‘Jealous’ boyfriend kills young mother

2012-11-20 00:00

YESTERDAY, an 18-year-old wept for her mother who was killed in a domestic violence dispute.

Nondalo Mvelase from Mpophomeni, who is writing her last matric exam paper on Wednesday, was inconsolable.

She covered her face as she wept for her mother, who she said was her everything and a sole breadwinner.

“I still can’t believe she’s gone. It’s too painful. Why did he have to kill her?”

Nondalo sat on the floor, surrounded by family members, with her economics notebook and textbook on her lap as she tried to study.

Her eight-year-old sister, unaware of what had happened, played and sang outside.

A mother of two, Bongiwe Nyawuza (32), apparently had an argument with her boyfriend at the Nottingham Road railway station, yesterday morning.

The man then stabbed her once in the left arm and once in the left side of her chest around 6 am, according to police.

Bongiwe worked and stayed at Nottingham Road, but every Monday morning she boarded a train on her way to her eight-year-old daughter’s school in Mpophomeni to give her pocket money.

But yesterday she did not make it.

Bongiwe’s sister, Tobhi Mvelase labelled her sister’s lover, as “possessive” and “jealous”.

She said she got a desperate call from Bongiwe, who said her boyfriend was threatening to kill her.

“As we were talking, I heard a man’s voice demanding the phone. That’s when we got cut off.”

The family knew Bongiwe was in an abusive relationship. But every time she left him, he would terrorise her and they would get back together.

“He beat her up for everything. She’d receive a call and he’d hit her,” Mvelase added.

The family said Bongiwe was always loving and funny.

Howick Cluster police spokesperson Captain Lolly Moodley said after Bongiwe was stabbed, she managed to flag down a patrolling police vehicle.

She was taken to Nottingham Road police station where paramedics, who arrived shortly afterwards, unsuccessfully tried to resuscitate her.

Moodley said Bongiwe had opened several cases of assault previously, against the suspect, and he had appeared in court on numerous occasions, but they would get back together.

Bongiwe was apparently advised by police to obtain a protection order against her boyfriend but “she simply refused to do so”.

The police said a murder case has been opened and a manhunt is being conducted in search of the suspect.

• According to a Medical Research Council (MRC) study, about one out of every two women killed in South Africa, is killed by her partner.

• gabisile.ngcobo@witness.co.za


According to Sikhathele Nkala, a community gender specialist from Centre for the Study of Violence and Reconciliation (CSVR), said there are many women who are killed by their partners.

She said a challenge is that most cases are never reported. Nkala said this could start with an insult or a scorn.

She said women are socialised to internalise and accept abuse.

“We’re told that we can’t wash our dirty linen in the public.”

The expert said there are also inadequate places of safety and most women depend on men.

Nkala said most men believe that they need to be “aggressive” to show they are men.

CSVR said they want police to take abuse cases seriously.

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