Heartbroken widow has ring made from husband's ashes to give to daughter on her wedding day

By Richard van Rensburg
09 May 2016

When Esmée Shergold walks down the aisle one day her father won't be by her side – but a part of him will be with her.

When Esmée Shergold walks down the aisle one day her father won't be by her side – but a part of him will be with her.

Her dad, Steve, died of cancer at the end of last year at the tragically young age of 33.

But he will accompany her up the aisle in a way, in the form of a ring which his shattered widow Gina had created from his ashes.

Steve with his baby daughter in hospital. PHOTO: Facebook Steve with his baby daughter in hospital. PHOTO: Facebook

Gina (25) and Steve, from Dorset, England, had been married for just two years when he died after a brave three-year battle against the disease they hoped would spare him so they could watch their first child growing up together.

Weeks after his death his widow, in a daze of grief, was still wondering what to do with his ashes.

Gina and Steve had been married for just two years when he died. PHOTO: Facebook Gina and Steve had been married for just two years when he died. PHOTO: Facebook

But when she woke up on the morning of his birthday and read on Facebook about a “jewellery from ash” business, she knew exactly what to do, MailOnline reports.

“As soon as we knew what was going to happen, Steve and I decided we wanted to pick out some jewellery for Esmée to have,” Gina says. “But as he deteriorated, we didn’t talk about it much because he was too poorly.”

Shortly after he died, she saw a photograph of a beautiful blue ring made by the jeweller who’d advertised on Facebook.

Superman had been Steve's nickname since he attended a party years ago with nothing but a tent and a Superman costume.PHOTO: Facebook Superman had been Steve's nickname since he attended a party years ago with nothing but a tent and a Superman costume.PHOTO: Facebook

“I thought it could be something to eventually give Esmée on her wedding day so that, even though Steve can’t physically be there, a part of him will be.”

The jeweller completed the ring earlier than expected – just before Valentine’s Day – and Gina couldn’t hold back the tears when she opened the box and saw it for the first time.

The words “I love you, Superman,” were engraved in the white-gold and Steve’s ashes had been incorporated in the singular blue stone.

Steve was diagnosed with colon cancer at age 30. PHOTO: Facebook Steve was diagnosed with colon cancer at age 30. PHOTO: Facebook

A moving video Gina posted on YouTube tells of Steve’s love for his young family.

Superman had been his nickname since he attended a party years ago with nothing but a tent and a Superman costume, which he would always subsequently wear to fancy dress parties.

“But the name became even more apt when he handled his illness so bravely,” Gina says. Steve had always been super-fit until, after a disturbing blood loss episode during a visit to the toilet, was diagnosed with colon cancer at the age of 30.

He underwent weeks of surgery and chemotherapy and doctors were optimistic they’d removed all traces of the disease.

He and Gina married in September 2013 but, just days after they’d heard she was pregnant, he was also told the cancer had returned. It had spread to his left lung and doctors told Gina last September there was nothing more there could do for him.

At his funeral, some of his friends carried Superman posters or wore Superman T-shirts under their clothes.

Gina, a keen photo- and videographer, is now showing Esmée as much visual material of her dad as possible to help her remember him.

“She’s still too young to understand exactly what happened, but I think she senses his loss. She recognises him and will kiss his pictures or look up and smile when she hears a video clip with his voice,” Gina says.

“I want Esmée to be able to see exactly what he was like when he interacted with her, how much he loved her . . . ”

Sources:  justgiving.com, metro.co.uk, thesun.co.uk, dailymail.co.uk

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