Marry my husband, he's amazing!

By Nombulelo Manyana
07 March 2017

This wife set up a dating profile for her husband – and the reason she's doing it is heartbreaking.

She may not have long to live – but this author battling ovarian cancer is taking what little time she has left to find someone for her husband to love.

In a funny, heartrending column for the New York Times, Amy Rosenthal (51) from Chicago describes how she set about finding a new mate for the love of her life.

The essay is filled with humor and love but also tells the sad story of a dying wife's last wish for her husband, Jason – to find love again.

The couple have shared 26 happy years together and were planning on many more. Until a visit to the emergency room changed everything.

"Want to hear a sick joke? A husband and wife walk into the emergency room in the late evening on Sept. 5, 2015," the children's book author writes.

"A few hours and tests later, the doctor clarifies that the unusual pain the wife is feeling on her right side isn’t the no-biggie appendicitis they suspected, but rather ovarian cancer."

The day they found out about the cancer was also the day the last of their three children left the nest. Suddenly, Amy and Jason had so many plans they would no longer realise.

"No trip with my husband and parents to South Africa. No reason, now, to apply for the Harvard Loeb Fellowship. No dream tour of Asia with my mother. No writers’ residencies at those wonderful schools in India, Vancouver, Jakarta. No wonder the word cancer and cancel look so similar," Amy wrote.

After returning from the hospital Amy, who's penned books like That's Me Loving You, began focusing on existing in the present. Then, she says, she thought about the future.

Amy Rosenthal PHOTO: Facebook

She soon realised that her death didn't have to mean the end of Jason's happiness. While battling the fatigue that comes with being sick, she managed to set up an online dating profile for her husband.

"I need to say this (and say it right) while I have a) your attention, and b) a pulse.

“I have never been on Tinder, Bumble or eHarmony, but I’m going to create a general profile for Jason right here, based on my experience of coexisting in the same house with him for, like, 9 490 days,” she wrote.

Her "tall, dark and handsome" husband is a lawyer and excellent cook who paints in his spare time, she says. He loves listening to music and is very easy to love.

He's a sharp dresser and their young adult sons, Justin and Miles, often borrow his clothes.

He's fit and very handy around the house. He’s also a romantic who showed up at their first pregnancy ultrasound with flowers, she wrote.

"He is an absolutely wonderful father. Ask anyone. See that guy on the corner? Go ahead and ask him; he’ll tell you. Jason is compassionate — and he can flip a pancake."

 She ends the letter with an emotional plea.

"I want more time with Jason. I want more time with my children. I want more time sipping martinis at the Green Mill Jazz Club on Thursday nights. But that is not going to happen. I probably have only a few days left being a person on this planet. So why I am doing this?

"I am wrapping this up on Valentine’s Day, and the most genuine, non-vase-oriented gift I can hope for is that the right person reads this, finds Jason, and another love story begins. I’ll leave this intentional empty space below as a way of giving you two the fresh start you deserve."

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