Finding Mr/Ms Holiday Lover

2010-11-21 07:00

Beach-ready body? Check. Sunscreen? Check. Haute outfits? Check. Ready to mingle? ­Definitely check!

If you’re anything like me, you’ll smuggle some sexy lingerie and a big box of condoms in your ­luggage because ... hey, you never know who you might meet.

The prospect of a holiday ­romance is thrilling and for many a young single person, it’s also a must-do on their check-list of things to get up to.

This week, I hosted a group of young professionals at ­Southern Sun Hyde Park hotel in Joburg to talk about our past, present and future holiday romances.

The group included journalist ­Janine Jellars, IT consultant ­Keabetswe Mautla, entrepreneur Ayanda Mtshatsha, missionary school teacher Thabo Spelman, DJs Mohau “Franky” Losaba and ­Kamohelo “Kamza” Mbatha.

Your mind became stuck on the missionary school teacher, right? Spelman (25) trains people to do missionary work in other ­countries. He also goes by the title “brother”.

Before you start wondering what he knows about flings, I’ll put your mind at ease. He doesn’t know much – not yet anyway.
“I’m an old-fashioned type of guy and my relationships always start in the traditional way ... I chase the girl and once caught, we date for a long time,” he says.

Despite this, Spelman hopes to indulge in a hot holiday romance someday. And the how-to tips came thick and fast from the ­other guys; Losaba, Mbatha and Mtshatsha. All three say they’ve engaged in holiday flings more times than they care to remember.

“Er, I must emphasise that my last one was before August 2009,” says Losaba, who is now happily involved. However, that doesn’t hold him back from sharing his entertaining holiday fling tales.

“As a DJ you get out-of-town gigs, which usually turn into a mini-holiday. So each time I left, I’d pre-arrange a hook up. I don’t like leaving things to chance and getting surprises like the ‘time of the month’ getting in the way,” he candidly explains.

One person who prefers his ­holiday liaisons to be spontaneous is Mbatha (25).

“Last December I hooked up with a girl I knew when I was on holiday in Cape Town. My then girlfriend and I had hit a rocky patch and when I saw this girl things just took off,” he says.

Their holiday romance lasted ­until Mbatha returned to Joburg in early January.

“When I returned, my girlfriend and I broke up because I realised if someone else can value spending time with me, and she tells me she wanted two weeks to decide about us, then there really was no point continuing the relationship.”

Mtshatsha (27) and his girlfriend were still happily together when he had a fling last December.

“I’d gone to visit family in ­Durban. One day, some friends decided to have a party and invited a group of girls. We got a bit too ­excited, I suppose, and I ended up getting together with one of the girls, four days before my girlfriend was to join me,” he explains.

Mtshatsha experienced some awkward moments when the fling and the girlfriend ended up at the same party on New Year’s eve. “The girl saw me with my girlfriend and I just walked past her. Throughout the night she kept trying to stand next to me and I’d ignore her,” he says.

Eventually, his girlfriend found out when she came across text messages between Mtshatsha and the fling. The two tried to work things out but by the end of ­January, they had called it quits.

Jellars (26) confesses that she too has “flung here and there even though I’m more of a relationship girl”. Mautla (23) believes that holiday flings are an extended one-night stand.

“My last fling was during the World Cup with someone from overseas and we knew it would only last as long as the ­tournament,” she says.

The one thing everyone agrees on is that while they don’t expect to have deep feelings, it almost ­always doesn’t go as planned.

Mbatha and Losaba admit that they inadvertently found themselves feeling more for their flings.

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