A chilling warning - Policeman’s plea before he shoots wife

2013-10-18 00:00

“PLEASE take care of my children.”

That was the cryptic message from a respected Sweetwaters policeman to his mother-in-law before drawing his gun and shooting her daughter early yesterday morning.

Having received a cry for help, the anxious mother was unable to reach her daughter before her enraged husband opened fire.

Constable Mthandeni Cyril Sibisi (36), from the Loop Street police station, shot his wife Nana Sibisi (31), a lecturer at the eThekwini FET College, after an argument as she made her way to work, seriously wounding her.

Sibisi then turned the gun on himself in the quiet road in Sweetwaters. He died at the scene. Nana, who was shot in the mouth, is in a critical condition in hospital. Police yesterday could not confirm if the officer had used his service pistol in the shooting.

According to Nana’s relatives, the couple had been having marital problems and she had recently moved out with their two children to live with her mother.

She commuted between Durban and Pietermaritzburg daily, leaving for work in the early morning.

Nana’s mother, Ntombo Mbanjwa, who was at her daughter’s bedside at Medi-Clinic hospital yesterday, said she had seen Sibisi on Wednesday.

“He had asked me to take care of his children, but at the time I did not understand what he meant. Now I realise that his plan was to do this.”

She said her youngest daughter had received a call for help from Nana early yesterday morning, saying she had been cornered by Sibisi.

“I tried to phone her several times, but she was not answering, and I asked my sister Lindiwe to accompany me to where they were.

“By the time we got there, they were both on the floor with gunshot wounds,” she said.

A relative of Nana’s, Makhosazana Mbanjwa, told The Witness that the couple had been experiencing marital problems.

“I can’t tell you what the problems were, but Nana took the children to her mother’s house in the past four days. We were hoping that they would solve the problems they had,” said Makhosazana.

“He was a good, quiet person that was striving for a better life and living conditions for his family. He was a valuable member of the community and we felt safe when he was around,” said Makhosazana.

She said Nana’s family had rushed to the access road from where Nana had phoned her sister for help. As they approached the scene, they heard gunshots. “Nana was screaming for help.”

When The Witness got to the scene, women from the area had already started gathering in the rain and mud. Most wept.

Many said Sibisi was a good man. “What a wonderful son-in-law he was. Why did he resort to taking his life? If the wife was bringing him pain, he should have left her and not done this,” cried one woman, who would not be named.

Bystanders were stunned at what the respected police officer had done. They stood whispering amongst themselves in disapproving tones.

Skhumbuzo Sibisi, the brother of the dead policeman, said he needed to consult with the family before speaking to the media.

Police spokesperson Colonel Jay Naicker said an inquest docket and an attempted murder case had been opened by police.

• mlondi.radebe@witness.co.za

Constable Mthandeni Sibisi

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Women in the area started gathering at the crime scene to share their shock at the shooting.

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Police remove the body of Constable Mthandeni Cyril Sibisi from the street he shot his wife in before turning the gun on himself

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POLICE Minister Nathi Mthethwa admitted this week that police are not emotionally and psychologically equipped to handle many stressful conditions of their jobs.

Mthethwa was addressing a summit on suicide prevention for police in Pretoria this week.

“Police officials deal with high job and task demands on a daily basis. In some of these tasks, police officials must absorb many emotions from the community ranging from anger, frustration, sadness and many more,” he said.

Mthethwa said police have an extended and advanced trauma management system compared to other government departments.

In 2012, Gauteng recorded 26 police suicides, followed by KwaZulu-Natal with 23 and North West with 13.

In 2009, the service lost 73 officers to suicides; in 2010 the figure increased to 97; in 2011 there were 85 cases; and in 2012 the figure was 98, the highest annual number of suicides among police officers.

Up to June 30, 34 police officers had killed themselves this year.

“This is a very bleak picture to say the least,” said Mthethwa.

Tensions in personal relationships, trauma, mental health issues and poor financial management were the main drivers of suicides.

Officers are urged to proactively take responsibility for their personal health and wellness, while commanders are also urged to pay attention to the wellbeing of their subordinates. Rise in police suicides

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