If she has a foot out of the door . . .

2009-10-30 12:06

CHEATING is rarely something that “just happens”. Often, the feelings to wander out of a relationship accumulate over time – you just might not be aware that it’s on her mind. But you can stop yourself from being played by paying more attention to some telltale signs.

Here are some things to look out for:

She has a case of ‘mentionitis’

This is when someone is afflicted with a certain person’s name that they just can’t stop themselves from dropping into ­conversation. It could be that your woman is constantly talking about Roger, her new partner at work; or Jordan, her personal trainer. No matter what the conversation with you entails, it seems this guy’s name is sure to pop up like an annoying internet advertisement.

You: “Honey, we should go check out that new action flick.”

Her: “Jordan saw it and said it’s great!”

You: “I am so tired lately, I think I need to start taking vitamins.” Her: “I was ­telling Jordan the same thing earlier.”

But again, don’t fret if you hear her colleague’s or friend’s name every now and then – that’s just paranoia on your part.

She’s giving you a little too much space

If she is suddenly opening the floodgates to your free time and not flinching at how you two never seem to spend enough time together, this could be a red flag.

It’s one thing for her to be cool with you having personal time to do your own thing, but it’s quite different if she’s nearly pushing you out the door or suggesting that you guys do your separate things too often.

She brings up reasons to fight

You forgot to buy a certain brand of toilet paper or you’re five minutes late in calling her and she goes nuts on you. If, lately, it seems that all she ever wants to do is pick a fight with you, this could be a symptom of an underlying problem.

She’s more mysterious

There’s no doubt that mystery is a good thing – but in small doses. If she’s usually the one who’s keen to chat, but lately all she ever does is murmur through conversation without giving away too much, this can be a sign. Another is if she doesn’t ­answer her phone at certain times and you see a pattern forming.

She’s less affectionate

If another man is occupying her mind, chances are she’s going to be distancing herself from you physically. This could mean she isn’t so touchy-feely any more and there has been a drop in your sex life.

Less sex doesn’t necessarily mean much, but keep some perspective. The key is to look out for any drastic changes in your sex life. – www.askmen.com

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