Should you leave your child behind when you go on holiday?

By admin
20 March 2014

Royal couple Prince William and Kate were recently criticised for leaving behind their seven-month-old son, Prince George, while going on holiday. But does being a parent mean you can never go away by yourself again? We asked an expert when and if it’s okay to leave your child behind.

Royal couple Prince William and Kate were recently criticised for leaving behind their seven-month-old son, Prince George, while going on a week-long holiday in the Maldives. But does being a parent mean you can never go away by yourself again? We asked an expert when and if it’s okay to leave your child behind.

Life coach Mia von Scha says it’s okay for moms to need a break from their kids at some point. “I think all moms need a break from their babies sometimes and taking one makes you a better mother, not a worse one. We all have our own needs and interests, and these do not just disappear when we have a baby,” she explains. “A mother who is able to satisfy her own needs will be more fulfilled as a human being and more relaxed and will therefore have more to give to her child.”

But what should mothers look out for if they plan on leaving their baby in someone else’s care? Here are Mia’s tips:

Trust your instincts

“I would generally say, ‘trust your gut’. If you’re not sure if it's the right thing to do then it probably isn't. If you're going to spend the whole time away from your baby stressing if he/she is ok, then it isn't worth it.”

Weigh the pros and cons

“Make a list of your own needs and the benefits for both you and your baby if you are able to fulfil these. Mothers often hesitate from taking time off from their babies because they don't believe they are worthy of spending time and/or money on themselves, that this is selfish, or that they are a bad mother if they do. Seeing that it is actually beneficial for the whole family if you do take this time for yourself can often make it easier to take the leap.”

Find a trusted caretaker

“Prince George was left in the care of his grandparents Carole and Michael Middleton and a qualified and experienced nanny while his parents went away. Make sure that whoever you get to look after your child is someone you trust 100 per cent. Make sure your nanny is trained in basic first aid and CPR, that they come highly recommended (always check their references), and that you get along with them. If you wouldn't trust the nanny with your house keys and alarm code, don't leave your baby with them!”

Lead by example

“Learn to love and nurture yourself. Your baby will learn more from watching how you live your life than from anything you say to them.”

-Katlego Mkhwanazi

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