Jezebel? No, we control our lives

2011-11-05 08:59

She is seductive, alluring, captivating and tempting. She is a Jezebel. She occupies the passenger seats of many a snazzy Beemer.

At the dinner table, she orders the most expensive meals and drinks and never stresses about who is footing the bill. She has a particular type of man ... he must be loaded – no negotiation.

As a man, to be in her company, you’d better be sure that your money can talk for you. Gold card? So passe. She’s into platinum and black cards now. According to 2Kings 9:30, “Jezebel also used the spirit of domination and seduction to get her ways.”

But how do we categorise a female in this day and age as a Jezebel? After all, these are our daughters, sisters and even mothers, but we side-eye them and label them sluts who like beautiful free stuff.

These are our modern-day Jezebels and the term does not come from nowhere. Remember the original Jezebel, the daughter of Ethbaal and wife of King Ahab in the Bible? She is said to have been an evil woman who practised witchcraft and turned her nation to the worship of idols.

Jezebels have captured our imagination to such an extent that kwaito artist Professor had the nation singing about his Jezebel girlfriend who loves whoring around with DJs. And just as we have upper and lower classes in society, the same applies to these women.

On the one hand, we have the young ones who study – and I use this term loosely – at institutions of higher learning. Heck, some are even in secondary school still.

They yearn for the high life more than the qualifications they left home for. Come Phuza Thursday night, snazzy automobiles line up in their numbers while they get ready to go out, clad in the skimpiest of clothes even in the dead of winter.

The men who wait for them are typically young “black diamonds” or so-called tenderpreneurs, and they really enjoy going out with these youngsters because they know that they are “easy” and like beautiful free stuff.

Being taken to the InterContinental Hotel’s bar for a pink drink is something they couldn’t afford with their own allowance money.

And these men know that all it takes to convince them is flashing a few R200 bank notes, chauffeuring them to party spots in well polished, noisy and expensive wheels, and the “shag for the night” deal is sealed.

Your more experienced, higher-class Jezebels have graduated from the amateurish ways of those mentioned above.

These ones are focused, know exactly what they want and will tell you with a straight face that they do not date, flirt or sleep with a man who cannot pay their rent, buy them a car, take them out shopping in Sandton and give them loads of cash!

Oh, and throw in the occasional overseas trip. Jezebels are looking for a life-long golden goose and, man-oh-man, those eggs must be ostrich-sized. They are students, shop assistants, cashiers, clerks, receptionists, hairstylists – you find them in almost every industry.

But they all have one thing in common – they scout for men with what seems to be perpetual wealth. They do everything in their power to hook these men: gym contracts, expensive clothes on credit, boob jobs, skin lightening, the works. It’s high maintenance being a Jezebel.

You can’t be seen by your type without the latest in fashion – I mean, the whole shebang. Your manicure and pedicure have to be on point at all times and the Brazilian weave, which costs an arm and a leg, is the signature Jezebel hairdo.

So you see, gents, sponsored weekly salon visits are an absolute must. An ambitious young woman who legitimately works her way to the top and chooses to date an established gent who compliments her is not a Jezebel.

Jezebels need to brag, show off and lack discretion.  Take socialite Khanyisile Mbau for instance, who is unapologetic about her pursuit of the bling lifestyle funded by men (married or not).

And now there is Joyce Molamu (27), who is playing victim to Sports Minister Fikile Mbalula when it is clear she willingly had sexual relations with a high profile and married politician with children.

Rumours that she has a reputation for this sort of thing, and the fact that Mbalula (40) has labelled her an “extortionist” doesn’t help her “I’m a victim case” very much.

She is now in the public domain and, as society, we have done what we do best and labelled her a Jezebel who represents women who are home-wreckers and play around as if they are immune from HIV/Aids.

This Mbalula-Molamu affair speaks volume about who we are as young black women today and how much we value ourselves and our bodies. My question is: Do we really want to be remembered as that Jezebel who slept her way up the ladder?

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