Dashiki Dialogues – We cultivate every killer

2011-09-09 08:26

I recently tuned in to a radio show where a woman was making a case for women empowerment. What came across, instead, was what I considered to be vitriol aimed at dividing boys and girls, instead of bridging the gap.

We’ve just come out of women’s month, and now I’m trying to make a case for boys’ empowerment – I had to wait until after August. It’s a thing of manners, because mum and dad showed me love, you see.

That said, can I declare that I fear we might be going about gender redress the wrong way. My observation is that we are alienating boys and girls from each other in the name of levelling the playing field.

We have campaigns to take a girl child to work, and rarely extend that invitation to their brothers.
I’ve always wondered what happens when two siblings raised by a single mother in a RDP house are told one is a beneficiary of some historical power structure, and so deserves the least attention from the folks, while the other gets all the invitations to mummy’s office.

It can’t be a contented and equal childhood that.

Maybe this is why some baby boys grow into murderous monsters, because they didn’t get the love they so need and deserve.

I want to offer that we cultivate every rude boy and thief on our street corners. It’s really a simple economy of affection: you can’t extract the love value you don’t invest. Yes, this means that the boy who smashed and grabbed your stuff at the intersection, or swore at you for just staring at him is crying out for love, some attention or maybe an honest job.

I’m talking about the likes of the notorious Bra Ma’leven, the ­self-proclaimed?criminal who appeared on TV last year detailing how he threatened his victims into giving him money by putting their babies in the oven. Imagine the hate he must have consumed to act out such a horrible idea.

Now consider that drug plagues like nyaope, woonga, alcohol abuse and other allures of deviant street life claim more boys than girls. This then explains why more boys than girls are likely to drop out of school, or flunk.

This to me, clearly indicates that very soon we will have archived exactly what we believe to be wrong with our gender politics.

The focus should logically be about archiving a well-balanced and equitable gender environment. Bitter mothers and aunts shouldn’t poison their daughters like many (hardly there) fathers do with their sons.

Ours should be a world of harmoniously coloured dashikis and equitably gendered dialogues.

» ? I’m on twitter @Percy_Mabandu 

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