What to do when you and your baby have to be separated

By admin
30 June 2014

As a mom you might wish you could be there for your baby 24 hours a day, but unfortunately there are some situations in which you have to be separated from your child. Here are our top seven tips to ease separation anxiety for mom and baby.

As a mom you might wish you could be there for your baby 24 hours a day, but unfortunately there are some situations in which you have to be separated from your child. A SuperMom in our Facebook community has to go to hospital for an operation soon and asks for advice to make the separation easier for her one-year-old daughter. Here are our top seven tips to ease separation anxiety for mom and baby.

  1. Do a few test runs before you leave: Try to prepare your baby for the long period you’ll be separated by leaving them with someone else for short excursions such as when you have to go shopping or run other errands. This way they’ll get used to being away from you.
  2. If your husband is going to be the primary caregiver while you’re gone, let him take over some of the basic duties such as changing nappies or giving them a bottle before you leave. This way they can both get used to it before you go.
  3. Let your baby take the lead: If they crawl into another room in the house, don’t follow them immediately unless they’ll be in danger in that room. Let them realise they’re safe even when you’re not with them and they’ll become more independent.
  4. Your baby’s favourite toys will comfort them. Make sure everything from their favourite blanket to bedding and eating utensils go with them so they feel familiar in their new surroundings.
  5. Don’t just slip away! It can be heartbreaking seeing your baby cry when you leave and you might think it’s just easier to slip away quietly without saying goodbye, but it’s important you don’t do this. A goodbye ritual can also be handy. Have a special way of saying goodbye and your baby will learn to associate this with the fact that you’re leaving but will always return.
  6. When you leave, leave. Don’t go back to your baby, regardless of how upset they are. This will only confuse them. If you’ve forgotten something, ask someone to fetch and bring it to you so you don’t have to say goodbye to your child again.
  7. Returning to your child is also extremely important. When you return, give your baby your undivided attention and spend a significant amount of time with them. They’ll learn you always return to them and you still love them even if you’ve left them for a while.

-Mieke Vlok

Sources: mother-2-mother.com, parents.com, babycenter.com

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