Something borrowed

By admin
08 July 2014

Sharing is caring but where do you draw the line?

Casey* (17) and Lee-Ann* (18) have been friends for four years. The bubbly babes met at school and became instant BFFs – until Casey borrowed money from Lee-Ann. “She didn’t tell me what it was for but she said she’d pay me back the following week,” Lee-Ann explains.

Two months later, Lee-Ann is still waiting for her cash, and feeling awkward. “How do I approach the topic?” she asks.

While some of us would suggest that she shouldn’t have borrowed the large amount of cash to her friend in the first place, others will argue that sharing is caring. After all, a friend in need is a friend indeed and you may be the friend in need some day.

But where do you draw the line?

Money 

We’ve all heard the saying that “Money is the root of all evil”. Many people allow money (or the lack thereof) to rule their lives and determine their attitude or mood.

As important as money can be, don’t give it more power than it deserves by letting it ruin a relationship.

Asker tip: Only borrow money when you really need it. Don’t borrow cash for non-essential items (Beyoncès new CD is not essential!) Pay it back on time and let your friend know if you’re having difficulties paying it back.

Borrower tip: The golden rule is to borrow what you can afford to write off (just in case they don’t pay it back). Be firm about the repayment term and when you need the money back.

Clothes 

You know that biker jacket from Cotton On that you love because it makes you feel like a rock star? Most of us buy clothing because it represents who we are and we express ourselves with how we dress. So while some people don’t think that sharing clothing is a big deal, we can understand why others disagree.

Asker’s tip: Make sure you return the clothing in the same state you received it, so no stains or holes. Wash it before returning but ensure it doesn’t stretch or fray in the laundry machine.

Borrower’s tip: If you’re not comfortable lending your clothes to your friends, say so. If you do, set the boundaries: for example, they need to replace the item if they return it ruined or stained.

Make-up

Some girls will never leave the house without lip gloss and mascara, so you can imagine how hard it is to part a girl and her make-up!

Asker’s tip: Try not to borrow any make-up for health reasons. But let’s say you’re at the mall and forgot your lip gloss at home when you see your crush. Of course you want to look your best so ask for your friend’s gloss, apply some on your finger and then rub it on your lips.

Borrower’s tip: Don’t lend your make-up as you could pick up germs. For instance, if your friend has a blister on her lip and uses your lips gloss, you may develop a blister too.

Games

Video games are expensive, so it’s understandable that some friends are wary of sharing their games.

Asker’s tip: If you have to get your hands on that new Killzone game and can’t wait until your parents can afford to buy it for you, trade a game you love with a friend so that you both get something out of the deal.

Borrower’s tip: Only share your games with people whom you trust will bring it back undamaged.

-          Tsakane Ndlovu

SOURCES: lifehack.org and lovelyish.com.

Find Love!

Men
Women