Senzo Meyiwa’s wife drops a bombshell

2014-11-02 15:00

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Senzo Meyiwa’s wife has admitted that her husband chose her love rival, Kelly Khumalo, over her.

Mandisa Mkhize told City Press last week, just days before her husband was shot dead, she had accepted she had lost him forever.

Asked if she felt betrayed by Meyiwa after he told her that he and Khumalo had broken up, Mkhize (28) said in a text message: “I respect Senzo’s decision to be with Kelly Khumalo. We did not end things on a sour note.

“He is the father of my daughter and, despite all, he is not a bad person,” she wrote.

“I wish him well; I am at peace with everything.”

Yesterday, the modest and softly spoken Mkhize was the chief mourner at her husband’s funeral.

Dressed in an elegant black ensemble and understated black hat with a mourning veil, she wept, wiping tears from her eyes.

Khumalo was not at the funeral after repeated statements from Meyiwa’s father, Samuel, that she would not be welcome.

In April, Mkhize and Meyiwa were featured on the cover of Drum magazine, and spoke of their love for each other.

Meyiwa spoke of how remorseful he was that he had hurt his wife with his relationship with the Afro-pop singer.

“I want to work on fixing my marriage with my wife,” he said.

He also begged for Mkhize’s forgiveness. Mkhize forgave him, saying she was willing to give their marriage another try.

“We both [Meyiwa and Khumalo] made a decision to stop the relationship because we realised we were hurting the people close to us,” Meyiwa was reported as saying.

But at the end of the interview, when asked by City Press if he would go back to Khumalo, Meyiwa said: “No, I will not respond to that.”

A month later, Meyiwa and Khumalo were spotted together, evidently in love.

And when Mkhize discovered Meyiwa was back with Khumalo and they were spending more time together, she moved out of the apartment she and her husband shared in Buccleuch, northern Joburg.

Meyiwa then moved into Khumalo’s townhouse in Mulbarton, southern Joburg – the home Meyiwa encouraged Khumalo to acquire early on in their relationship so they could see each other whenever they wanted.

But Mkhize’s gracious acceptance that her marriage was over was not shared by her former husband’s family.

One member told City Press this week that if Khumalo came to the funeral, the family would be “waiting for her”.

Two of Mkhize’s relatives, who asked not to be named, told City Press Mkhize was distraught at Meyiwa’s death, but was becoming “stronger every day” through the support of close friends and her husband’s family.

“Mandisa will always love Senzo. Even though there was another woman, Mandisa did not stop loving and respecting the father of her daughter,” said one.

“Mandisa is a praying woman and she always had hope that one day Senzo would come to his senses,” said another.

Since Meyiwa’s death, Mkhize’s two-bedroom home in the north of Joburg has been flooded by messages of condolence and flowers from friends and members of her church.

“She was very much involved in Meyiwa’s funeral arrangements from day one. She was communicating with the Meyiwas and that’s the reason she left for Umlazi on Thursday, because she wanted to make sure that she gave her husband a decent funeral,” said one relative.

A member of the Meyiwa family, who spoke on condition of anonymity, told City Press when Mkhize arrived at their Umlazi home on Thursday, she wept hysterically as she entered the house.

“This is our real makoti [daughter-in-law],” the family member said. “Seeing her reminds us of Senzo.”

Meyiwa’s close friend, Phillipos Malepe (45) from Soshanguve in Pretoria, told City Press he too had to get used to the fact that Meyiwa had chosen to be with Khumalo. He took part in the lobola negotiations for Meyiwa to marry Mkhize and attended their traditional wedding in 2009.

“I spoke to Senzo 10 minutes before he died,” he said in an exclusive interview this week.

Their last conversation had been about soccer. He then had to break the news of Meyiwa’s death to his family.

“I was asleep when I received sad news from one of the people there. I prefer not to mention his name,” he said.

“I felt like a part of me was dead.”

Malepe said he was the first of Meyiwa’s friends to learn about his affair with Khumalo.

“At first I was against it, but seeing that he was madly in love with Kelly, I ended up accepting it,” he said. “Unfortunately, I couldn’t make decisions for him when it comes to relationships.”

Malepe said it didn’t sit well with him that Meyiwa was cheating on his wife, so he tried to arrange a meeting with Mkhize, Meyiwa and his mother.

“Even after we told him to leave Kelly, he never did,” Malepe said.

Meyiwa’s cars – including the BMW X6 Khumalo was controversially driving this week – were ­registered using Malepe’s address.

“I would pay for his speeding fines and car ­licence renewal,” he said.

The last time Malepe saw Meyiwa was on ­Thursday, when the Bafana captain went to visit him at his home in Soshanguve.

“He was telling me how happy he was with Kelly and that he was excited that finally his career was starting to take off,” he said.

Meyiwa’s parents have named Khumalo’s daughter Aphelele, which means they have ­accepted her into the family.

Meyiwa has another nine-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.

Khumalo and Meyiwa, who were introduced to each other by her close friend, actress and singer Lucia Mthiyane, posted pictures of themselves together on Instagram.

A neighbour of Khumalo’s mother, who lives in the Vosloorus house where Meyiwa was shot dead last Sunday, spoke of how in love Meyiwa and Khumalo were.

“They didn’t hide the fact that they were happy together. Their relationship was real.”

Another neighbour said they would walk hugging and laughing together to the nearby shops.

“Meyiwa was very humble and at times we would criticise him if he didn’t play well. He would listen and he never took our criticism personally.”

Meanwhile, Mkhize is mourning the husband she met at Joburg’s Park Station when she was 19 and he was relatively unknown.

“At that time Senzo was still playing for Orlando Pirates reserve side, also known as Yebo Yes,” a friend said.

“Mandisa used to support him at every soccer match. She was his number one supporter.”

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