Dashiki Dialogues – Time for a cop intervention

2011-10-14 12:43

Imagine a guy with a bounce in his step approaching a hottie in the streets. Clad in blue fatigues with shiny buttons and boots, stomach in, chest out, he says: “Hello baby, I’m constable so and so. Let’s get drinks at the bar.”

That doesn’t sound like an impressive pick-up line, does it? What’s worse is that, as a constable, his chances go from slim to near tragic.

Yes, I’m exploring the dating chances of our men and women in law enforcement. Now pause. Can I say here that we will not talk about the infamous 17-minute video clip that thrust the sexual habits of a few gun-toting civil servants into the limelight.

And I know some of you are already salivating at the idea of me going into the obvious props available here. I’m talking about the handcuffs, utility belts and police hats. Sorry, that’s not where I’m going with this.

I think cops have it hard on the romance front. First, I base this on what a female colleague said to me during the past week. She was going on about what sort of people were less likely to get lucky with her.

Then she burst out: “You know, I actually made a conscientious decision never to date any civil servant who has to carry a firearm to work.” I don’t have to explain why she feels the way she does.

Just last month, an officer in Bloemfontein was reportedly found dead with a bullet wound to the head lying next to a girlfriend he had fatally shot in the chest. The couple is survived by two kids set to grow up with this ghastly memory.

The same news report also told of three other such killings that have happened in Bloemfontein since April. The gruesome tale plays out across the country, not just in Mangaung.

Remember the story of a Cato Manor, KwaZulu-Natal, policeman who shot his sister-in-law, mother-in-law and wife after an argument? How about the 26-year-old constable from Kwa-Thema in Gauteng who killed his wife and then shot himself?

We need an urgent social intervention here. These folks give their all to serve and protect us.The stigma cops have to put up with of being murderous lovers is more entrenched than I’d realised. I gleaned this from a bad joke a friend made recently.

We were walking past a lovely lady. As she made her way in the opposite direction, like predictable boys on a constant fox hunt, we checked her out. Then followed the mandatory machismo remark: “Tjo, this is one hot honey, Joe! Eish, but the boyfriend is a cop and he just might shoot me dead!”

Then it hit me. This is a tragic dialogue no matter what colour dashiki we dress it in. It’s not just about sexual pleasures. Lives are at stake.

Follow me on Twitter @Percy_Mabandu 

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