‘Transformed’ husband celebrates tales of women’s strength

2011-11-25 00:00

WHEN Dave Metzler fell in love with his late wife Monique he was transformed. Now a champion for women, he has dedicated a book to her after she died two years ago from breast cancer.

Miracle Women — Triumph over Adversity is a collection of stories illustrating the circumstances that have tested the strength and courage of women in different situations, and is a celebration of their resilience and uniqueness.

Metzler says the 13 years he spent with Monique inspired him to be a better person. Her love and dedication transformed him. He also believes that too many men do not acknowledge their partners for the incredible women that they are.

“If you give a women love and respect she is like a plant that flowers and her seeds and fruit are bountiful.

“Women should rule the world. They have the capacity to put other people before themselves and they work together for the common good,” he says.

“If women were in charge there would be fewer world wars and less poverty. If you give a girl child a doll she immediately wants to nurture but a boy starts to test the strength of the toy, and wants to destroy. His focus is on testing the boundaries.”

Metzler says before meeting Monique he had never really been in love before. He was a religious person with a high position in the church and a marriage of 25 years but when he met her he knew he could not continue living in a loveless marriage that was often a war zone.

He ended his first marriage, was expelled from the church and saw his businesses fail, but Monique stood by him.

His book is based on a number of stories from women who once belonged to his wife’s Internet network, Women’s Lifestyle World.

He asked them if they would be willing to share their stories. The book includes the story of rape survivor Jes Foord, who has created a foundation to help victims of crime and sexual assault. Her determination to overcome the stigma of “victim” has made her a role model for many women who have been through the same ordeal.

Each woman featured in the book has had to make difficult choices in order to move ahead with her life. For Diane Sundancer it was a tough choice to leave her husband after years of marriage. Devastating health issues forced her to re-examine her priorities and make the call to move on.

A mother, Marj Lawrence, tells of how she had to fight the medical and education systems to protect her daughter’s unique needs and personality.

Sharon Williams tells how she coped with her husband after he became a paraplegic. The same month he was injured in an accident she discovered she was pregnant. She tells of their roller-coaster marriage and how commitment saved the day when times were tough.

Another woman, Lisa Krog, tells of her grief and struggle to get her domestic worker treatment for Aids and cancer. Initially reluctant to take on a domestic worker, Krog came to cherish her helper like a sister.

Their stories reveal the many sides of women — striving, caring, nurturing and succeeding.

• If you would like to buy a copy of the book e-mail info@miracle women.co.za




DAVE Metzler believes the one strength that women have over men is their ability to communicate and reach out to each other. He believes this ability can be used to create enormous social changes in our country.

“If a woman is in hospital, her friends rally around and make the sick woman’s family dinner and pick up the kids and make sure she gets flowers.

“Often her husband is taken care of by the friends. I would like to encourage women in each town or suburb to form miracle circles to help each other out when there is a crisis.”

Metzler says that these miracle circles can also discuss issues relating to women and even pressurise men when it comes to voting for women candidates and relevant issues about women and children.

“The problem is that women do not have a united voice when it comes to politics. By nature women are not political creatures but they can use their collective wills to good effect.”

Metzler is formulating a plan with some of the book’s contributors to establish these circles.

• For more information contact: 074 712 2852

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