Even shy people go to the Sexpo

2009-10-03 14:48

CULTURAL connotations, it seems, are why many black people are still conservative when it comes to expressing and exploring their sexuality.

Revellers brave enough to attend this years’ Sexpo at Gallagher estate in Midrand, Gauteng, expressed this concern.

Dikeledi Mzimba (28) “said black people do not talk about sex, and women especially still have insecurities. But our democracy has allowed us to come view and be vocal about such things”.

Mzimba, who is also inquisitive, said she had wanted to learn something new, explore and spice up her sex life.

“I wanted to gain confidence in the bedroom and be updated on the latest trends. I got myself some Chinese balls to tighten up and be a virgin again, and I think I will put up a pole in my bedroom!” she jokingly said.

From sex toys which come in all shapes and sizes, to concoctions which promise wonders between the sheets; the Sexpo has many erotic offerings in over 150 exhibitor stands.

The event has no room for modesty.

Earlier this year, 15 members of the Christian Action Network (CAN) protested outside the event in Cape Town.

Also, the Advertising Standards Authority pulled the plug on the advertising campaign for the lifestyle show.

But Kabelo Mahlasi and Refilwe Moshekga felt the exhibition was not as bad as they had expected because many of the stands were not even about sex.

“There was nothing so shocking,” they said.

The culture of talking about sexual issues and exploring sexuality was not so common in the black community, and this was even harder for women, said Mahlasi.

“I invited my mother to come to the Sexpo with my father and she wasn’t comfortable and she said it’s not for her,” said Mahlasi, chuckling.

“You are not that open (about your sexuality) when you are in a public gathering but you are able to let loose in your own private spice,” Moshekga said.

A married woman who did not wish to be named said she had found a few shocking elements which she did not expect to see at the Sexpo.

But she believes you need to know what is in the market, especially when you are married, to be able to please your man.

“As a black woman, you have to first consider your traditions and culture before you attend such events. At the same time, you need to keep him (husband) next to your curve.

“Women have a lot of pressure, especially if you are married. You need to keep your marriage alive,” she said.

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