Infidelity is synonymous with sportspeople

2010-10-09 00:00

INFIDELITY is something that a lot of people are in denial about and it is synonymous with sportspeople.

André Nel is the latest sports personality to make the headlines for this reason — cheating on his wife Deanne Weitz, to whom he has been married for six years.

Infidelity in sport is as old as sport itself, and, rather than face this reality, we have decided to turn a blind eye to it.

Women have always wanted to believe that the whole of the male species is monogamous but men have proved themselves to be otherwise. I know I will get shot down for this, but show me a monogamous sportsman and I will show you a Julius Malema who passed woodwork. They do not exist.

Do not get me wrong, there are those few men who have been on the straight and narrow all their lives, but looking at the bigger picture, most men have bitten off more than they could chew at some time in their lives.

It has got worse with the liberation of this country as more women are now free to go after men as it has become a free world, littered with equal choices for everyone.

It gets worse when you are a sports star who is celebrated like Nel, and there were many before him, as there will be many after him.

Not so long ago, it was Tiger Woods and his group of cheerleaders. When David Beckham joined Real Madrid, he fell into the same trap when Rebecca Loos taught him more than just the Spanish language.

Earvin “Magic” Johnson, a former National Basketball Association superstar in the United States, did not get to be HIV-positive by staying on the straight and narrow, but by getting way too much unprotected action. Who could blame him with all those cheerleaders from the Los Angeles Lakers around?

Joost van der Westhuizen, Benedict Vilakazi, Bill Clinton — ’nough said.

Even Nelson Mandela has proved to have been a lover boy in his youth and rest assured, more children (or adults now) will come out of the woodwork. I could go on but I am sure you get the picture. We get to hear about these people because they are in the public domain but there are many other “Tigers”, “Andrés” and “Earvins” who are getting their action outside the agreed boundaries of their relationship with their partner.

Some women choose the “if I have not caught him, he has not done it” approach, and prefer to live in denial.

“How about Aids?” some may ask. Loyalty is as pivotal in a monogamous relationship as it is in a polygamous one. What is unfortunate is that instead of facing their fears by formalising their polygamous set-up, these people declare to their wife “till death us do part”, while they prowl men’s lounges and have a string of mistresses. While many people may view Zulu culture as inferior, that’s where some of their solutions are embedded. While racism and ethnicity divide men, cheating is a common factor that brings them together. As the saying goes, “behind every successful man is a woman who the wife knows nothing about.”

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