Man tells of shock, pain after 'well-dressed women' drugged and raped him

By admin
12 May 2015

A man who was grabbed by three women in a black BMW last week and raped at gunpoint has described his “shock, disbelief and pain” at the incident.

The 33-year-old Zimbabwean man told the UK’s Daily Mail that he is now too scared to leave his home.

Eastern Cape police spokesperson Constable Mncedi Mbombo told News24 last week that the man had been standing on the side of the road in Kwazakhele, Port Elizabeth, at around 08:00 on Tuesday when the women stopped next to him in a black BMW.

The women asked the victim for directions and when he approached them, one of the women pointed a gun at him and forced him into the vehicle, said Mbombo.

The suspects then allegedly forced the man to "drink something", before taking turns raping him in an open area on the side of the road.

The man says the women then told him that they didn’t want to hurt or rob him but just wanted his semen.

Made to drink substance

He said the youngest of the three started getting angry and began shouting at him, causing one of the others to tell her to calm down as it would cause him to be too frightened and unable to get an erection.

The man said when he “couldn’t do what they ordered me to do” they got powder from a handbag and mixed it with some water and made him drink it.

Once they got his semen, they collected it in a bag, put it in a cooler box and threw him out of the car.

Mbombo told the Daily Mail police are investigating the possibility that the suspects wanted the sperm for muti.

Rape Crisis director Kathleen Dey told News24 that about 10% of the rape victims who use their Cape Town facilities are men and very few of those report being raped by women.

“It’s [female-on-male rape] very rare. This incident described in the Eastern Cape is quite an anomaly when you look at the broader picture of rape in South Africa. It’s a very strange incident.”

But Dey pointed out that the stigma that surrounds men being raped could mean that the number of male rape survivors is significantly higher than reported.

Dey said the greatest myth surrounding male rape survivors is that “men are not vulnerable to being raped [or] that men can protect themselves and they don’t get hurt in the way that women do”.

‘Arousal doesn’t mean consent’

Dey also spoke of the “involuntary” responses of victims during the act of rape.

“Of course you can force a man to have sex. Often a response is involuntary and the person has a response even though they don’t want to. And it’s still very much a violation to have [unwanted] sex with a person even though they might be aroused.

“Arousal is not a sign of consent,” stressed Dey.

“There are women who’ve been horribly raped who’ve experienced orgasm during the rape and that has traumatised them.

“So there’s no question that the law would define [what happened to this man] as rape.”

Mbombo told News24 that no arrests had been made by Tuesday morning. Anyone with information can contact the Kwazakhele police station on 041 4087744/7720.

- For survivors in need of Rape Crisis’s services, they can be contacted on 021 447 9762, 021 633 9229 or 021 361 9085.

News24

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