'This is about black girls who are told they aren't beautiful': Teen's powerful post goes viral

By Pam Magwaza
12 June 2017

"When you realise having big lips is a trend but it took you a while to love your natural ones."

Having been cruelly teased about her fuller lips as a little girl, it's taken Jacinda Pender a long time to learn to appreciate how beautiful they truly are.

But as the 19-year-old from Cartersville, Georgia in the US explains, since Kylie Jenner and other celebs have gone to great lengths to surgically enhance their pouts, "thick" lips are all the rage.

The teen's musings on the matter went Instagram-viral after she shared selfie, pointing out in the caption that although having big lips is now the trend, she had to struggle to love her big lips on her own when they weren't considered beautiful.

At this point in my life I'm like, "no ones gonna love and appreciate each flaw and imperfection or feature that you posses. So you might as well start loving your damn self and stop giving a fuck." UPDATE - this post was about me a black girl loving her natural features and being constantly reminded by my white peers as a child that they weren't beautiful do you guys remember when MAC cosmetics featured a black woman with full natural lips (if you dont i do not mind linking you to the article) ppl in the comments were just disgusting calling her lips monkey lips and the n slur this is about black girls who are constantly reminded that they aren't beautiful whether it be their natural kinky 4c hair or darkskin or big features its my job as a black person to remind black children growing up that they are beautiful and valid and worthy - just to clear some things up in these comments

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In the post, the body-positive teenager alludes to an advert by MAC, which featured a black woman with big lips.

"Do you guys remember when MAC Cosmetics featured a black woman with full natural lips (if you don't I do not mind linking you to the article) people in the comments were just disgusting, calling her lips monkey lips..." she wrote.

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She also spoke about how she was constantly bullied by her white friends about her lips, which made her feel insecure. She now uses her experiences to encourage black young women to love themselves and every part of their bodies, whether it's considered attractive by the world at large or not.

"This is about black girls who are constantly reminded that they aren't beautiful, whether it be their natural kinky 4c hair or dark skin or big features," she wrote on Instagram.

"It's my job as a black person to remind black children growing up that they are beautiful and valid and worthy."

Her powerful post has received a whopping 128 000 likes and counting, garnering almost 3 000 comments.

She spoke to MICabout after all the attention her post garnered.

"When I woke up and realised my post had gone viral, I was really shocked. I was baffled that over a million people had viewed my post. I believe some people loved it because they could relate."

"I hope they understand that self-love, in general, is a journey that takes patience," Jacinda said. "Because you start discovering yourself and uncovering these layers of hatred you had for yourself for so long time, and realise the thing you've been hating for awhile is the thing that turns out to be your missing puzzle piece to your self-worth.

"The biggest weapon you can use against those who feel obligated to comment something negative about you is your confidence. Because trust me, they find it intimidating finding someone not self-loathing and letting people's judgment not get to them."

Sources: Instagram, MIC, Daily Mail

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