FOLLOWING the tragic and brutal murder last week of Gabisile Nkosi, many tributes have been paid to the 34-year-old artist and printmaker who was also the programme manager and community co-ordinator at the Caversham Centre. Nkosi was shot in the head by a former boyfriend who broke into her Lidgetton home. After killing her, he shot himself. Nkosi leaves her 13-year-old son, Sandile. Another close friend, Vulindlela Nyoni from the Centre for Visual Art on the local university campus, had this to say: “We were all devastated by the loss of Gabisile. Again we are reminded of the scourge that is male violence against women in this country. Gabi died at the hands of a man with a gun and it is we men who should be ashamed of the example this one man, among many others, has made true in our lives. Our society’s obsession with patriarchal and phallocentric power is a dead-end road. It leads to violence and death, and it is usually the death of people who are pure in heart, like Gabisile.