday to plan a memorial service for Wayne.

As a former professional golfer Wayne left his mark on the sport and many well-known personalities including Ernie Els and Gary Player have paid glowing tribute to him.

Wayne won the South African Open in 1988 and 1991. He took 14 pro titles and excelled on the European Tour. In 1996 he and Ernie Els won the World Cup of Golf at Erinvale in Somerset West.

In 1998 his career was cut short after he injured his ankle ligaments on the European Tour.

At the 11th hole of the Madeira Open’s Pro-Am Wayne drove the ball very close to the water. Standing on a wooden embankment on the water’s edge he was poised to take his second shot when the structure collapsed under him and he plunged down some two metres, Beeld reports.

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