Holiday flings: The rules of engagement

2010-11-21 16:37

So, you’d like to indulge in a sizzling ­romantic liaison this festive season but don’t know how to go about it. Here are some useful tips to keep in mind:

» Keep it light and simple
You don’t want to start telling your fling about ailing mothers or off-load your emotional baggage on to them. The idea is that you use the fling as an escape from every day life and all its stress. Basically, you can be anything or anyone you want to be with a fling. Don’t hold back and you’ll have fun.

» Don’t expect it to happen
Many have come back disappointed after going all out to find a fling while on holiday. Spending your holiday looking for a man or woman to romance will kill the fun and adventure you were going for in the first place. Don’t think too hard about it. If it happens, great. If not, you should still enjoy your ­downtime.

» Be prepared
Ok, so you might not go on holiday with the express purpose of looking for a fling but you need to be prepared. You don’t want to have an opportunity to hook up with someone only to realise you’ve only brought your laundry day underwear. Or worse, you didn’t pack any protection.

In this age of STDs, you don’t want to come back with an unwelcome memento. And if there’s no living breathing person who takes your fancy, make sure you have your toys on hand.

» Don’t talk about y our life at home
It has nothing to do with your fling so please refrain from boring them with details that aren’t going to make the experience exciting.

» Chill with the pictures
Do you really want to be looking at pictures of your time with Juan in ­Mexico or Yuri in Russia five years down the line? Chances are you won’t. So, while you’re enjoying yourself, keep the picture of your fingers running through his chest hair to a minimum. Rather have the fling take pictures of you alone in the surroundings.

» Once the holidays are over, the fling is over
Don’t make empty promises; there will be no visiting each other and tearful reunion in an airport. Just bid each other a passionate farewell. You don’t want to be like that woman who had a fling while on holiday in Kenya and had the man follow her back to South Africa at the end. He just didn’t get that she wouldn’t want to continue this once she returned to the reality of her own home.

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